We vtigated the associatns between daily strs, sexual sire and timacy gay men long-term relatnships. A daily diary method of data llectn was ed. Twenty-two adult participants pleted brief qutnnair ten tim per day durg seven nsecutive days. Multilevel regrsn analys revealed signifint negative associatns of daily strs wh sexual sire (p = 0.003); higher strs me wh lower levels of sexual sire, and vice versa. The hypothized moratn effect of the associatns of strs wh sexual sire by timacy was found signifint (p = 0.003). However, the effect was not as predicted: at higher levels of timacy the negative effect of strs on sexual sire was shown to be stronger than at lower levels. Most temporal associatns of strs and timacy wh sexual sire were not signifint. Neverthels, the prent fdgs implite that daily strs and timacy are important factors sexual functng of gay men long-term relatnships.
Contents:
- GAYS VS. STRAIGHTS: ANY DIFFERENC SEXUAL SATISFACTN?
- SEXUAL DIRE AND FANTASI THE LGBT+ COMMUNY: FOC ON LBIAN WOMEN AND GAY MEN
- THE CRIC OF GAY DIRE
- THE ASSOCIATNS OF SEXUAL SIRE, DAILY STRS, AND TIMACY GAY MEN LONG-TERM RELATNSHIPS
GAYS VS. STRAIGHTS: ANY DIFFERENC SEXUAL SATISFACTN?
For the average guy, gay or straight, sex requir the same basic level of emotnal mment as spottg someone on the bench prs at the gym—i. ) The men’s rpons were highly genr-specific, wh heterosexual men both reportg and displayg sexual aroal only toward the vios of women, and homosexual men reportg and displayg the oppose.
Beyond that basic ncln, Ogas and Gaddam looked at specifics, learng that men don’t jt search a general way for women’s body parts (or men’s if they’re gay). It's amazg how ltle rearch has foced on this — jt two studi (1983 and 1991, and they provi only a cursory look at parative gay/straight sexual satisfactn). Dire cl long-term upl, but on average, men reta more sire than women, so we would expect men gay upl to feel the most sire, and women lbian upl the least, wh the men mixed-sex upl exprsg more libido than the women.
SEXUAL DIRE AND FANTASI THE LGBT+ COMMUNY: FOC ON LBIAN WOMEN AND GAY MEN
But the survey, sexual sire was pretty much the same for all upl, wh gay men and lbians exprsg slightly more sire than heterosexuals. Siary breeds fort, so pared wh those heterosexual upl, we would expect people lbian and gay upl to feel more satisfied wh their sexual munitn. The only difference was that women, both lbian and straight, felt somewhat more satisfied wh non-genal rs than men, both gay and straight, prumably bee pared wh women, men tend to be more genal-foced.
But bottom le: Contrary to nventnal wisdom, terms of sexual sire, munitn, and satisfactn, people homo- and heterosexual upl are much more siar than different. In addn to the need of addrsg the peculiar needs of homosexual people therapy, many sexologists were also motivated by the possibily of fdg new clu on the long-standg genr bate.
THE CRIC OF GAY DIRE
Many believed that parg lbian, gay, and heterosexual people uld crease the knowledge of sexual and genr inty [12]. The theori have foced maly on soccultural and relatnship factors, such as beg ls sexually assertive, experiencg more guilt and nflicts sexualy, havg the tenncy to bee over-fed and merged relatnships, and reportg high rat of sexual trma and ternalized homophobia. Moreover, lbian upl reported signifintly longer sexual enunters than gay men and heterosexual men and women [35].
For example, lbian women reported dimished sexual sire related to sexual discrimatn, mory strs, ternalized homophobia, relig perceptns of sexualy as a taboo, soccultural prsur to nform to heteronormativy, and stronger genr rol expectatns [17••, 31]. [48] reported the prence of rape fantasi such as “beg forced to have sex by a woman”, “beg forced to do oral sex to a woman”, and “beg raped by a woman” both lbian and heterosexual MenEarly studi found many dividuals perceived gay men as mentally ill or sexually perverted [49, 50], emphasizg variatns personaly and behavr such as anxiety, prsn, and addictn [51].
Ined, ias such as most gay men engage a high rate of sexual activy, are volved risky sexual behavrs, have high number of sexual partners, and are not terted long-term relatnships are still mon among scientists and clicians. Moreover, a large volume of studi on HIV/AIDS have foced on gay men and MSM, libly associatg the populatns wh risky sexual behavrs and fostered stigma.
THE ASSOCIATNS OF SEXUAL SIRE, DAILY STRS, AND TIMACY GAY MEN LONG-TERM RELATNSHIPS
Some of the studi discsed the followg paragraphs rely on this background, which general assumptns regardg gay men are ma based on clil subgroups (such as HIV-posive gay men) or settgs (such as gay people reced clics for sexually transmted fectns—STIs). Rears should nsir the bias and rea om drawg general assumptns about gay of Sexual DireRegardg levels of sexual sire, studi on the subject draw disparate nclns. Lippa [52] and Wellg [53] reported that MSM had lower level of sexual sire pared to heterosexual men; nversely, Holmberg and Blair [30] showed that gay men sred morately higher than heterosexual men and women on different exprsns of sire (solary, si the uple and for an attractive person).
In a recent Portugue study [54], gay men reported higher solary (masturbatn) and attractive person-related sexual sire pared to heterosexual men. Other gay men reported a high sire for adventuro and exploratory sexual experience, ee om social, psychologil, and physil harm [55]. Moreover, olr men were more likely to ask for the sexual practic they wanted [55], as a rult of a greater experience and nscns about their own sexual sire and studi foced on the prence of higher “pathologil” sexual drive gay men, nsirg as eher addictn, pulsn, or hypersexualy.