More and more, we hear about athlet g out of the closet — and to gym locker rooms. Expert Rick Clemons tackl mon fears straight men have about sharg locker rooms wh gay men and explas why those fears are pletely unfound.
Contents:
- I WAS OPENLY GAY ON MY HIGH SCHOOL TEAM AND HEARD SLURS ALL THE TIME
- THE LOCKER ROOM ENUNTER (DIRTYHUNK GAY SEX STORI)
- IS HE CHECKG ME OUT? WHAT GAY MEN THK IN THE LOCKER ROOM
I WAS OPENLY GAY ON MY HIGH SCHOOL TEAM AND HEARD SLURS ALL THE TIME
In this example, you happened to see him naked a settg that n be sexually arog for a lot of gay man. Jt as you didn’t choose to be gay and have the feelgs you have.
Summer mp my sophomore year, after ach left, Varsy guys held wrtlg match to terme who got the remag lockers the big varsy room. I don’t thk they are gay, eher. I see hts of ternalized homophobia that le, and I thk he’d be a lot more fortable if he alt wh .
Rich: Jane Ward’s 2015 book Not Gay kicked off a lot of disurse about “straight” guys who engage “gay” sex, and I thk did a real disservice to nuance by beg totally crlo of self-labelg.
THE LOCKER ROOM ENUNTER (DIRTYHUNK GAY SEX STORI)
Given the societal prsure to be straight and the history of closeted gay, bi, and queer men sayg one thg and dog another, I don’t necsarily thk we need to take people at their word when they say they’re straight and do thgs that suggt otherwise.
I thk what happens is people say, to themselv, “Well, gay/bi/queer people are like this. Do you go to particularly gay gyms?
From Slate’s piece on them: “The rults of ‘Is mutual masturbatn gay? ’ were 465 to 100 that mutual masturbatn is not gay. As not gay as may be, ’s also not not gay.
IS HE CHECKG ME OUT? WHAT GAY MEN THK IN THE LOCKER ROOM
I’ve heard spoken my prence as a closeted gay man, been lled as a closeted gay man, and even been provoked by the word as an openly gay man. When that word was spoken my prence as an openly gay stunt the high school locker room, my water polo teammat would pse, realize what they said, and slowly look at me to see if I was offend.
I’m still not sure what ma them more ignorant -- the fact that they were g the word or the fact that they were g the word ont of an openly gay teammate.