Why am I gay??

Contents:

• WHY AM I GAY? I HATE MYSELF.
• OVERG THE SHAME OF BEG GAY
• 'I WAS THREATENED WH BROKEN GLASS FOR BEG GAY'
• PERSECUTED FOR BEG GAY
• COULD I STOP BEG GAY?

WHY AM I GAY? I HATE MYSELF.

Hontly, sometim i wake up and absolutely hate myself for beg gay. 14 Ways To Defeat Your Fears of Beg Gay. There are many gay men who say "I'm not part of the scene" -- men who hate gay bars and, prumably, crowds of queer people general.

Internalized homophobia -- self-shamg, self-hatred -- leads many gay men, and many queer people general, to recreate their closets long after they're "out" by shunng others, particularly those they nsir "flamboyant. " Y, there are some good reasons to rce your participatn gay bars (time, money, health).

But you mt spend time wh others, whether that means havg a group of gay movie iends or queer gamers or playg on a gay sports team.

OVERG THE SHAME OF BEG GAY

Go to gay bars, even if they make you unfortable. Fd gay iends. This parable piece by lbian wrer Sarah Prager go through the lp of great gays who changed the world -- om ventor Alan Turg to Tchaikovsky, the poser, to the Renaissance pater and ventor Leonardo da Vci.

AIDS vastated muni of gay men and transgenr women, particularly gay men and trans women of lor. Read the numbers: In four years, more than 5, 596 people the Uned Stat had died of AIDS, many of them gay men and transgenr women. But if I hadn't experienced all that adversy, I wouldn't be so furly proud to be gay.

Fd a gay elr who's been where you are and r for your well-beg, someone who unrstands you and never pass judgment, someone who lets you make the mistak you need to make. Tmp has repeatedly attacked transgenr servicemembers, and gay men are still beg hunted and murred Chechnya. Are you gay or bisexual?

'I WAS THREATENED WH BROKEN GLASS FOR BEG GAY'

There would be no ternalized self-hatred if no one had ever told you that beg gay is wrong, or that gay sex is disgtg, or that gay men n't feel real love, or that beg transgenr is fake, or that beg nonbary is a mental illns or a ll for attentn. If you thk a word like "gay" or "queer" works for you right now (aga, don't have to work for you forever -- labels do not e wh lifetime ntracts) and you're not ready to tell everyone, simply say out loud to yourself.

PERSECUTED FOR BEG GAY

You're gay bee that's the way God wanted you to be. There have been studi that show that gay men have bra stems that are stcturally different om those of straight men.

Unls you had yours surgilly altered so you uld be gay, you're no more rponsible for your sexual orientatn than a straight man is for his. It tak time to adjt to the realy that we're herently gay. If you believe that God has a plan for your life and have known you were gay sce childhood, you obvly didn't choose to be gay.

But I eventually realized that I was herently gay and all the hopg and prayg would have no effect on that. Why was I born gay?

COULD I STOP BEG GAY?

And I have a lbian iend whose father (also a vout Catholic) told me he believed God gave him a gay dghter so that he (the father) would learn that God's creatns know no lims. Beg gay don't mean you have to be promiscuo or swg om chanliers.

People who do that perpetuate a stereotype that don't apply to most gays. If you have relig beliefs that gui your behavr, you n still apply those to your life as a gay man.