Whether you're gay or straight, some people jt choose to stay sgle. However, their choice may not be for the right reasons. Jo expert Rick Clemons as he lists 20 hilar reasons why gay men choose the sgle life over fdg love, directly om onle social media groups.
Contents:
- HOW TO COPE WHEN YOU'RE GAY AND LONELY
- A GAY MAN AT MIDLIFE PONRS BEG LONELY AND ‘INVISIBLE’
- IS LONELS THE GAY MAN’S CURSE, OR A PRODUCT OF 21ST CENTURY LIFE?
- 5 REASONS IT’S GOOD TO BE GAY AND SGLE
- 20 HONT REASONS GAY MEN STAY SGLE (ON PURPOSE)
HOW TO COPE WHEN YOU'RE GAY AND LONELY
Advice on how to nont ageism the gay muny spe earlier loss and how to avoid beg alone. * gay and alone *
Part of realizg you're gay, or bi, or trans, or non-bary, or anythg other than cisgenr and heterosexual is acceptg you’re different—and somewhat separated—om the majory.
A GAY MAN AT MIDLIFE PONRS BEG LONELY AND ‘INVISIBLE’
I know ’s not jt our muny, but ’s creasgly mon for gay men to feel isolated and alone. * gay and alone *
Here he shar his journey to overe the sense of isolatn he felt growg up gay a small U. At the time, there were no real gay role mols except for Graham Norton and Jack om Dawson's Creek—and I certaly didn't intify wh him bee I wasn't a football player.
I felt like I was pletely on my rried on until I was 16, when I started gog out to gay bars my hometown. For the first time I've been able to form a good group of gay iends and create my own support work. I'd go on gay chatrooms but that was jt a facels nversatn wh someone who uld have been anyone.
I thk if I'd had iends who were gay when I was growg up, my life would have been so different. I now know there were other kids at my school who were gay, but they didn't e out till much later.
IS LONELS THE GAY MAN’S CURSE, OR A PRODUCT OF 21ST CENTURY LIFE?
* gay and alone *
In our lifetime, the gay muny has ma more progrs on legal and social acceptance than any other mographic group history. As recently as my own adolcence, gay marriage was a distant aspiratn, somethg newspapers still put sre quot.
5 REASONS IT’S GOOD TO BE GAY AND SGLE
Still, even as we celebrate the sle and speed of this change, the rat of prsn, lonels and substance abe the gay muny rema stuck the same place they’ve been for s. Gay people are now, pendg on the study, between 2 and 10 tim more likely than straight people to take their own liv.
In a survey of gay men who recently arrived New York Cy, three-quarters suffered om anxiety or prsn, abed dgs or alhol or were havg risky sex—or some batn of the three. Dpe all the talk of our “chosen fai, ” gay men have fewer close iends than straight people or gay women.
“Marriage equaly and the chang legal stat were an improvement for some gay men, ” says Christopher Stults, a rearcher at New York Universy who studi the differenc mental health between gay and straight men. In the Netherlands, where gay marriage has been legal sce 2001, gay men rema three tim more likely to suffer om a mood disorr than straight men, and 10 tim more likely to engage “suicidal self-harm. TTravis Salway, a rearcher wh the BC Centre for Disease Control Vanuver, has spent the last five years tryg to figure out why gay men keep killg themselv.
20 HONT REASONS GAY MEN STAY SGLE (ON PURPOSE)
“But now you’ve got lns of gay men who have e out of the closet and they still feel the same isolatn.
By the late 2000s, he was a social worker and epimlogist and, like me, was stck by the growg distance between his straight and gay iends. He started to wonr if the story he had always heard about gay men and mental health was plete.