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When a child first out as eher beg gay or havg same-sex attractn their parents' ial rpons are ually the wrong on, says Chris Doyle, a psychotherapist who specializ SSA.

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INTY CRISIS; GAY CULTURE WEIGHS SENSE AND SEXUALY

Amerin gay telligentia openly bat role of promiscuy spread of AIDS even face of fears that such talk might fan flam of discrimatn; Larry Kramer and others urge gay muny to adopt a culture rooted as much art, lerature and relatnship as sex, but others, cludg Kendall Thomas and Michael Warner, llege profsors and founrs of Sex Panic, argue that promiscuo sex is the sence of gay liberatn and that any attempt to fight AIDS by changg that culture is doomed; photos (M) * gay identity crisis *

23, 1997See the article s origal ntext om November 23, 1997, Sectn 4, Page 1Buy ReprtsTimMache is an exclive benef for home livery and digal night last May, a handful of New York Cy's bt-known gay journalists, artists and amics lled together some iends to bemoan what they viewed as a backlash agast the sexual practic of homosexuals. The turnout surprised them: five dozen people jammed to an overheated swapped stori of police crackdowns on sex public rtrooms and closgs of gay diss and pubs. And they plaed about new books takg aim at what remas, even the AIDS era, a central feature of gay urban life: sex clubs, bathho and weekend-long dg parti where men may have terurse wh a dozen partners a night.

HOW CHRISTIAN PARENTS SHOULD RPOND TO THEIR CHILD'S GAY INTY CRISIS

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While ath rat have been clg, studi show that men who have sex wh men still acunt for the majory of AIDS s, and that a young gay man has as much as a 50 percent chance of acquirg H. As some homosexuals prs for same-sex marriage, adoptn and other forms of societal acceptance, welg Print Clton's addrs this month to a gay and lbian civil rights group (the first by a stg Print), others prott one si are those like Mr. Thomas and Michael Warner, an English profsor at Rutgers Universy and a founr of Sex Panic, who argue that promiscuo sex is the sence of gay liberatn, and that any attempt to fight AIDS by changg the culture is doomed.

''We want to resert sexual liberatn back our movement, '' said Tony Valenzuela, an actor gay pornographic films who anized Sex Panic's first natnal nference, held San Diego this month.

He says that while he do not believe that promiscuy is the sence of gay sexualy, he do believe, as the article stated, that any attempt to fight AIDS by monizgg the culture of sexual eedom is doomed.

SEXUAL ORIENTATN INTY DEVELOPMENT MILTON AMONG LBIAN, GAY, BISEXUAL, AND QUEER PEOPLE: A SYSTEMATIC REVIEW AND META-ANALYSIS

This paper is a systematic review and meta-analysis on sexual orientatn inty velopment ton among people who are lbian, gay, bisexual, or another sexual mory inty (LGB+). Common ton measured the 30 studi reviewed were beg aware of queer attractns, qutng one’s sexual orientatn, self-intifyg as LGB+, g out to others, engagg sexual activy, and iatg a romantic relatnship. Milton occurred different sequenc, although attractn was almost always first, often followed by self-intifitn and/or sexual activy; g out and iatg a romantic relatnship often followed the ton. Meta-analysis rults showed that the mean effect siz and 95% nfince tervals varied by tone: attractn [Mage=12.7 (10.1, 15.3)], qutng one’s orientatn [Mage=13.2 [12.8, 13.6]), self-intifyg [Mage=17.8 (11.6, 24.0)], sexual activy [Mage=18.1 (17.6, 18.6)], g out [Mage=19.6 (17.2, 22.0)], and romantic relatnship [Mage=20.9 (13.2, 28.6)]. Nohels, rults also showed substantial heterogeney the mean effect siz. Addnal meta-analys showed that tone timg varied by sex, sexual orientatn, race/ethnicy, and birth hort. Although patterns were found LGB+ inty velopment, there was nsirable diversy tone trajectori. * gay identity crisis *

And he says AIDS is spread by unsafe sex, not by multi-partner we handle rrectnsA versn of this article appears prt on, Sectn 4, Page 1 of the Natnal edn wh the headle: Inty Crisis; Gay Culture Weighs Sense and Sexualy. When a child first out to their parents as eher beg gay or havg same-sex attractn, their ial rpons are ually the wrong on, says Chris Doyle, a psychotherapist who specializ York Cy gay pri para crowd this undated photo. They believe that if you experience same-sex attractns, then you're gay, " Doyle told the negative rpons parents have, acrdg to Doyle, are avoidg the issue by barrg their child om talkg about SSA or their gay inty; believg that 's a passg phase; or threateng to kick their olr teen or 20-somethg child out of the hoe.

Adolcents experiencg same-sex attractn are creasgly fortable intifyg themselv as gay/lbian/bisexual. For at least a mory of the * gay identity crisis *

"We know, our clil rearch over the last 25 years, that fay culture, environment and other non-blogil factors play a signifint role the velopment of same-sex attractn, " he asserted, addg that parents shouldn't seek therapy as an attempt to change their the book, Gay Children, Straight Parents: A Plan for Fay Healg, wrten by Richard Cohen, executive director of IHF, Doyle said 12 prcipl are discsed to help fai navigate through SSA and s .

"Regardg sleepovers and big life events such as parents' attendg a child's same-sex weddg ceremony, Doyle suggted that parents treat their homosexual child the same as they would their heterosexual the se of sleepovers, parents should mata the same standards for every child and not allow their gay intified or SSA child to have somone they're attracted to spend the night wh them. "The same l should apply to heterosexual upl and homosexual upl, " he when down to attendg a child's gay weddg ceremony, Doyle suggted that attendg the ceremony don't necsarily reflect that the parents agree wh same-sex marriage, their prence merely shows their love for their child.

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