New Trends Gay Male Relatnships: The Choic Study - ETR

Contents:

• I’M 35 AND MY BT IEND IS 64. HERE’S WHY OUR AGE DIFFERENCE AS GAY MEN IS A GIFT
• AGE DIFFERENC GAY COUPL
• MY EXPERIENCE AS PART OF A GAY TERGENERATNAL RELATNSHIP
• THE INTERGENERATNAL RELATNSHIPS OF GAY MEN AND LBIAN WOMEN
• THE PROS AND NS OF TERGENERATNAL GAY RELATNSHIPS
• THE TERGENERATNAL RELATNSHIPS OF GAY MEN AND LBIAN WOMEN
• GAY GRANDFATHERS: INTERGENERATNAL RELATNSHIPS AND MENTAL HEALTH
• NEW TRENDS GAY MALE RELATNSHIPS: THE CHOIC STUDY

I’M 35 AND MY BT IEND IS 64. HERE’S WHY OUR AGE DIFFERENCE AS GAY MEN IS A GIFT

I was ved by some new acquatanc to stay at his beach hoe Fire Island P, a sandbar off the ast of Long Island that sce the 1950s has been a storied enclave for the LGBTQ muny of Gay Gotham. I asked Gil about this and he said there are numero benefs to beg iends wh younger gays like me — for starters, we keep him on top of all the ways the world has changed when to technology and social teractn.

AGE DIFFERENC GAY COUPL

Gil NearyGil add that his close iendships wh younger gays give him a ont-row seat to all the social change that's happened, too. "Younger gays, for the most part, are more fortable wh themselv than we were, " he said.

MY EXPERIENCE AS PART OF A GAY TERGENERATNAL RELATNSHIP

So a msage to my fellow gay men: The next time you’re at a bar and someone a few s olr than you occupi the stool next to you, don’t jt turn a shoulr. Many quiri I have received over and over aga through the years beg somethg like this: “I've always liked olr men, but many gay iends close to my age are cril of me and spic of my motiv.

THE INTERGENERATNAL RELATNSHIPS OF GAY MEN AND LBIAN WOMEN

” One young man said to me, “If I see a handsome gay man my age, he might jt as well have a vaga. Var labels have been ascribed to tergeneratnal upl, whether straight, gay or bisexual: tergeneratnal, age-gap, age-discrepant, or, more often than not, “May-December” relatnships. Inially, I was unnvced the relatnships were ser, but that was bee I held stereotypil views: an olr gay man who was lookg for a trophy-mate and has the money to take re of his boy toy and a younger man who was lookg for a sugar daddy.

THE PROS AND NS OF TERGENERATNAL GAY RELATNSHIPS

I now regnize this as a hackneyed ia that furiat men age-gap gay relatnships.

Based on the number of tim this qutn drops to my mailbox, the reasons for the age-discrepant attractns nsum a great al of bandwidth the thoughts of a lot of young gay and bisexual men. Was pletg his doctoral dissertatn, “May-December: Navigatg Life as an Intergeneratnal Gay Couple, ” he thoroughly rearched what proved to be the limed available lerature on tergeneratnal upl.

They nsir discrimatn a part of beg gay.

THE TERGENERATNAL RELATNSHIPS OF GAY MEN AND LBIAN WOMEN

Their work will fort men the double jeopardy of beg both gay and lovg someone much olr or younger. How the experience of beg a gay-to-December relatnship led to the creatn of a social/support group for LGBTQ+ upl.

We have been what is lled an tergeneratnal relatnship, or (as n be affectnately known) a gay-to-December relatnship, for 13 years.

GAY GRANDFATHERS: INTERGENERATNAL RELATNSHIPS AND MENTAL HEALTH

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NEW TRENDS GAY MALE RELATNSHIPS: THE CHOIC STUDY

Dpe the monstrated importance of tergeneratnal ti across the life urse, few studi exame relatnships between gay men and lbians and their later life parents and parents--law.

The prent study exam how midlife to later life gay men and lbians timate partnerships nceptualize the tergeneratnal analysis of 50 -pth terviews llected wh midlife to later life gay men and lbians (ag 40–72) long-term timate partnerships. Fdgs om this study provi empiril evince of how support, stra, and ambivalence tergeneratnal ti are intified and experienced by gay men and lbian women.