Parents of Gay Children and the Issu They Face | HealthyPlace

Contents:

• PARENTG A GAY CHILD
• IS YOUR CHILD GAY?
• MORN DOS AND DON'TS FOR PARENTS OF GAY KIDS G OUT
• PARENTS OF GAY CHILDREN AND THE ISSU THEY FACE
• WHEN DO GAY KIDS START “ACTG GAY”?
• FOR GAY MEN, HAVG A BLOGIL CHILD N BE PLITED

PARENTG A GAY CHILD

But providg support isn't always easy — pecially if you are the parent of a lbian, gay, bisexual, transgenr or qutng (LGBTQ) child.

IS YOUR CHILD GAY?

Advote for a gay-straight alliance (GSA), which has been shown to make schools safer and boost amic performance among LGBTQ stunts.

MORN DOS AND DON'TS FOR PARENTS OF GAY KIDS G OUT

Team up wh a pediatrician, a unselor at school, close fay members and even muny anizatns — for example, Parents, Fai and Friends of Lbians and Gays (PFLAG) — if you’re havg trouble gog alone.

I grew up outsi of New York Cy, the meltg pot, attend llege and worked New York, yet when I found out my son, Jam, age 13, was gay, I reverted to "not my backyard.

PARENTS OF GAY CHILDREN AND THE ISSU THEY FACE

Although he didn't particularly like ntact sports, he didn't exhib the gay stereotypil image: lisp, rabow lors. D., nial is the most mon ial reactn of parents to the joltg news that their child is gay.

When I terviewed straight parents for When Your Child Is Gay, they ed words such as fear, shock, helplsns, strs, and extreme sadns to scribe their experienc wh nial. Why do parents who are normally acceptg of their children go to the nial zone upon learng that their child is gay, bisexual, even transgenr? Tobk, who is private practice Manhattan, do not expect their child to be gay.

However, be sure you pick a gay-iendly one om an anizatn such as the Amerin Associatn of Psychiatrists that has a divisn of gay therapists om which to choose. They will be empathetic and unrstandg and turn will ntribute to your unrstandg of what means to be the parent of a gay child. At PFLAG, you will fd parents who have siar feelgs, thoughts, and reactns to havg a gay child.

WHEN DO GAY KIDS START “ACTG GAY”?

I uldn't be around people who judged me, thought beg gay was a "liftyle" that uld be changed or thought that homosexualy was wrong. As a parent wh no role mols for havg a gay child, I didn't expect to know how to parent a gay child.

You may say that parentg is parentg, but the straight parent of a gay child has to al wh addnal issu such as bullyg, possible low self-teem of their child, discrimatn, to name a few.

FOR GAY MEN, HAVG A BLOGIL CHILD N BE PLITED

The gay child has most likely gone through the same issu that you are now experiencg: nial, fear, guilt, shame, anger, loss, to arrive at acceptance. In future blogs, we will tackle those subjects, jt as When Your Child Is Gay (Sterlg, 2016) do. Both lbians and gay men often have a history of cross-sex-typed behavrs: ltle boys beg fatuated wh their mother's makp k; ltle girls enamored of field hockey or profsnal wrtlg.

Prehomosexual boys tend to be more attracted to solary sports such as swimmg, cyclg and tennis than they are to rougher ntact sports such as football and soccer. Children who show pronounced sex-atypil behavrs may have more of a geic loadg to their homosexualy. The behavral patterns are feared, loathed and often spoken of directly as harbgers of adult homosexualy.

It is only relatively recently, however, that velopmental scientists have nducted ntrolled studi to intify the earlit and most reliable signs of adult homosexualy. In lookg refully at the childhoods of gay adults, rearchers are fdg an trigug set of behavral ditors that homosexuals seem to have mon. Curly enough, the age-old homophobic fears of many parents reflect some genue predictive currency.