Internatnal OCD Foundatn | How Do I Know I’m Not Really Gay/Straight?

Contents:

• 'HOMOSEXUAL OCD': STRAIGHT MEN WHO SPECT THEY ARE GAY
• HOW DO I KNOW I’M NOT REALLY GAY/STRAIGHT?
• DESANTIS CAMPAIGN FAC BACKLASH AFTER PROMOTG UNHGED ANTI-LGBTQ ADLOG CAB REPUBLINS LLED THE AD “DIVISIVE AND SPERATE.”BY JACK MCCORDICKJULY 2, 2023FLORIDA GOVERNOR RON DESANTISJOE RAEDLE/GETTY IMAGSAVE THIS STORYSAVESAVE THIS STORYSAVEFLORIDA GOVERNOR RON DESANTIS’S PRINTIAL MPAIGN SHARED A BIZARRE, MEME-FILLED VIO FRIDAY CELEBRATG THE ERNOR’S ANTI-LGBTQ RERD AND ATTACKG DONALD TMP’S 2016 PLEDGE TO “DO EVERYTHG MY POWER TO PROTECT OUR LGBTQ CIZENS.” THE VIO, WHICH WAS POSTED BY THE DESANTIS WAR ROOM ACUNT AND AMPLIFIED BY DESANTIS FLUENCERS, HAS BEEN WILY NMNED AS HOMOPHOBIC, EVEN BY SOME REPUBLINS.THE VIO OPENS WH A STRG OF CLIPS OF TMP MAKG POSIVE MENTS ABOUT THE LGBTQ MUNY, CLUDG ONE THAT ME THE WAKE OF THE PULSE NIGHTCLUB MASSACRE 2016, WHICH TOOK PLACE DESANTIS’S HOME STATE. "TO WRAP UP PRI MONTH, LET'S HEAR OM THE POLICIAN WHO DID MORE THAN ANY OTHER REPUBLIN TO CELEBRATE ,” THE VIO IS PTNED, SEEMGLY REFERRG TO TMP. THEN THE TONE SHIFTS TO THUMPG, DARK MIC AND JUXTAPOS PICTUR OF DESANTIS—CLUDG ONE WH LASERS SHOOTG OUT OF HIS EY—WH IMAG OF BODYBUILRS AND POP CULTURE REFERENC, CLUDG CHRISTIAN BALE’S PATRICK BATEMAN (AMERIN PSYCHO) AND BRAD PT’S ACHILL (300). THE IMAG ARE MIXED WH HEADL AND D CRYG DESANTIS’S LEGISLATIVE ATTACKS ON LGBTQ PEOPLE, CLUDG ONE CLAIMG THE LAWS “LERALLY THREATEN TRANS EXISTENCE.”THE VIO WAS WILY CRICIZED, CLUDG BY SOME REPUBLINS. RICHARD GRENELL, WHO SERVED AS TMP’S ACTG DIRECTOR OF NATNAL INTELLIGENCE AND IS THE UNTRY’S FIRST OPENLY GAY BET MEMBER, SCRIBED THE VIO AS “UNNIABLY HOMOPHOBIC.” LOG CAB REPUBLINS, A LARGE, PRO-LGBTQ GOP GROUP, LLED THE AD “DIVISIVE AND SPERATE” AND SAID “VENTURED TO HOMOPHOBIC TERRORY.” AND SARAH LONGWELL, A MORATE REPUBLIN STRATEGIST, WROTE ON TWTER THAT “THE NSULTANTS WHO THK THIS KD OF ‘NNG TO TMP’S RIGHT’ IS GOG TO BE EFFECTIVE SHOULD BE SACKED.”SEVERAL MENTATORS NOTED SATURDAY THAT THE AD’S TONE AND NTENT REFLECTED DESANTIS’S MPAIGN’S URTG OF THE OBSSNS OF YOUNG, VERY ONLE RIGHT-WGERS, CLUDG THE SO-LLED GROYPERS, LED BY WHE NATNALIST AND HOLOT NIER NICHOLAS FUENT. “IT'S AN AD MA BY GROYPERS FOR GROYPERS WH ALL SORTS OF WEIRD LTLE SHOUTOUTS (PATRICK BATEMAN, 300),” WROTE THE NATN’S JEET HEER.THE VIO WAS SHARED BY NATE HOCHMAN, A FORMER NATNAL REVIEW WRER, AND MEMBER OF DESANTIS’S MUNITNS TEAM, WHO MA HEADL LAST YEAR AFTER HE PARTICIPATED A TWTER SPAC TALK WH FUENT AND PRAISED HIM FOR GETTG “A LOT OF KIDS ‘BASED’.” IT WAS ALSO PROMOTED BY PEDRO GONZALEZ, A PRO-DESANTIS FLUENCER AND MAGAZE EDOR WHOSE WORK HAS BEEN AMPLIFIED BY NUMERO MEMBERS OF THE DESANTIS MPAIGN. GONZALEZ WAS THE SUBJECT LAST TUDAY OF A MAJOR PROFILE (OF ALL PLAC) BREBART, WHICH PUBLISHED A SERI OF RACIST AND ANTISEMIC TEXTS GONZALEZ ALLEGEDLY SENT LEAKED GROUP CHATS. IN ONE, GONZALEZ CLAIMED HE WAS “TAKG UP ARMS WH THE GROYPERS.” FOLLOWG THE EXPOSé, ROLLG STONE REPORTED THAT MANY PRO-DESANTIS FLUENCERS WERE “QUICK TO RALLY” BEHD GONZALEZ.SECRETARY OF TRANSPORTATN PETE BUTTIGIEG, THE FIRST OPENLY GAY BET MEMBER EVER NFIRMED BY THE SENATE (GRENELL DID NOT GO THROUGH SENATE NFIRMATN), RPOND TO THE VIO ON SUNDAY MORNG. “I’M GOG TO LEAVE ASI THE STRANGENS OF TRYG TO PROVE YOUR MANHOOD BY PUTTG UP A VIO THAT SPLIC IMAG OF YOU BETWEEN OILED-UP, SHIRTLS BODYBUILRS,” BUTTIGIEG SAID ON CNN. IN A TWEET, BUTTEGIEG’S HBAND, GAY RIGHTS ACTIVIST CHASTEN GLEZMAN BUTTIGIEG, JOKED THAT THE AD WAS “ACTUALLY VERY GAY.”“I JT DON’T UNRSTAND THE MENTALY OF SOMEONE GETTG UP THE MORNG THKG HE’S TRYG TO PROVE HIS WORTH BY PETG OVER WHO N MAKE LIFE HARST FOR A HARD-H MUNY THAT IS ALREADY SO VULNERABLE AMERI,” THE TRANSPORTATN SECRETARY ADD.MORE GREAT STORI FROM VANY FAIRRILEY KEOUGH ON GROWG UP PRLEY, INHERG GRACELAND, AND MORETE CRIME, TE FAH: THE SERIAL KILLER AND THE TEXAS MOM WHO STOPPED HIMTHE TAN SUBMERSIBLE DISASTER WAS YEARS THE MAKG, NEW DETAILS REVEALWHY THE GEIA INDICTMENT AGAST TMP AND HIS ALLI IS THE MOST SWEEPG YETIVANKA TMP IS NOT LETTG HER DAD’S MOUNTG LEGAL WO RU HER SUMMER25 PERFECT TV EPISOS FROM THE LAST 25 YEARSA NEW SLIM AARONS BOOK CAPTUR A LOST WORLDFROM THE ARCHIVE: TOO HEPBURN FOR HOLLYWOOD (2006)MOST POPULARGEIA REPUBLINS SAY THEY'LL MOVE TO REMOVE FULTON COUNTY DA FANI WILLIS FROM OFFICE WH NEW STATE LAWBY ERIC LUTZMEGHAN MARKLE WILL BE JOG PRCE HARRY GERMANY FOR THE INVICT GAMBY ER VANRHOOFTHE TAN SUBMERSIBLE DISASTER WAS YEARS THE MAKG, NEW DETAILS REVEALBY SAN CASEYJACK MCCORDICK
• JAM FRAN EXPLAS HIS ‘GAY OBSSN’
• EDUTG GAY MALE YOUTH: SCE WHEN IS PORNOGRAPHY A PATH TOWARDS SELF-RPECT?
• THE GAY COMMUNY’S OBSSN WH STAT AND LOOKS HAS HUGE MENTAL HEALTH COSTS
• WHY BODY IMAGE ISSU PERVA THE GAY COMMUNY

'HOMOSEXUAL OCD': STRAIGHT MEN WHO SPECT THEY ARE GAY

In my practice, I sometim enunter men who are so obssively worried they may be gay or bisexual that tak up such a signifint amount of their daily life and thoughts and them nearly cripplg anxiety. ” He may worry that he appears to be gay if cross his legs at the knee like a woman when stg down rather than havg the typil “man spread.

HOW DO I KNOW I’M NOT REALLY GAY/STRAIGHT?

Like those wh Obssive-Compulsive Disorr (OCD), he may exhib the same kd of repet behavrs, such as stg and standg over and over aga to see if they may appear gay the way he do . This may sound like ’s a set-up for a joke, or an ongog lgh le a s, but is a real disorr that some have labeled as Homosexual Obssive-Compulsive Disorr (HOCD), though the Diagnostic and Statistil Manual of Mental Disorrs, the “bible” of psychiatry, has yet to regnize .

HOCD n sudnly occur for some men who, for example, fd themselv beg h on by other gay or bisexual men, mistaken for beg a gay or bisexual man, fd themselv attracted to another man or stumble onto gay porn that exc them. They will often blame the thgs as reasons for how the HOCD started, but isn’t about homosexualy nor bisexualy, is about OCD. In my own clil experience workg wh the men, those who suffer om this may fd themselv obssively lookg at porn, eher gay or straight, to see if they bee sexually exced by eher.

They might nstantly check out others’ reactns to their gtur or nversatn to see if they get any strange looks or other signals that would imply homophobia. They sometim will go to extreme lengths, such as havg sex wh men even though they are not gay or bisexual, which typilly leav them feelg unsatisfied and unfortable.

DESANTIS CAMPAIGN FAC BACKLASH AFTER PROMOTG UNHGED ANTI-LGBTQ ADLOG CAB REPUBLINS LLED THE AD “DIVISIVE AND SPERATE.”BY JACK MCCORDICKJULY 2, 2023FLORIDA GOVERNOR RON DESANTISJOE RAEDLE/GETTY IMAGSAVE THIS STORYSAVESAVE THIS STORYSAVEFLORIDA GOVERNOR RON DESANTIS’S PRINTIAL MPAIGN SHARED A BIZARRE, MEME-FILLED VIO FRIDAY CELEBRATG THE ERNOR’S ANTI-LGBTQ RERD AND ATTACKG DONALD TMP’S 2016 PLEDGE TO “DO EVERYTHG MY POWER TO PROTECT OUR LGBTQ CIZENS.” THE VIO, WHICH WAS POSTED BY THE DESANTIS WAR ROOM ACUNT AND AMPLIFIED BY DESANTIS FLUENCERS, HAS BEEN WILY NMNED AS HOMOPHOBIC, EVEN BY SOME REPUBLINS.THE VIO OPENS WH A STRG OF CLIPS OF TMP MAKG POSIVE MENTS ABOUT THE LGBTQ MUNY, CLUDG ONE THAT ME THE WAKE OF THE PULSE NIGHTCLUB MASSACRE 2016, WHICH TOOK PLACE DESANTIS’S HOME STATE. "TO WRAP UP PRI MONTH, LET'S HEAR OM THE POLICIAN WHO DID MORE THAN ANY OTHER REPUBLIN TO CELEBRATE ,” THE VIO IS PTNED, SEEMGLY REFERRG TO TMP. THEN THE TONE SHIFTS TO THUMPG, DARK MIC AND JUXTAPOS PICTUR OF DESANTIS—CLUDG ONE WH LASERS SHOOTG OUT OF HIS EY—WH IMAG OF BODYBUILRS AND POP CULTURE REFERENC, CLUDG CHRISTIAN BALE’S PATRICK BATEMAN (AMERIN PSYCHO) AND BRAD PT’S ACHILL (300). THE IMAG ARE MIXED WH HEADL AND D CRYG DESANTIS’S LEGISLATIVE ATTACKS ON LGBTQ PEOPLE, CLUDG ONE CLAIMG THE LAWS “LERALLY THREATEN TRANS EXISTENCE.”THE VIO WAS WILY CRICIZED, CLUDG BY SOME REPUBLINS. RICHARD GRENELL, WHO SERVED AS TMP’S ACTG DIRECTOR OF NATNAL INTELLIGENCE AND IS THE UNTRY’S FIRST OPENLY GAY BET MEMBER, SCRIBED THE VIO AS “UNNIABLY HOMOPHOBIC.” LOG CAB REPUBLINS, A LARGE, PRO-LGBTQ GOP GROUP, LLED THE AD “DIVISIVE AND SPERATE” AND SAID “VENTURED TO HOMOPHOBIC TERRORY.” AND SARAH LONGWELL, A MORATE REPUBLIN STRATEGIST, WROTE ON TWTER THAT “THE NSULTANTS WHO THK THIS KD OF ‘NNG TO TMP’S RIGHT’ IS GOG TO BE EFFECTIVE SHOULD BE SACKED.”SEVERAL MENTATORS NOTED SATURDAY THAT THE AD’S TONE AND NTENT REFLECTED DESANTIS’S MPAIGN’S URTG OF THE OBSSNS OF YOUNG, VERY ONLE RIGHT-WGERS, CLUDG THE SO-LLED GROYPERS, LED BY WHE NATNALIST AND HOLOT NIER NICHOLAS FUENT. “IT'S AN AD MA BY GROYPERS FOR GROYPERS WH ALL SORTS OF WEIRD LTLE SHOUTOUTS (PATRICK BATEMAN, 300),” WROTE THE NATN’S JEET HEER.THE VIO WAS SHARED BY NATE HOCHMAN, A FORMER NATNAL REVIEW WRER, AND MEMBER OF DESANTIS’S MUNITNS TEAM, WHO MA HEADL LAST YEAR AFTER HE PARTICIPATED A TWTER SPAC TALK WH FUENT AND PRAISED HIM FOR GETTG “A LOT OF KIDS ‘BASED’.” IT WAS ALSO PROMOTED BY PEDRO GONZALEZ, A PRO-DESANTIS FLUENCER AND MAGAZE EDOR WHOSE WORK HAS BEEN AMPLIFIED BY NUMERO MEMBERS OF THE DESANTIS MPAIGN. GONZALEZ WAS THE SUBJECT LAST TUDAY OF A MAJOR PROFILE (OF ALL PLAC) BREBART, WHICH PUBLISHED A SERI OF RACIST AND ANTISEMIC TEXTS GONZALEZ ALLEGEDLY SENT LEAKED GROUP CHATS. IN ONE, GONZALEZ CLAIMED HE WAS “TAKG UP ARMS WH THE GROYPERS.” FOLLOWG THE EXPOSé, ROLLG STONE REPORTED THAT MANY PRO-DESANTIS FLUENCERS WERE “QUICK TO RALLY” BEHD GONZALEZ.SECRETARY OF TRANSPORTATN PETE BUTTIGIEG, THE FIRST OPENLY GAY BET MEMBER EVER NFIRMED BY THE SENATE (GRENELL DID NOT GO THROUGH SENATE NFIRMATN), RPOND TO THE VIO ON SUNDAY MORNG. “I’M GOG TO LEAVE ASI THE STRANGENS OF TRYG TO PROVE YOUR MANHOOD BY PUTTG UP A VIO THAT SPLIC IMAG OF YOU BETWEEN OILED-UP, SHIRTLS BODYBUILRS,” BUTTIGIEG SAID ON CNN. IN A TWEET, BUTTEGIEG’S HBAND, GAY RIGHTS ACTIVIST CHASTEN GLEZMAN BUTTIGIEG, JOKED THAT THE AD WAS “ACTUALLY VERY GAY.”“I JT DON’T UNRSTAND THE MENTALY OF SOMEONE GETTG UP THE MORNG THKG HE’S TRYG TO PROVE HIS WORTH BY PETG OVER WHO N MAKE LIFE HARST FOR A HARD-H MUNY THAT IS ALREADY SO VULNERABLE AMERI,” THE TRANSPORTATN SECRETARY ADD.MORE GREAT STORI FROM VANY FAIRRILEY KEOUGH ON GROWG UP PRLEY, INHERG GRACELAND, AND MORETE CRIME, TE FAH: THE SERIAL KILLER AND THE TEXAS MOM WHO STOPPED HIMTHE TAN SUBMERSIBLE DISASTER WAS YEARS THE MAKG, NEW DETAILS REVEALWHY THE GEIA INDICTMENT AGAST TMP AND HIS ALLI IS THE MOST SWEEPG YETIVANKA TMP IS NOT LETTG HER DAD’S MOUNTG LEGAL WO RU HER SUMMER25 PERFECT TV EPISOS FROM THE LAST 25 YEARSA NEW SLIM AARONS BOOK CAPTUR A LOST WORLDFROM THE ARCHIVE: TOO HEPBURN FOR HOLLYWOOD (2006)MOST POPULARGEIA REPUBLINS SAY THEY'LL MOVE TO REMOVE FULTON COUNTY DA FANI WILLIS FROM OFFICE WH NEW STATE LAWBY ERIC LUTZMEGHAN MARKLE WILL BE JOG PRCE HARRY GERMANY FOR THE INVICT GAMBY ER VANRHOOFTHE TAN SUBMERSIBLE DISASTER WAS YEARS THE MAKG, NEW DETAILS REVEALBY SAN CASEYJACK MCCORDICK

Even though they have not been able to nfirm by their pulsive experimentatn that they are, ed, gay, they may even ask me to help them e out as gay or bisexual jt to end the sufferg. I am a specialist sexual orientatn and relatnships and not traed to al wh OCD, so I first mt set out to terme if they are simply closeted gay or bisexual men, or if there is somethg else gog on.

Closeted gay men are often vilently anti-gay, whereas HOCD men are not. Tly gay men jt say that they’re annoyed that women keep gettg their le of sight. Influenced by the heated atmosphere around sexual polics nowadays, and even the amount of media verage around LGBTQ issu, some gays argue that the g-out procs they went through much of the same nfn, and therefore believe that the HOCD person is simply experiencg the same thg.

Theirs is a particular kd of trouble, one that will not be rolved by “g out of the closet” bee they tly are not gay or bisexual. There are some clil therapists, such as Monni Williams, thor of Homosexual Anxiety: A Misunrstood Form of OCD Leadg Health Edutn Issu, who may help brg more a ser nversatn of this disorr to the theraptic world.

JAM FRAN EXPLAS HIS ‘GAY OBSSN’

24, 2014— -- Steven Brodsky, a psychologist who specializ obssive-pulsive disorr, says that at any one time he has a "handful" of clients who are straight and spect that they are gay. J., said he had one adult patient who was so crippled by obssive thoughts about beg gay that he was unable to live penntly and had to move back wh his parents to pe.

Brodsky said he termed his patient had OCD associated wh homosexualy. Brodsky said a prev therapist had misdiagnosed his patient as gay, and at the patient's requt, sent him off to reparative therapy, a ntroversial method that has not been proven to be effective and n be harmful.

EDUTG GAY MALE YOUTH: SCE WHEN IS PORNOGRAPHY A PATH TOWARDS SELF-RPECT?

Even though they know that they are 100 percent straight, not gay, they send gus . "I say, oh, that's tertg, how do you feel about beg gay and what n we do about that? "Brodsky argu that today's open acceptance of homosexualy and gay liftyl n bld therapists to this kd of anxiety disorr straight men.

Jack Drcher, a noted New York Cy psychiatrist who is nsired an expert gay and lbian mental health and treats patients for OCD, agreed that "beg worried that one might be gay is not the same thg as beg gay. ""A person wh OCD who has is havg tsive thoughts about whether or not he is gay, is not gay, the sense that he has not rporated a homosexual orientatn any mimally affirmg way to his inty, " said Drcher.

THE GAY COMMUNY’S OBSSN WH STAT AND LOOKS HAS HUGE MENTAL HEALTH COSTS

"Also, if he is not actually attracted to people of the same sex, do not masturbate to fantasi of people of the same sex, is not really aroed by same sex pornography, then is hard to make the se that he has a homosexual orientatn.

Another was heterosexual and feared he had agreed wh Brodsky that some therapists may miss an OCD diagnosis, but "the most likely e of that is not that they are too gay-affirmg but that they lack trag regnizg the symptoms of OCD. Brodsky said that a gay person has "pleasant associatn" wh same-sex attractn and a person wh OCD do not. "Repeatedly, anxly, reviewg past suatns, ttg themselv, askg for reassurance, pulsively rearchg the Inter for gay tts, ttg themselv wh gay porn or gay people.

WHY BODY IMAGE ISSU PERVA THE GAY COMMUNY

""Someone who is gay, but the closet, is not spendg time rearchg and ttg themselv, " he said. "Havg an obssn about beg gay is no different om any other mental obssn, said Brodsky. "A iend might say somethg and they thk, 'Gee, I uld be gay or I am dog somethg a gay person would do.

"The obssive thoughts are not rooted homophobia, acrdg to Brodsky.

"As for treatment, Brodsky said he would help a patient who was tly gay validate their feelgs and atta self-acceptance, "achievg lm and peace of md.