How to Cope When You're Gay and Lonely | GQ

Contents:

• 5 REASONS IT’S GOOD TO BE GAY AND SGLE
• HOW TO COPE WHEN YOU'RE GAY AND LONELY
• 20 HONT REASONS GAY MEN STAY SGLE (ON PURPOSE)
• AM I GAY?
• “HOW TO TELL IF A MAN IS GAY” — 5 WAYS (BACKED BY SCIENCE)
• GAY AND CAN'T FD A PARTNER?
• WHY ARE PEOPLE GAY? GAY BY CHOICE OR IS BEG GAY GEIC?
• SAM SMH’S NEW SGLE ‘MAN I AM’ IS THEIR GAYT SONG YET

5 REASONS IT’S GOOD TO BE GAY AND SGLE

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There are LGBT meet-up groups and muny service projects where you n meet gay men who have the same terts and valu as you do. A number of gay men spend so much of their childhood hidg who they are, and tryg to be somethg or someone they're not. Let’s all be real for a moment and face the fact there is often a lot of prsure om iends, fay, workers, and others for a gay person to be a relatnship, pecially now that marriage equaly laws are on the books.

HOW TO COPE WHEN YOU'RE GAY AND LONELY

Whout further ado, here are five reasons why ’s good to be sgle and gay:. All of the above, and plenty more that didn’t make the list, are reasons ’s not only good but excg and vigoratg to be sgle and gay. Part of realizg you're gay, or bi, or trans, or non-bary, or anythg other than cisgenr and heterosexual is acceptg you’re different—and somewhat separated—om the majory.

20 HONT REASONS GAY MEN STAY SGLE (ON PURPOSE)

Here he shar his journey to overe the sense of isolatn he felt growg up gay a small U. At the time, there were no real gay role mols except for Graham Norton and Jack om Dawson's Creek—and I certaly didn't intify wh him bee I wasn't a football player. I felt like I was pletely on my rried on until I was 16, when I started gog out to gay bars my hometown.

I ma one gay iend, who I'm actually close to now. For the first time I've been able to form a good group of gay iends and create my own support work. I'd go on gay chatrooms but that was jt a facels nversatn wh someone who uld have been anyone.

I thk if I'd had iends who were gay when I was growg up, my life would have been so different. I now know there were other kids at my school who were gay, but they didn't e out till much later. I've found that for many gay men, thkg that love sucks is what keeps them om gog for the "L" word their qut for happs.

AM I GAY?

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I'm a gay man, though I never had many of the thoughts I'm about to share wh you. I spend a better part of my profsnal life achg gay men through var aspects of their datg and matg recently, I lghed my butt off at answers gay men gave an onle social media group as to why they prefer stayg you might have gused, reason 3 birthed this article—partially to humor others bis myself, and also to she a light on how siar gay men are to the rt of the world, even if the rt of the world won't adm, here are 20 reasons gay men prefer to stay sgle ( no particular orr of preference):"Don't need to please anyone but yourself. Gus all married, and taken gay men have no eedom.

“HOW TO TELL IF A MAN IS GAY” — 5 WAYS (BACKED BY SCIENCE)

"There is not one good reason to stay a sgle, gay man.

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GAY AND CAN'T FD A PARTNER?

How Olr Brothers Influence HomosexualyHomosexualy might be partly driven by a mother’s immune rponse to her male fet—which creas wh each son she MacGregor / RtersHere’s what we know: Homosexualy is normal.

Between 2 and 11 percent of human adults report experiencg some homosexual feelgs, though the figure vari wily pendg on the survey.

WHY ARE PEOPLE GAY? GAY BY CHOICE OR IS BEG GAY GEIC?

Homosexualy exists across cultur and even throughout the animal kgdom, as the thors of a mammoth new review paper on homosexualy wre. Female Japane maqu will even pete tersexually wh mal for exclive accs to female sexual ’s what we don’t know: What, specifilly, someone to bee gay, straight, or somethg between.

SAM SMH’S NEW SGLE ‘MAN I AM’ IS THEIR GAYT SONG YET

Part of the explanatn is geic, but bee most intil tws of gay people are straight, heredy don’t expla “why” qutn is important bee “there is a strong rrelatn between beliefs about the origs of sexual orientatn and tolerance of non-heterosexualy, ” acrdg to the report thors, who are om seven universi spanng the globe. (When Atlantic ntributor Chandler Burr proposed his 1996 book, A Separate Creatn, that people are born gay, Southern Baptists lled to boytt Disney films and parks prott agast the publisher, Disney subsidiary Hypern. ) It shouldn’t matter whether people “choose” to be gay, but polilly, do—at least for of the most nsistent environmental explanatns for homosexualy is lled the “aternal birth orr effect.

” Essentially, the more olr brothers a man has, the more likely he is to be gay.