Gay or Straight, A Male Is a Male Is a Male | Psychology Today

Contents:

• THREAD: FLAMBOYANT GAYS VS THE AVERAGE HOMOSEXUAL MALE.
• GAY OR STRAIGHT, A MALE IS A MALE IS A MALE
• IS YOUR MAN GAY, STRAIGHT, OR BISEXUAL?
• QUEER VS. GAY: HOW THE WORDS ARE DIFFERENT, AND WHY IT’S IMPORTANT
• GAYS VS. STRAIGHTS: ANY DIFFERENC SEXUAL SATISFACTN?
• DIFFERENC AND SIARI BETWEEN GAY AND STRAIGHT DIVIDUALS VOLVED THE SADOMASOCHISTIC SUBCULTURE
• AS A GAY MAN, I’LL NEVER BE NORMAL
• WHAT DO IT MEAN TO BE A GAY MAN?

THREAD: FLAMBOYANT GAYS VS THE AVERAGE HOMOSEXUAL MALE.

I'm a straight male, and lookg om the outsi , I n see at least part of the reason why homophobia still exists. I have absolutely 0 problem wh anyone's sexualy, whether gay, straight, asexual etc. But there are certa behavural and personaly tras often associated wh gay mal that are slightly off-puttg.

The overly enthiastic gay man wh a se om ear to ear that is flailg his arms around and speakg a high pched voice.

Now my pot is that this stereotypil gay man is what most people believe a gay man to be.

GAY OR STRAIGHT, A MALE IS A MALE IS A MALE

As I do not have any experience to speak of wh the gay muny, I n neher nfirm nor ny this stereotype.

IS YOUR MAN GAY, STRAIGHT, OR BISEXUAL?

I'm not sure if this theory is valid or not, but I feel like there is possibly a very small and loud mory of gay men that are g for all of the others. But soon the l blur and the hate for those annoyg flamboyant INDIVIDUALS, be hate for all gay people at large, cludg the non-annoyg on.

I know a straight iend who uld be scribed as flamboyant, but I also know que a few gay iends who are. OT: I pretty much agree wh what you have said regards to the false equivalency between gay and flamboyant the media, one of my pet peev actually. Shows are gettg better at portrayg gay 'liftyl' more realistilly, certaly dog a better job than the 90's.

QUEER VS. GAY: HOW THE WORDS ARE DIFFERENT, AND WHY IT’S IMPORTANT

Flamboyant is often ed for gays only, but I thk 's someone who really flnts their sexualy/emotns and who shows a lot of movg around.

I bet every sgle person on this fom knows a gay man that they don't know about bee they act straight. And, of urse, marked discrepanci do exist between the sexual aroal cu distguishg gays om straights.

But as I’ll be monstratg, the major (and ltle regnized) siari between them ultimately suggt that a gay’s “sexual psyche” is much more plementary to a heterosexual male’s than ntrastg to .

GAYS VS. STRAIGHTS: ANY DIFFERENC SEXUAL SATISFACTN?

Although I’ll be focg on the siari that profoundly lk gays and straights what sexually turns them on, I’ll start by enumeratg some differenc that do fact separate them.

DIFFERENC AND SIARI BETWEEN GAY AND STRAIGHT DIVIDUALS VOLVED THE SADOMASOCHISTIC SUBCULTURE

One key assumptn about gays is that they’re somehow ls manly than straight men—that they’re effemate, even “girlish, ” their behavr and preferenc. Although this may be te of some gays, jt how do we expla the p evince that they’re, if anythg, more terted masculy than straight mal are? It’s certaly signifint that on the Alexa Adult List, the tegory Straight Men is the fifth most popular of gay s.

As the two thors put : “The vast majory of gay men prefer to masturbate while thkg about wboys, firemen, or David Beckham stead of drag queens, ballet dancers, or Elton John. ” And further: “On the televisn show Glee, the football player Fn and mohawked bad boy Puck are bigger turn-ons for gay men than the effemate gay character Kurt” (p. Ogas and Gaddam also observe that terms of excg the passn of gay mal, many of them need to know whether the porn mol or actor they’re watchg is gay or straight.

AS A GAY MAN, I’LL NEVER BE NORMAL

Adaptg to the preferenc, some Web s now offer gays straight porn exprsly signed to appeal to them.

WHAT DO IT MEAN TO BE A GAY MAN?

And as opposed to porn for straight mal, where the man’s body is rarely highlighted, what we might term “gay heterosexual porn, ” ’s the woman’s body that’s almost cintal.

This, of urse, mak perfect sense sce gays jt aren’t wired to rpond to feme sexual cu. On the ntrary, many women n be turned on by heterosexual porn tailor-ma for gays.

But returng to gay preferenc, is not cur—not to say, untertuive—that, overall, gays’ aroal would be more strongly activated by heterosexual mal than by fellow gays (where their attractn would much more likely be reciproted)? And do appear that to be sexually turned on, the gay bra may be stctured to search for masculy cu que as psychologil as physil.