Father Figure: Directed by Bibi Fadlalla. For young black gay men navigatg the world n be a disturbg experience. As Kiki Hoe founr Guilliano (26) explas: 'beg black and gay means beg two steps behd life'. In this narrative llage film Guilliano and his iends share personal experienc of homophobia, racism and margalizatn everyday life and the ways which they fd solace and muny." data-id="ma
Contents:
- GAY MEN AND THEIR FATHERS: HURT AND HEALG
- JAGUARS ASSOCIATE STRENGTH ACH OUT AS GAY A FIRST FOR US-BASED PRO LEAGU
- ‘A FAY LIKE OURS’: PORTRAS OF GAY FATHERHOOD
- ‘GAY BEE OF ABSENT FATHER’ THEORY MAK HEADL
GAY MEN AND THEIR FATHERS: HURT AND HEALG
When two fathers and their rpective sons stay at the All Worlds Rort, a hot time is had by all! The actn begs when “the straights” check only to fd out 's an all-gay rort. * father figure 2 gay *
Fathers many fai are myster, distant, timidatg figur—even more so for boys wh homosexual attractns. They are the fay torchbearers of manls, and, as mal young and old know, homosexualy is nsired the dread oppose of masculy.
JAGUARS ASSOCIATE STRENGTH ACH OUT AS GAY A FIRST FOR US-BASED PRO LEAGU
Fathers and gay sons: A plited, vally important relatnship. * father figure 2 gay *
Acrdg to Michael Kimmel, a soclogist and expert on male sex rol, men monstrate their masculy by repudiatg all that is feme and monstratg an ever-ready willgns to engage sexual terurse wh women whenever the opportuny aris- a nutshell, to prove they are not gay. To be gay is to be powerls, weak, unable to break ee om Mommy, and the characteristics are patible wh real manls. Inially, the assertn that homophobia plays center stage men's mascule self-ncept may seem rather extreme.
" "That's so gay. A boy growg to a gay man will get the msage loud and clear that he is weak, dirty, and, perhaps worst of all, ls than a man. Th is no wonr that the boys the study for my book: Comg Out, Comg Home: Helpg Fai Adjt to a Gay or Lbian Child, relled beg so reactive and fearful of the rpons of their fathers—the very people who were expectg them to receive and rry the torch of masculy.
‘A FAY LIKE OURS’: PORTRAS OF GAY FATHERHOOD
Kev Maxen, an associate strength ach wh the Jacksonville Jaguars, has bee the first male ach a major U.S.-based profsnal league to e out as gay. * father figure 2 gay *
He would ll gay people nam and stuff.
We mt remember that fathers and sons live the same world—one that teach boys that homosexualy is patible wh real masculy and, by associatn, full male adulthood. Fathers too were raised to not only look down upon homosexualy, but to fear themselv.
‘GAY BEE OF ABSENT FATHER’ THEORY MAK HEADL
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Th havg a gay son might feel particularly shameful for a father, as he may believe is an dictment of his own masculy. When a father this study ially found out his son was gay, he repeated, over and over, "Do you know what two men do to each other? " Add to this shame and disappotment men's tenncy to be stoic about problems to avoid appearg petent or weak and one gets a sense why many fathers, like those of the boys prevly quoted, did not want to discs such a topic wh a stranger—a gay stranger, no ls.
Neverthels, is important to regnize that father-son antagonism uld be particularly woundg for a gay man.
Richard Isay, a psychoanalyst who specializ work wh gay men believ that gay mal unrgo a reverse-Oedipal plex whereby, as young boys, they bee subnscly sexually attracted to their fathers (rather than their mothers).