The pros and ns of tergeneratnal gay relatnships - HomoCulture

Contents:

• MY EXPERIENCE AS PART OF A GAY TERGENERATNAL RELATNSHIP
• I’M 35 AND MY BT IEND IS 64. HERE’S WHY OUR AGE DIFFERENCE AS GAY MEN IS A GIFT
• AGE DIFFERENC GAY COUPL
• THE PROS AND NS OF TERGENERATNAL GAY RELATNSHIPS
• THE TERGENERATNAL RELATNSHIPS OF GAY MEN AND LBIAN WOMEN
• A TYPOLOGY OF INTERGENERATNAL RELATNSHIPS BETWEEN TAIWANE GAY AND BISEXUAL MEN AND THEIR PARENTS: NEGOTIATG OUTNS AND CO-RINCE CHE FAI
• GAY GRANDFATHERS: INTERGENERATNAL RELATNSHIPS AND MENTAL HEALTH
• THE INTERGENERATNAL RELATNSHIPS OF GAY MEN AND LBIAN WOMEN

MY EXPERIENCE AS PART OF A GAY TERGENERATNAL RELATNSHIP

He would be taller wh dark hair and mascule featur, but no more than five years my did I know, I'd bee part of a very popular relatnship trend the gay muny and was only perpetuatg s stigma. I was ved by some new acquatanc to stay at his beach hoe Fire Island P, a sandbar off the ast of Long Island that sce the 1950s has been a storied enclave for the LGBTQ muny of Gay Gotham.

I’M 35 AND MY BT IEND IS 64. HERE’S WHY OUR AGE DIFFERENCE AS GAY MEN IS A GIFT

I asked Gil about this and he said there are numero benefs to beg iends wh younger gays like me — for starters, we keep him on top of all the ways the world has changed when to technology and social teractn. Many quiri I have received over and over aga through the years beg somethg like this: “I've always liked olr men, but many gay iends close to my age are cril of me and spic of my motiv.

Inially, I was unnvced the relatnships were ser, but that was bee I held stereotypil views: an olr gay man who was lookg for a trophy-mate and has the money to take re of his boy toy and a younger man who was lookg for a sugar daddy.

Based on the number of tim this qutn drops to my mailbox, the reasons for the age-discrepant attractns nsum a great al of bandwidth the thoughts of a lot of young gay and bisexual men. Was pletg his doctoral dissertatn, “May-December: Navigatg Life as an Intergeneratnal Gay Couple, ” he thoroughly rearched what proved to be the limed available lerature on tergeneratnal upl. However, gay men bear particular layers of ntempt for havg them bee triggers the meang stereotyp that gay men eher rec children or are predatory child molters, even though rearch clearly shows that gay men are no more likely to do so than their straight unterparts.

AGE DIFFERENC GAY COUPL

Bigotry Begets Bigotry Common negative stereotyp for younger gay adults age-gap relatnships clu that they: have daddy issu, are subservient, needy, poor, flaky, immature and for the money and/or stat gas. Make sure loved on aren’t ncerned for you based on unhealthy characteristics your relatnship, not based on age differenc, that need to change and/or sure to spend enough time dited to enjoyg your relatnship and all that has to a therapist traed dog gay upl work and wh tergeneratnal relatnships if you need extra article was first published  The FIGHT Magaze, Augt 2015:​. The prsure is even more tense among gay and bisexual men bee sons are expected to take on greater filial rponsibily than dghters patriarchal Che culture (Wen & Zheng, 2020; Zhan & Montgomery, 2003).

In light of the salience of adult child-parent relatnships for Che gay and bisexual men (Shao et al., 2018), more rearch g a culturally sensive lens to unrstand tergeneratnal relatnships and explore their implitns for gay and bisexual men’s liv is study rpond to this need by llectg data om Taiwane gay and bisexual men. Although a typology provis an stment to illtrate livg arrangements and enabl vtigatns to their functns and implitns, this type of rearch has not yet been extend to Che gay and bisexual men. Buildg on prev work (Silverste & Bengtson, 1997; Sturge-Apple et al., 2010), this study sought to velop a tentative typology where parental knowledge about their child’s sexual orientatn and -rince stat together nstute a distctive fay environment that shap Taiwane gay and bisexual men’s perceived qualy of life and mental is an associative dimensn that reflects the typ and amount of ntact between a child and their parents (Stebach, 2012).

THE PROS AND NS OF TERGENERATNAL GAY RELATNSHIPS

Given that physil separatn sometim alters fay dynamics and is implited the differentiatn of the self sexual mory offsprg, -rince wh parents is prumed to be a ccial arrangement gay and bisexual men’s daily liv. As such, the subscriptn to filial piety uld tensify the inty stggle experienced by Taiwane gay and bisexual men (Huang et al., 2020) and plite the path of livg openly wh genred nature of filial piety also impos greater filial obligatns on sons than dghters (Zhan & Montgomery, 2003).

THE TERGENERATNAL RELATNSHIPS OF GAY MEN AND LBIAN WOMEN

This is evinced by Wen and Zheng’s (2020) recent study showg that genr signifintly morated the associatn between culture-specific ternal strsors and maral tentn, such that filial piety was more strongly related to maral tentn among gay men than om the culture-specific ternal strsors (i. LaSala (2000) also nsired g out to parents as an important velopmental task for gay men and a necsary precursor to the tablishment of functnal tergeneratnal boundari that n protect them om negative parental fluence while still enablg them to receive tergeneratnal support when is available. Based on this le of rearch, is hypothized that gay and bisexual men who are out but do not live wh their parents would report higher levels of life satisfactn, whereas those who are closeted and lived wh their parents would report lower levels of life satisfactn.

Earlier rearch also dit that ternal strsors such as filial piety and ternalized homophobia are related to mental health and qualy of life among sexual mory people (Xu, Zheng, Xu & Zheng2017; Zheng et al., 2020), but their associatn wh psychosocial adjtment may vary as a functn of tergeneratnal relatnships (Heathergton & Lavner, 2008). In particular, the adverse effects of ternal strsors uld be elevated among gay and bisexual men who live wh their parents to whom they are not yet out bee they are more likely to experience parental prsure their day-to-day teractn to engage heterosexual romantic relatnships, marry, and have children (Xu et al., 2017; Zheng et al., 2020).

A TYPOLOGY OF INTERGENERATNAL RELATNSHIPS BETWEEN TAIWANE GAY AND BISEXUAL MEN AND THEIR PARENTS: NEGOTIATG OUTNS AND CO-RINCE CHE FAI

” Our study specifilly foced on gay and bisexual men bee this populatn experienc tremendo fay strs rultg om filial piety and rponsibili Che culture (Liu et al., 2021; Wen & Zheng, 2020).

Table 2 shows the factor loadgs of the factor analysis and the rrected em-total rrelatns for each 2 Factor loadgs of factor analysis and rrected em-total rrelatn of the Contemporary Filial Piety SleFull size tableInternalized Homophobia. The Internalized Homophobia Sle (Ren & Hood, 2018) nsists of eleven ems measurg the extent to which gay and bisexual men ternalize and endorse negative beliefs and attus regardg their sexual inty.

GAY GRANDFATHERS: INTERGENERATNAL RELATNSHIPS AND MENTAL HEALTH

AnalysisDcriptive statistics were performed to timate the prevalence of outns to, and -rince wh, parents among gay and bisexual adult children, as classified by the typology of tergeneratnal relatnships. Analysis of variance (ANCOVA) was nducted to terme if there were signifint differenc filial piety, ternalized homophobia, and life satisfactn between gay and bisexual adult children as functns of tergeneratnal relatnships, adjtg for mographic variabl. An omnib tt of teractn between the pennt variable (filial piety and ternalized homophobia) and the morator (typology of tergeneratnal relatnships) was puted and provid the form of an F-rat.

36) Differenc Filial Piety, Internalized Homophobia, and Life SatisfactnANCOVA was nducted to pare the levels of filial piety, ternalized homophobia, and life satisfactn between rponnts wh different tergeneratnal relatnships, ntrollg for mographic variabl (tn level, employment stat, monthly e level, and relig affiliatn). Post hoc tts g the Bonferroni rrectn revealed that rponnts who were closeted and livg wh parent(s) and those who were closeted and not livg wh parents showed signifintly higher levels of ternalized homophobia pared wh those who were out to their parent(s) (ps < 0. No signifint differenc filial piety or life satisfactn were evint any of the groups (see Table 3) 3 Comparison of the levels of filial piety, ternalized homophobia, and life satisfactn between gay and bisexual men wh different tergeneratnal relatnshipsFull size tableIn the early middle-aged adult sample, there were signifint differenc filial piety (pragmatic obligatns) (F (3, 360) = 4.

Only one-third of gay and bisexual men dited that one or both of their parent(s) knew about their sexual orientatn, and their outns rate was much lower than that reported by Whe and Stephenson (2014) which nearly 90% of gay and bisexual men the USA were out to their fay. The analytil amework mak a novel ntributn to sexualy rearch by differentiatg four tegori of adult child-parent relatnships among gay and bisexual men: (1) out and livg wh parent(s), (2) out but not livg wh parent(s), (3) closeted and livg wh parent(s), and (4) closeted and not livg wh parent(s).

THE INTERGENERATNAL RELATNSHIPS OF GAY MEN AND LBIAN WOMEN

The fdgs add to the growg body of lerature unrsrg the importance of adult child-parent relatnships (Silverste & Bengtson, 1997; Sturge-Apple et al., 2010) fluencg psychosocial adjtment and life satisfactn among gay and bisexual men the Che faial study also highlights the importance of the life-urse perspective unrstandg the experience of gay and bisexual adult children and how they negotiate their faial rol and rponsibili.

Among early middle-aged adults, gay and bisexual men who were closeted and lived wh parent(s) were found to be psychologilly vulnerable sce they endorsed signifintly higher levels of ternalized homophobia and felt strong obligatns to support their agg parents (Hu & Wang, 2013). G., offerg hog and material support when their elrly parents are no longer enomilly active (Zhan & Montgomery, 2003) importantly, the rults show that early middle-aged gay and bisexual men who were closeted and lived wh parent(s) reported the lowt level of life satisfactn of the four groups.

Their qualy of life was unrmed bee they were expected to be enomilly pennt after the age of 30 but the fact that they were obligated to live their parents, who belonged to an olr generatn wh lower acceptance of homosexualy, rced their willgns to e out and hence reported lower life satisfactn (Elizur & Ziv, 2001). Sce this group of gay and bisexual men is at greater risk of poor psychologil adjtment and impaired qualy of life, targeted terventns should be signed to addrs their culture- and sexual inty-specific strsors and improve their experienc of pg wh fay.