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HOW TO BE GAY AT WORK

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WHAT IT’S LIKE BEG THE ONLY GAY MAN THE OFFICE

"Gay Wch Hunt" is the first episo of the third season of The Office and the 29th overall. It was wrten by Greg Daniels and directed by Ken Kwapis. It first aired on September 21, 2006. It was viewed by 9.1 ln people. No longer a temp, Ryan accepts the sal posn vated when Jim... * gay at the office *

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WHY "THE OFFICE" STILL HAS ONE OF TELEVISN'S BT GAY {FONT:NORMAL 800 1.2REM/1.2 "D BOLD",SANS-SERIF;TEXT-TRANSFORM:NORMAL;LOR:HER;DISPLAY:LE-BLOCK;PADDG-BOTTOM:6PX;POSN:RELATIVE;TEXT-TRANSFORM:UPPERSE;}{BACKGROUND:#89308A;BOTTOM:0;NTENT:'';DISPLAY:BLOCK;HEIGHT:2PX;LEFT:0;POSN:ABSOLUTE;RIGHT:0;-WEBK-TRANSN:ALL 0.2S EASE;TRANSN:ALL 0.2S EASE;WIDTH:100%;}{LEFT:51%;RIGHT:51%;WIDTH:0;}{FONT:NORMAL 800 1.2REM/1.2 "D BOLD",SANS-SERIF;TEXT-TRANSFORM:NORMAL;LOR:HER;DISPLAY:LE-BLOCK;PADDG-BOTTOM:6PX;POSN:RELATIVE;TEXT-TRANSFORM:UPPERSE;}{BACKGROUND:#89308A;BOTTOM:0;NTENT:'';DISPLAY:BLOCK;HEIGHT:2PX;LEFT:0;POSN:ABSOLUTE;RIGHT:0;-WEBK-TRANSN:ALL 0.2S EASE;TRANSN:ALL 0.2S EASE;WIDTH:100%;}{LEFT:51%;RIGHT:51%;WIDTH:0;}CULTUREBY MARK BLANKENSHIPMAY 9, 2013/6:25 AMBY MARK BLANKENSHIPMAY 9, 2013 / 6:25 AM{"@NTEXT":","@TYPE":"NEWSARTICLE","HEADLE":"WHY \"THE OFFICE\" STILL HAS ONE OF TELEVISN'S BT GAY CHARACTERS","DATEPUBLISHED":"2013-05-09T10:25:36.000+0000","DATEMODIFIED":"2013-05-09T10:25:36.000+0000","IMAGE":{"@NTEXT":","@TYPE":"IMAGEOBJECT","WIDTH":1920,"HEIGHT":1080},"URL":","THOR":{"@TYPE":"ORGANIZATN","NAME":"LOGO TV"},"MAENTYOFPAGE":{"@TYPE":"WEBPAGE","@ID":"},"PUBLISHER":{"@TYPE":"ORGANIZATN","@ID":","NAME":"LOGO TV","URL":","LOGO":{"@TYPE":"IMAGEOBJECT"}},"CREATOR":"MARK BLANKENSHIP","ARTICLESECTN":"CULTURE"}{BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}[PTN ID="ATTACHMENT_99317" ALIGN="ALIGNCENTER" WIDTH="601"] OSR WORTHY (NBC)[/PTN]{BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}TONIGHT IS THE SEND-TO-LAST EPISO OF THE OFFICE BEFORE NBC'S LONG-NNG S ABOUT FOLKS SELLG PAPER SCRANTON, ENDS FOR GOOD ON MAY 16. WHICH MEANS THERE ARE ONLY A FEW MORE CHANC TO SPEND TIME WH OSR MARTEZ, ONE OF THE MOST TERTG GAY CHARACTERS ON {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}OSR (PLAYED MASTERFULLY BY STRAIGHT ACTOR OSR NUNEZ) GOT A LOT OF BUZZ BACK 2006, WHEN HE ME OUT THE SEASON 3 EPISO "GAY WCH HUNT." AT THE TIME, HE WAS ONE OF THE ONLY OPENLY GAY CHARACTERS ON WORK TV. (THE EP EVEN EARNED SHOWNNER GREG DANIELS AN EMMY.){BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}THGS HAVE CHANGED SCE THEN, OF URSE: NOW THERE ARE GAY CHARACTERS APPEARG REGULARLY ON THE NEW NORMAL, MORN FAY, GO ON AND GLEE–NOT TO MENTN BLE SERI LIKE TE BLOOD, NURSE JACKIE, AND AMERIN HORROR STORY. 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SCE ANGELA WORKED TWO FEET AWAY, THAT CREATED ALL SORTS OF CRACKLG DRAMA–AND NERVO LGHS WHEN OSR ACCINTALLY AGREED WH ANGELA'S ASSSMENT OF THE SENATOR'S MORNGTIME {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}{BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}EVENTUALLY, THOUGH, THE AFFAIR WAS MENTNED A PROMO FOR THE DOCUMENTARY THE STAFF IS BEG FEATURED , WHICH PROMPTED SENATOR ROBERT TO E OUT AND REVEAL HIS LOVE FOR ANOTHER MAN. NOT OSR–ANOTHER DU {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}WHOOPS {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}IN LAST WEEK'S EPISO, "LIVG THE DREAM," ANGELA'S ENTIRE LIFE WAS FALLG APART–THE ERNMENT EVEN TOOK HER TS!–PROMPTG  OSR TO VE HER TO STAY WH HIM FOR A {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}SUDNLY, THE MAN WHO WAS CHEATG WH A WOMAN'S HBAND WAS EXTENDG HIS HAND TO HER IENDSHIP. I LOVE THIS STORYLE NOT ONLY BEE 'S MEATY, BUT BEE 'S NOT SPECIFILLY ABOUT OSR BEG GAY. WELL, OKAY, HIS SEXUALY MA THE AFFAIR WH ANGELA'S HBAND POSSIBLE. BUT THE STORYLE ISN'T ABOUT BULLYG OR MARRIAGE EQUALY. IT'S NOT ABOUT BIG GAY THEM. IT'S ABOUT OSR'S RELATNSHIP TO ANGELA–HIS KDNS, GUILT AND {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}AND WAS JT ONE OF THE TERTG THGS THAT HAPPENED ON THE EPISO: ANDY QU, JIM AND PAM MA MAJOR RELATNSHIP CISNS, AND DWIGHT GOT PROMOTED TO BRANCH MANAGER. OSR AND ANGELA WERE FOLD TO THE LARGER MUNY OF {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}IN OTHER WORDS, OSR IS ALLOWED TO BE PART OF THE LARGER TAPTRY. THERE ARE ALSO PLENTY OF EPISOS WHERE HIS SEXUALY DON'T GET MENTNED AT ALL. THAT'S SOMETHG TO CHEER: ON THE OFFICE, BEG GAY IS UN-SPECIAL ENOUGH THAT WE N FET ABOUT ENTIRELY SOMETIM. BUT 'S ALSO ACKNOWLEDGED ENOUGH THAT GETS TREATED WH PTH AND SENSIVELY WHEN IS THE CENTER OF {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}I'LL BE TERTED TO SEE WHAT HAPPENS TO OSR THE NEXT TWO WEEKS: I HOPE HE FDS A BOYIEND. I HOPE HE NNECTS WH THE RT OF THE STAFF AT DUNR-MUFFL AN TERTG WAY. AND I HOPE GETS REMEMBERED FONDLY AFTER THE SHOW GO OFF THE {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;} {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}MARK BLANKENSHIP HAS NEVER DATED A SENATOR. HE TWEETS AS @{BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;CLEAR:BOTH;}{BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;MARG:0 TO;WIDTH:90%;M-WIDTH:288PX;MAX-WIDTH:1440PX;M-HEIGHT:194PX;}LATT NEWS

UC soclogy rearch unvers the hierarchil strategi gay men e to manage their genr and sexual inti the workplace. * gay at the office *

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GAY WCH HUNT

When I was stgglg to e out at school, nothg ma me more nervo than an olr gay stunt boastg about his wild sexual pas that weekend.

Jt grabbg happy hour drks every uple of weeks wh the other workplace gays n be a galvanizg experience. It's also a great place to bch about (and brastorm solutns to) any heteronormative pany-wi 't put up wh low-key homophobic languageIn 2018, most of are lucky enough not to work wh outright bigots.

It was clear that I had reached a breakg pot: Although I had e out as a gay man to iends and fay years earlier, I was walkg right back to the closet and lockg my te inty away every day om 9 a. One inty was that of an openly gay man, eply love wh his boyiend, bnch, and Beyoncé.

THE OFFICE’S GAY CARITURE

That inty, the actualized versn of a gay man I had always hoped to bee and fally did, never entered the workplace, however.

I was hired by a startup s early stag, and quickly learned two thgs my first week: I was the first and only openly gay man hired by the pany, and the all-male management had no ia I wasn’t sexually terted women.

I didn’t know at the time, but I wasn’t alone worryg about standg out for the wrong reasons as the only gay man the office. I wasn’t worried about havg supportive lleagu or LGBTQ peers: I was hell-bent on extractg everythg I uld get out of this opportuny for my reer, even if turned out I was once aga the only openly gay man the office. I was workg the largt edorial team I had ever been a part of New York Cy, at one of the olst news magaz the natn, and yet I was the only openly gay man at the publitn’s headquarters (only one other gay man was employed by the pany at the time, and worked remotely a part-time posn).

HOW GAY MEN NAVIGATE THE CORPORATE WORLD

Which means there are only a few more chanc to spend time wh Osr Martez, one of the most tertg gay characters on (played masterfully by straight actor Osr Nunez) got a lot of buzz back 2006, when he me out the Season 3 episo "Gay Wch Hunt.

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