Your Child Jt Told You He's Gay. Now What? | Psychology Today

Contents:

• IS MY BROTHER GAY? QUIZ (BOYS ONLY)
• YOUR CHILD JT TOLD YOU HE'S GAY. NOW WHAT?
• IS YOUR BROTHER GAY?
• WHAT TO DO WHEN YOUR CHILD SAYS: "I'M GAY"
• THE SOLUTN TO "GAY" INSULTS: FREEDOM OF SPEECH
• DEAR THERAPIST: MY PARENTS WON’T LET ME TELL MY BROTHER I’M GAY
• THIS IS HOW I REALLY REACTED WHEN MY SON TOLD ME HE WAS GAY
• BARACK OBAMA’S BROTHER CLAIMS HE’S ‘FELY GAY’ – MEDIA
• OUR SEVEN-YEAR-OLD SON TOLD HE WAS GAY

IS MY BROTHER GAY? QUIZ (BOYS ONLY)

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Gaybros is a work built for gay men who aren't nfed to a media stereotype. [Ser] My brother told me he's gay(im not) what did you wish your olr brother had told you? I'm not gay but I was abed as a kid and this ed me to once date a guy.

YOUR CHILD JT TOLD YOU HE'S GAY. NOW WHAT?

We grew up a eply Catholic hoehold, so our parents are It me to a pot where when I was watchg Game of Thron and there was a gay sex scene, my dad asserted that we never watch that show aga. Now I know he uld be gay or bi or whatever, and I don't have any problems wh that. If somethg is odd about your bro, like him actg spic around other boys - or somethg else that jt seems odd - take this quiz to fd out if he might be gay.

IS YOUR BROTHER GAY?

ya she gay i been cshg on her for a long time im gog to ask her out. Yeah my bro is gay 100%.

WHAT TO DO WHEN YOUR CHILD SAYS: "I'M GAY"

omg he is gay? my bro is really gay. Omg I'm a girl and I'm only 11 and my bro is 9 I thk he is gay and why would he watch gay ?OR??

THE SOLUTN TO "GAY" INSULTS: FREEDOM OF SPEECH

Ya he’s gay af. I’m gay too, and he’s really cute-.

I have a guy iend who won't adm that he's gay but I'm a girl. Why n't jt be to work out if they're gay. Bee when I put no he don't stare at me that would make him be gay ( the sense of this quiz) but the quiz would terperate as he's straight if that mak sense at all?

For straight parents, havg a child reveal that he is gay n be a jolt.

DEAR THERAPIST: MY PARENTS WON’T LET ME TELL MY BROTHER I’M GAY

You might ask how long he or she has known, and why he feels he is gay, bi, or trans, suggts Jonathan Tobk, M. D., a psychiatrist private practice New York Cy and the -thor of When Your Child Is Gay: What You Need to Know.

You n fd one through the Associatn of Gay and Lbian Psychiatrists. Take the extra step and show your child that you are terted beg the parent of a gay child.

Edute yourself on what means to be gay, lbian, bisexual or transgenr. PFLAG, or Parents for Lbians and Gays, which now has a group for transgenr youth, and holds natnwi chapters and meetgs;. Pdie advis a letter wrer whose brother hasn’t told his girliend he me out as gay.

THIS IS HOW I REALLY REACTED WHEN MY SON TOLD ME HE WAS GAY

When he was 18, my brother tearfully nfsed to me and my parents that he is gay. I told him I would support him no matter what, but my parents ma him listen to lectur about how beg gay is a s, and how he uld change if he really tried, and sent him to a “nversn therapy” mp. She don’t know that he’s gay—my brother told me he’s never told her.

” That said, I feel a great al of passn for his girliend, pecially as seems likely that she has no ia the man she lov is gay. I thk you should beg by appealg to your brother: “I love you so much, and I thk the world of you jt as you are, and breaks my heart that you thk you have to ‘fix’ the fact that you’re gay. If nothg else, at least one person your brother’s life should be able to say, “I love you, and ’s OK that you’re gay, and I want you to know that.

If worst to worst, and your brother never tells his girliend that he’s gay and they do get engaged, let him know that while you’re not gog to out him or cut him off, you’re not gog to actively help him lie to her eher.

BARACK OBAMA’S BROTHER CLAIMS HE’S ‘FELY GAY’ – MEDIA

AITA for not lettg my brother tell our fay that he is gay? The story is very simple, my younger brother is gay, he is 17 years old and I am the only one the fay who knows ('s jt the two of and our parents, we have no ntact wh the other fay members) and he didn't tend to tell me, I figured out why I ught him flirtg on a ll wh a iend about a year ago, to be hont I took stri but advised him not to tell our parents for the time beg, our parents are extremely nservative, and my father already ma several statements at fay lunch sayg that he thought gays had some kd of disease or somethg, I said that I would help my brother, but we would need time to make our parents get ed to this ia, sce then I've been havg sporadic nversatns wh my dad to try to get the ia to his md that 's okay to be gay or whatever, and I believe I'm havg rults, my dad has stopped the homophobic statements at fay gathergs. Ar, the big problem is that about 4 months ago, my father was diagnosed wh prostate ncer an advanced stage and whout cure, my father is currently unr palliative re, and fearg a premature ath of our father, my brother wants to speed up the procs and g out as gay to our dad soon, I strongly advised him not to do that as the shock uld be too big for our dad and uld affect his illns some way, now my brother thks I'm sabotagg him and I'm ashamed of him for beg gay, he said I should jt support him as a brother, and that the cisn of when he tells our fay he's gay needs to be his and not me, we haven't spoken a week, AITA?

I have a gay brother and I hope this helps you figure out if your brother is gay ^_^ remember that outg people is not kd and that if your brother is gay, he will e out when he is ready! (A lot of the gays I know are really tall, LOL XD). Do he talk a lot about gay people and the LGBT muny?

When parents learn that their child is gay, lbian, bisexual, or transgenr, they n experience a range of emotns. As a matter of fact, you might someday look back and fd that you are grateful for the experience of havg a gay or lbian child.

OUR SEVEN-YEAR-OLD SON TOLD HE WAS GAY

Well, my study of 65 fai of gay and lbian youth for the book, Comg Out, Comg Home: Helpg Fai Adjt to a Gay or Lbian Child, I found that some parents get to the pot where they believe that the experience of havg a gay child actually ma them a better person—more open-md and sensive to the needs of others, particularly those other mory groups. If you jt found out your child is gay, lbian, bisexual, or transgenr, you may be thkg that such ias are prepostero. The tstworthy nfidants let them vent but also rrected some of the misperceptns they absorbed om society, such as that gay people are lonely, unhappy, promiscuo, not fay-oriented, unable to have children, or sted for an unhappy life.

Contact Parents, Fay, and Friends of Lbians and Gays (PFLAG). List of Helpful Books for Parents of Gay and Lbian Children.