Two new generatn gays share their top five tips.
Contents:
- MORN DOS AND DON'TS FOR PARENTS OF GAY KIDS G OUT
- FOR GAY MEN, HAVG A BLOGIL CHILD N BE PLITED
- OPN I’M GAY. AND I WANT MY KID TO BE GAY, TOO.
- WHEN DO GAY KIDS START “ACTG GAY”?
MORN DOS AND DON'TS FOR PARENTS OF GAY KIDS G OUT
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More gay people are g out and g out earlier than ever before this untry. The creasgly open exampl of a normalized homosexual adulthood are givg young gay men and women the urage to be hont and open about their sexualy, and are changg the opns of the people they are g out to. I've got a big gay gui to help you out.
I got together wh two new generatn gays (Marie and Stt) at Canada's top secret gay headquarters (Starbucks) to get their take on morn dos and don'ts for parents wh gay kids g out.
The are their top five Foster a posive LGBTQ atmosphereHomosexualy all shap and siz. If you feel your child may be gay, one of the most important thgs you n do is create a gay-iendly environment, you jt don't have to be obv.
FOR GAY MEN, HAVG A BLOGIL CHILD N BE PLITED
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"It n be as easy as reactg kdly or exprsg affy toward gay people the news or on TV too.
Be patient and let your gay souffle fish okg before you open the oven 'T: Say "I still love you no matter what"This seems like a nice thg to say and 's somethg you will see a lot of dramatizatns on TV.
But as Stt pots out there is a subtext: "Sayg 'I love you no matter what' suggts that your kid's gayns is somethg to be overlooked the name of love. It translat to 'I love you even though you are gay' as if gayns were an illns or aberratn.
OPN I’M GAY. AND I WANT MY KID TO BE GAY, TOO.
'"DON'T: Make about youComg out is a big al a gay person's life. Stt's parents are probably feelg bad that they didn't foster a gay-posive environment and are feelg a ltle guilty about their son sufferg silence. If your son or dghter don't feel fortable talkg to you right away, or if you don't feel fortable talkg about right away, try nsultg another gay person or anizatn (ex PFLAG) is a suatn Marie experienced tellg me, "Bee I was away at school after g out to my mom, I didn't have the experience of 'livg wh ' daily so I wasn't aware that she was really stgglg wh .
But about a year ago she admted to me that she did stggle wh unrstandg at first, but that changed when she spoke to other gay people and sought out rourc for parents of gay people. They helped her unrstand that beg gay don't change who your son/dghter is.
"DON'T: Ask if is a phaseYour gay son or dghter knows who they are attracted to the same way you do. Ie: askg if there was a trmatic experience or relatnship that ed your kid to "turn, " (I thk this is very mon for gay women to be asked) or if they jt "haven't met the right guy/girl yet. "The tips are meant to smooth over some mon speed bumps the morn g out procs, however, not all Canadian kids are lucky enough to have a fay open to havg a gay kid or open to changg their mds on homosexualy.
WHEN DO GAY KIDS START “ACTG GAY”?
Luckily this untry is replete wh rourc to help gay kids through a tough time that n sometim leave them homels or suicidal.
If you are a gay person crisis anizatns like PFLAG Canada, Kids Help Phone, Egale Canada are jt a ll or click 'T: Make about youOne of the most mon reactns om parents n be steppg to a closet of their own, feelg the need to hi the fact that their child has jt e out.
But for gay men, this procs is plited and expensive. The procs tak about two years and sts around $200, 000 per child - and prospective gay fathers don't meet eligibily creria for most health surance plans' fertily benefs, although this is begng to change.