A recent study om Brazil shows how gay and bisexual men’s attus toward masculy and femy affect their mental health.
Contents:
- 6 STEPS TOWARDS WHOLE-HEARTEDLY LOVG YOURSELF AS A FEME GAY MAN
- CALL ME BY MY PRONOUNS: WHY GAY MEN CALL EACH OTHER "GIRL"
- WHY EFFEMATE GAYS ARE FABULO
- THERE ARE SOME BEAUTIFUL FEME GAY MEN OUT THERE.
- GAY MEN DISCRIMATE AGAST FEME GAY MEN, NEW STUDY FDS
- THE ‘GAY GLASS CEILG’ IS REAL: HERE’S WHY FEME MEN GET OVERLOOKED FOR LEARSHIP ROL, REARCHERS SAY
- GAY AND STRAIGHT MEN PREFER MASCULE-PRENTG GAY MEN FOR A HIGH-STAT ROLE: EVINCE FROM AN ELOGILLY VALID EXPERIMENT
- BUTCH, FEMME, OR STRAIGHT ACTG? PARTNER PREFERENC OF GAY MEN AND LBIANS
- GAY STEREOTYP: ARE THEY TE?
6 STEPS TOWARDS WHOLE-HEARTEDLY LOVG YOURSELF AS A FEME GAY MAN
* feminine gay man *
I loathe g the word victim, but seems the most accurate terms of the young, feme gay male experience – an experience which we’re never even given a shot to love ourselv bee we’re told not to om the start. Bee men are limed to a ually very toxic performance of masculy as the flt genr exprsn, they are prevented om explorg a full range of exprsns – which is where the non-unpacked jealoy of feme gay men om.
In the world of cis, gay mal this system promot, empowers, and otherwise glorifi those who are able to mimic heteronormative standards (as , folks AMAB should be mascule, mcular, and heterosexual). Unrstandg that homonormativy do not serve queer people, but rather discrimat and ps them agast one another, showed me that society wanted me to be more like them, which only ma me want to be more like myself. Meetg other feme gay men has allowed me to bee the most fully realized versn of myself – a person who wears their femy wh pri, a person who regniz how strong they are for growg up a “glass closet, ” and a person who is open to new people and new experienc – not jt those approved by a homonormative queer society.
I want to speak directly to you, the rear, and tell you that I won’t judge you if you don’t leave this article wh a burng passn for feme gay men hotter than one thoand suns, bee that wasn’t the purpose of this story. Creatg a shared culture — cludg language — around femy n be a way of reclaimg the bas for opprsn many gay men have experienced, as well as disptg the harmful genr few if any lguistic practic are all one thg, all the time.
CALL ME BY MY PRONOUNS: WHY GAY MEN CALL EACH OTHER "GIRL"
LGBT Foundatn is a natnal chary liverg advice, support and rmatn servic to lbian, gay, bisexual and trans (LGBT) muni. * feminine gay man *
It’s not a recent formatn at all, ” explas William Leap, an emer profsor of anthropology at Amerin Universy and pneerg expert on queer men llg each other "she" or "girl" was historilly a way of protectg themselv as well as buildg muny the ntext of homophobic and vlent mastream culture. ”Consirg misogyny wh gay men’s language practic rais the qutn of how g words like “girl” or “honey” is nnected to their e of other, more ntroversial words that have historilly been ed to mean women, such as “bch” and “cunt.
WHY EFFEMATE GAYS ARE FABULO
I want alphas but I've met three gay guys and they are so betiful but why aren't they more valued this piece of sh muny? So they aren't mcular ripped wh pecs and abs - they've got ... * feminine gay man *
”“Gay men are a large group of people wh a lot of different kds of relatnships to genr, and I thk there are absolutely gay men who operate relatn to feme language that really is a reflectn of their male privilege, whether ’s through g ways that nigrate or stereotype women, or whether ’s jt feelg license to e the language how they see f, ” says Zimman, the lguist om UC Santa Barbara. Paris Is Burng, the 1990 documentary on Harlem’s drag ball scene, as well as Drag Race, have brought the e of words like "she" and "girl" between Black and Latx drag queens to a wir gay (and straight) dience; today this is somethg employed by gay men of all rac. Wealthy whe gay cis men llg each other "girl" may be drastilly different om Black or Latx gay cis men who ntue to be margalized very different is visible a film like Paris Is Burng, a few s ago there were more shared spac, language, and culture between cis gay men, trans women, and genr-nonnformg dividuals.
THERE ARE SOME BEAUTIFUL FEME GAY MEN OUT THERE.
Flamboyant gay men are overlooked for learship rol, ls likely to get terviews, and offered lower salari than their straight male unterparts. * feminine gay man *
“Wh ‘girl/she/her, ’” they say, “if I’m socializg wh cis gay men and that’s what they’re g to scribe each other and to scribe me, there is a ltle b of dissonance there, bee I’m not really sure if they’re g that to validate my genr, or if ’s beg ed as ’s ed wh other cis gay men. From there, they were spl to three subgroups: those who sired to be more feme, those who wanted to be ls feme, and those who were happy the way they the participants, 80% were gay, 17% were bisexual, and 2. ”The survey asssed negative attus towards effemacy, ternalized homophobia, and outns and found that negative attus toward effemacy n e shame, self-hatred, and hostily towards others, while ternalized homophobia n e mental health issu like anxiety, prsn, and low self teem.
GAY MEN DISCRIMATE AGAST FEME GAY MEN, NEW STUDY FDS
There is creased acceptance of gay men most Wtern societi. Neverthels, evince suggts that feme-prentg gay men are still disadvantage * feminine gay man *
Internalized homophobia also wh “elements of sexism, prejudice agast women and femy, ” acrdg to sum, the men who sired to be more mascule had the most negative attus toward effemacy, srg over 10 pots higher than their effemate peers.
“Those who are not fortable wh how effemate they are and would like to be or appear more mascule (even if they publicly intify themselv as non-effemate) also tend to have higher rat of ternalized homophobia, ” Ramos told them.
THE ‘GAY GLASS CEILG’ IS REAL: HERE’S WHY FEME MEN GET OVERLOOKED FOR LEARSHIP ROL, REARCHERS SAY
On average, gay men are somewhat feme and lbians somewhat mascule, but there is variatn wh each group. The thors examed the nsequenc of this variatn for gay men's and lbians' sirabily as romantic partners. In 2 studi the thors analyzed personal advertisements. Homos … * feminine gay man *
”Rearchers are fdg that racism, petn, and a fixatn on sex wh the gay and bi muny are drivg anxiety and thors note that the study ntaed some bld spots, sce looked only at Brazilian men, and attus around genr n vary between cultur and ethnici. In Lat Ameri and particularly Brazil, “ is very mon that, om the pot of view of those who exprs prejudice, social norms related to genr overlap norms related to sexualy, ” said Costa claimed the LGBTQ+ muny has done a “great job” at rcg prejudice around sexualy, has yet to grapple wh genr “hierarchi” that overvalue mascule exprsn and value those that are seen as feme, he explaed, addg that the stereotyp are often “reified” through media everyone, not jt queer people, needs to play a role rcg ternalized homophobia, acrdg to Ramos. I remember growg up, my sister always thkg I was gay bee I’ve always had a feme speech and posture; the “limp wrist” as people ll , I always cross my legs right when I s and re very much about my fashn choic, etc.
Problematic statements like “no fems, ” “no queens” or “masc4masc” equently ed on datg apps only foreground the need to challenge the prejudice faced by mp, feme gay men om members of their own muny. In an overwrought attempt to pe such negative nnotatns of femy appears that, many gay men (and ed men general) have ventured too far the oppose directn, supprsg the feme sis of their nature the procs. Once we realise that femy and mpns aren’t flaws or weakns, that homosexualy is not e for shame, that masculy isn’t exclive to straight men and femy isn’t exclive to straight women, that genr is more fluid than rigid bary norms lead to thk, we will stop discrimatg agast those we should be showg solidary towards stead.
That means a person of any genr n be attracted to someone who intifi as female or who exprs feme sexual orientatn terms such as “homosexualy” or “heterosexualy, ” gynosexualy do not specify the person’s own genr relatn to their sexual orientatn. After all, my father's masculy is all she has ever known to expect om the male speci, and I'm sure my effemacy was strange to tly strange thg is my prized mascule father has never brought up my effemacy or gayns.
GAY AND STRAIGHT MEN PREFER MASCULE-PRENTG GAY MEN FOR A HIGH-STAT ROLE: EVINCE FROM AN ELOGILLY VALID EXPERIMENT
Both gay men and heterosexual men prefer mascule-prentg men for high-stat rol, acrdg to a new study om the Universy of Sydney, leavg more feme-prentg gay men disadvantaged and facg ternal bias, prejudice and potential discrimatn the workplace, cludg hirg practic and promotn opportuni. The rearch published the peer-reviewed journal Sex Rol is believed to be the first experimental study to monstrate stat sts for gay men who prent wh more feme than mascule quali across workplace hierarchi.
BUTCH, FEMME, OR STRAIGHT ACTG? PARTNER PREFERENC OF GAY MEN AND LBIANS
Gerrard, (himself a profsnal actor) created vios of six shortlisted "ndidat" g profsnal actors, all gay men real-life, who acted the same script both a feme-gay and mascule-gay manner (manipulatg their voice, mannerisms, and posture but otherwise everythg else was kept intil).
"We operate teams-based workplac now where effective learship quali—warmth, empathy and good munitn—are all nsired feme tras, and a more feme-prentg gay man might be an ial ndidate for a learship role, " Mr.
GAY STEREOTYP: ARE THEY TE?
Dpe prentg effective “feme” learship tras like empathy, nurturance, and terpersonal sensivy, flamboyant gay men are more likely to be passed up for learship rol, acrdg to a Universy of Sydney study.
The study, published the journal Sex Rol, explas that this uld be down to negative stereotyp that still exist today that gay men are “feme and are therefore perceived as ls equipped to occupy higher-stat posns social hierarchi, such as the workplace.
The rearchers also found that for heterosexual men, antigay sentiments fluenced their preference for a mascule-prentg gay ndidate; meanwhile, sexism fluenced both heterosexual and gay participants’ vot.