A Gui for Gay Men on Both Open and Monogamo Marriage | Psychology Today

Contents:

• MY ANSWERS TO QUTNS ABOUT GAY MARRIAGE
• Q&A: COMMONLY ASKED QUTNS ABOUT THE ‘GAY MARRIAGE’ ISSUE
• 7 QUTNS FOR CHRISTIANS ABOUT THE GAY MARRIAGE DEBATE
• HOW TO HAVE A DISCSN ON GAY MARRIAGE
• WHAT DO THE BIBLE SAY ABOUT GAY MARRIAGE?
• GAY MARRIAGE ESSAY TOPICS FOR QUALY WRG
• A GUI FOR GAY MEN ON BOTH OPEN AND MONOGAMO MARRIAGE

MY ANSWERS TO QUTNS ABOUT GAY MARRIAGE

Heck, even the etymology of the words “marry” and “matrimony” (rived om the word “mother”) exclus the very ncept of a homosexual “marriage”.

Q&A: COMMONLY ASKED QUTNS ABOUT THE ‘GAY MARRIAGE’ ISSUE

Clearly, gay rights advot were not satisfied wh that acmodatn, as they barreled right past that and now mand that the word “marriage” apply to gay unns. This happened spe the dulent assuranc by the civil unn supporters that the law would have no effect on fah-based servic [which only begs to answer another mon qutn, “How do gay ‘marriage’ affect you, anyway?

7 QUTNS FOR CHRISTIANS ABOUT THE GAY MARRIAGE DEBATE

We are not to utter a peep agast gay “marriage”, or we will pay a price, whether that price is simply ridicule, mockg, and harassment, or a more ser penalty such as loss of iends, fay, job opportuni, or livelihood. I long for the days where gay “marriage” was not tegrated to every news story, every llege urse, every televisn show, every urt se, every sports event, every holiday, every legislative ssn, small school children’s textbooks, r mercials, hamburger wrappers, etc., etc., etc.

I have gay “marriage” fatigue (like everyone else I know), and yet there is no optn but to speak for what is Te, bee that’s who we are as Catholics.

My qutn is this: n a Catholic lawyer, who is of urse opposed to “gay marriage, ” assist homosexual upl wh gettg a divorce?

HOW TO HAVE A DISCSN ON GAY MARRIAGE

There have been gay people for thoands of years, but they didn’t dare fight for their rights bee was most likely ath if anyone found out they were gay. Society is fally seeg the love that two gay people n have for each other and realizg is the same love that two straight people n have for each other.

It is hard to let go of our own bias, but if you did, I thk you’d see that homosexual people are pable of so much love for each other. The issue I had wh you article wasn’t so much the issue of gay marriage but the ia that those who are sexually disabled some do do serve to have a marriage.

Now they seem ridiculo, as will any arguments agast gay marriage 50 years, when people see that hasn’t stroyed the foundatns of society whatsoever. No one is forcg you to attend a gay weddg, and ankly, wh the way some of you are rryg on, I doubt you will be ved to any this lifetime. To explore the se for gay marriage, the Pew Fom has turned to Jonathan Rch, a lumnist at The Natnal Journal and gut scholar at The Brookgs Instutn.

WHAT DO THE BIBLE SAY ABOUT GAY MARRIAGE?

Rch, who is openly gay, also thored the 2004 book Gay Marriage: Why It Is Good for Gays, Good for Straights, and Good for Ameri. I’ve given a lot of talks on gay marriage a lot of ci sce wrg a book about 2004 lled Gay Marriage: Why It Is Good for Gays, Good for Straights, and Good for Ameri.

You get very sympathetic people who say, I really want to do somethg for gay people, but changg the fundamental boundari of our most ancient, important stutn jt go too far, so let’s do civil unns or somethg else. We uld also have other bat about what the Bible do and don’t mean, but I thk what boils down to is that gay people should al wh the same standards as straight people. And when straight people start upholdg biblil law civic culture, then maybe gay people should nsir , but not until then.

To have those people set up a married kd of liftyle – often raisg kids, by the way; many gay upl are raisg kids – outsi of marriage sends all the wrong cultural signals. The big cultural problem wh the fay Ameri is not that gay people want to get married – ’s that straight people are not gettg married or not stayg married. And to me, one of the important cultural effects of gay marriage will be to send a very strong signal that marriage is somethg that is available to and expected of everybody, not jt a few.

GAY MARRIAGE ESSAY TOPICS FOR QUALY WRG

I’ve never really unrstood why admtg gay upl – fairly small number – to the stutn of marriage and havg them uphold those ials would make marriage ls likely or succsful for anyone else. I often say, you know, when straight people get the right to marry two or three people or their mother or a toaster, then gay people should have the same right.

But all gay people are askg for now is the one thg that we lack but that all straight people already have – they don’t need to give themselv anythg more.

I’ve often said, if I believed that gay marriage would wreck straight marriage then I’d be agast jt as if I thought that givg women the vote would wreck mocracy so that no one’s vote mattered, I’d be agast that, too.

A GUI FOR GAY MEN ON BOTH OPEN AND MONOGAMO MARRIAGE

On the other hand, if gay marriage was to have a very small, sort of cremental bad effect on the divorce rate for straight people, I’d say that’s not enough to stop bee you’ve got 10, 12, 15 ln Amerins not only whout marriage, but whout even the prospect of marriage. Are we the lull before the storm, or do you thk that wispread legalizatn of gay marriage is still a long way off, if happens at all? And then after Goodridge mandated same-sex marriage Massachetts, you had some of the gay marriage advot sayg, we need to get the urt to impose this around the untry as fast as possible.

And then you had nservativ sayg, we need to sh through a nstutnal amendment at the feral level to ban gay marriage on every ch of Amerin soil forever. That om muny and that’s somethg gay upl are gog to have to build by showg, as I thk we are Massachetts, that we n be good maral cizens, that we’re not hurtg anybody else’s marriage. When this issue first me up 1970 – the first gay uple tried to get married 1970, filed a lawsu and lost – the urts were the only place you uld go.