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gay men domestic violence

It's more mon than we thk and yet remas one of the most stigmatized experienc for gay men: domtic abe. It's likely to be dismissed by law enforcement, iends and fay members, and the victims themselv. As one man said, "When someone talks me through 's pretty obv — but when I'm the middle of , I jt figure out reasons why 's not that bad and ways 's probably my flt."

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IT WAS MY FLT—WHY GAY MALE VICTIMS OF DOMTIC VLENCE OFTEN DISMISS IT

* gay men domestic violence *

It’s more mon than we thk and yet remas one of the most stigmatized experienc for gay men: domtic abe. ”Photo by Alt Ferreira on least 1 5 gay men experience domtic abe although that number is almost surely much higher.

DOMTIC VLENCE FOR GAY AND BISEXUAL MEN

A 2003 study published the Journal of Men’s Studi which exam the reasons that gay men stay relatnships which they are beg abed, bas much of s argument on the back of femist rearch examg why women stay and as such, offers a femist analysis of domtic vlence applied to gay male may be choate to many men bee they are men and socialized as such, may ntribute to the reason many men rema nial the first rearch suggts that LGBT folks experience higher cince of abe.

The numbers when you foc on gay men alone are startlg:26% of gay men and 37.

3% of bisexual men have experienced rape, physil vlence, and/or stalkg by an timate partner their lifetime, parison to 29% of heterosexual a study of male same sex relatnships, only 26% of men lled the police for assistance after experiencg near-lethal the Gay Men’s Pri flag. It is lser known pri flag but is a revis of an earlier gay men’s pri flag om the 70s that featured a range of blue versn was problematic to some bee ed lors that were stereotypil of the genr bary. This updated flag is clive of a much wir range of gay men, cludg but not limed to transgenr, tersex, and genr nonnformg DOES ABUSE LOOK LIKE?

GAY MEN AND TIMATE PARTNER VLENCE: A GENR ANALYSIS

The reasons, prev rearch, that gay men have given for stayg relatnships which they are beg abed clu: hope for change, love, fear, lack of assistance, lonels, loyalty and lack of knowledge regardg domtic vlence. Gay men have been found to fe domtic vlence siar ways to heterosexual women wh an emphasis on power and ntrol (see Cz and Firtone, 1998); wh some addnal factors such as ntrol, jealoly and ternalized homophobia.

Gay men’s nstctns of masculy have also been found to have an impact on gay male domtic vlence as well as some of the reasons that gay men stay. Police were historilly the primary victimizers of gay men by simply enforcg the law and dog their 2012, fewer than 5% of LGBTQ survivors of timate partner vlence sought orrs of protectn.

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Gay pornography is often gay men’s first and last troductn to exprsg our sexualy and then is cemented by recreatg those experienc.

I am not nmng gay porn, but ’s fluence a vacuum of rmatn has created a problematic cycle. Homophobia and transphobia still play a role the legal workgs of many stat. Studi show that gay men and bisexual women are more likely to experience severe physil vlence than their straight unterparts, cludg beg beaten, burned or choked.

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