When Gay Men (Mis)Marry Straight Women: Bonnie Kaye's Story | Psychology Today

Contents:

• I AM GAY AND I'M LOVE WH A STRAIGHT, WHAT N I DO?
• CAN GAY AND STRAIGHT MEN REALLY BE FRIENDS?
• I’M A STRAIGHT WOMAN WHO MARRIED A GAY MAN
• IS YOUR MAN GAY, STRAIGHT, OR BISEXUAL?
• WHEN GAY MEN (MIS)MARRY STRAIGHT WOMEN: BONNIE KAYE'S STORY
• GAY MEN AND STRAIGHT MEN AS FRIENDS
• STRAIGHT WOMEN AND THEIR GAY HBANDS
• HOW TO TELL A FRIEND YOU'RE GAY AND YOU LOVE THEM

I AM GAY AND I'M LOVE WH A STRAIGHT, WHAT N I DO?

But do really make a difference if they are straight or gay, if at the end of the day they are someone who is not attracted to you?

Those lov are like fallg love wh a teacher, or a straight fallg love wh a gay, or fallg love wh a married person, or fallg love wh a sger or an actor. But you need to know that if the person dont want to do somethg wh you, you need to pass no matter have to rpect that the person you like is straight jt like how he rpect and accept you beg Gay.

Fallg love wh a straight guy n be a paful experience, pecially for gay men who yearn for a romantic nnectn wh someone who is not terted them romantilly. And as a Gay Datg & Relatnship Coach, I’ve worked wh many clients who have experienced the pa of fallg for straight guys.

CAN GAY AND STRAIGHT MEN REALLY BE FRIENDS?

Is bee you’re not ready to e out, or bee you’re aaid of beg rejected by someone who is gay?

Once you’ve intified your patterns, start askg yourself why you’re not allowg yourself to fall for gay guys. While fallg for straight guys n be a paful experience, some gay men might feel like there are benefs to as well.

For example, if you’re fallg love wh a straight guy, means you don’t have to put yourself out there and risk rejectn om someone who is gay.

I’M A STRAIGHT WOMAN WHO MARRIED A GAY MAN

As a Gay Datg & Relatnship Coach, I’ve worked wh many clients who have experienced the pa of fallg for straight guys.

IS YOUR MAN GAY, STRAIGHT, OR BISEXUAL?

Many gay men who have fallen for straight guys might wonr if ’s possible for a straight guy to fall love wh a guy.

While some people might intify as gay, straight, or bisexual, there are also people who fall somewhere between or who don’t intify wh any particular label.

WHEN GAY MEN (MIS)MARRY STRAIGHT WOMEN: BONNIE KAYE'S STORY

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GAY MEN AND STRAIGHT MEN AS FRIENDS

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Along wh his supervisor, Robb Travers, he lnched a study that surveyed 350 straight men and 275 gay or bisexual men om across North Ameri. Siar to qutns that loom about whether straight men and women n ever tly be platonic iends, the same qutn lgers over the iendships between gay and straight men.

A bromosexual iendship is a nonsexual iendship between two men, where typilly one iend is gay (or bisexual), and the other is straight. In days past, this may have seemed as unlikely as a iendship between a ln and a moe, given the tradnally high levels of homophobia among straight men. McKie’s rearch reported that straight participants felt that a gay iend ma for the ultimate wgman bee the gay iend uld help to attract prospective partners for the straight iend.

STRAIGHT WOMEN AND THEIR GAY HBANDS

Other rearch has shown that women prefer iendships wh gay vers straight men, partly bee the threat or loomg qutn of sexual attractn is renred moot. However, straight men bromosexual iendships have perhaps learned how to harns this ease of iendship between straight women and gay men for their own advantage.

McKie noted that the straight men felt their gay iend was able to make succsful troductns to straight women bee the women tsted their gay male iends to troduce them to a good person.

HOW TO TELL A FRIEND YOU'RE GAY AND YOU LOVE THEM

Gay men also reported unique advantag to havg a straight wgman when pursug their own datg goals.

Gay men McKie’s rearch reported that their straight male iends often play the role of ‘matchmaker’ and troduce them to another of their gay iends. The lack of petn for the same prospective partners allows the iendship to flourish a way that may be hred to some gree for gay or straight men iendships wh men who share the same sexual orientatn. For gay men, iendship qualy wh a straight male iend was particularly high when the iendship pre-dated the gay man g out.

Straight men also reported havg more emotnally vulnerable nversatns wh their gay iends bee they felt safer to do so, relative to attemptg to discs siar topics wh other straight men. McKie’s rearch found that straight men livg the more central parts of Canada and the Uned Stat were ls likely to report a willgns or tert havg a gay man as a iend. But tim are changg quickly, and McKie’s rearch unrsr the special bond that n velop between gay and straight iends to the benef of both.