‘Gay glass ceilg’: why more feme men get passed over for learship rol | Life and style | The Guardian

Contents:

• THERE ARE SOME BEAUTIFUL FEME GAY MEN OUT THERE.
• BORN TO BOTTOM? REARCHERS REPORT BLOGIL CORRELATNS ANAL SEX ROLE GAY MEN
• WHY DO GAY MEN HAVE TO BE SO FEME?
• GAY MEN DISCRIMATE AGAST FEME GAY MEN, NEW STUDY FDS
• THE ‘GAY GLASS CEILG’ IS REAL: HERE’S WHY FEME MEN GET OVERLOOKED FOR LEARSHIP ROL, REARCHERS SAY
• GAY STEREOTYP: ARE THEY TE?
• BUTCH, FEMME, OR STRAIGHT ACTG? PARTNER PREFERENC OF GAY MEN AND LBIANS
• ‘GAY GLASS CEILG’: WHY MORE FEME MEN GET PASSED OVER FOR LEARSHIP ROL

THERE ARE SOME BEAUTIFUL FEME GAY MEN OUT THERE.

I remember growg up, my sister always thkg I was gay bee I’ve always had a feme speech and posture; the “limp wrist” as people ll , I always cross my legs right when I s and re very much about my fashn choic, etc. I don't re if a gay man has feme mannerisms, however, a gay man that is so feme to the pot of lookg like a female physilly speakg, that's a plete turn off and dick wilter! Queer men who harbor negative attus about effemacy suffer om ternalized homophobia more than those who don’t, acrdg to a report the journal Trends Psychology.

All were over 18, intified as eher gay or bisexual, and were separated to two groups: those who saw themselv as maly mascule and those who saw themselv as primarily feme. From there, they were spl to three subgroups: those who sired to be more feme, those who wanted to be ls feme, and those who were happy the way they the participants, 80% were gay, 17% were bisexual, and 2.

BORN TO BOTTOM? REARCHERS REPORT BLOGIL CORRELATNS ANAL SEX ROLE GAY MEN

”The survey asssed negative attus towards effemacy, ternalized homophobia, and outns and found that negative attus toward effemacy n e shame, self-hatred, and hostily towards others, while ternalized homophobia n e mental health issu like anxiety, prsn, and low self teem. Internalized homophobia also wh “elements of sexism, prejudice agast women and femy, ” acrdg to sum, the men who sired to be more mascule had the most negative attus toward effemacy, srg over 10 pots higher than their effemate peers.

“Those who are not fortable wh how effemate they are and would like to be or appear more mascule (even if they publicly intify themselv as non-effemate) also tend to have higher rat of ternalized homophobia, ” Ramos told them. ”Rearchers are fdg that racism, petn, and a fixatn on sex wh the gay and bi muny are drivg anxiety and thors note that the study ntaed some bld spots, sce looked only at Brazilian men, and attus around genr n vary between cultur and ethnici.

In Lat Ameri and particularly Brazil, “ is very mon that, om the pot of view of those who exprs prejudice, social norms related to genr overlap norms related to sexualy, ” said Costa claimed the LGBTQ+ muny has done a “great job” at rcg prejudice around sexualy, has yet to grapple wh genr “hierarchi” that overvalue mascule exprsn and value those that are seen as feme, he explaed, addg that the stereotyp are often “reified” through media everyone, not jt queer people, needs to play a role rcg ternalized homophobia, acrdg to Ramos. ”Bis, our clothg n no longer tomatilly be nsired a “tell” for anythg, as was reprsive eras when, say, closeted gay men were forced to signal their sexualy to each other through the kd of d sartorial gtur that gave rise to slurs like “queer as Dick’s hatband. While a sgle factor (the elive “gay gene, ” for example) has yet to emerge the ongog scientific vtigatn of what term sexualy, there are a host of theori.

WHY DO GAY MEN HAVE TO BE SO FEME?

”‘Surf Girls Hawai’i’ is the Real-Life ‘Blue Csh’ We’ve Waed 21 Years ForOffEnglishRegardls of how wi-rangg the studi are, they tend to have one thg mon: they treat gay men as a monolhic group. VanrLaan) has vtigated variatn wh the populatn of gay men based on their anal-sex rol (that is bottom, or receptive, top, or perative, and versatile, or both receptive and perative pendg on circumstance). The rults of two of their studi suggt there very well uld be blogil subgroups of gay men, which is to say that one’s blogil makp uld possibly (and most likely, directly) fluence whether or not he lik to fuck or get fucked (or both) has been studied, anal-sex role has been viewed as a rult of social factors (more on that a mute).

GAY MEN DISCRIMATE AGAST FEME GAY MEN, NEW STUDY FDS

Dpe every study I’ve read that asks about the anal-sex role of s rponnts has found that the majory men who have sex wh men intify as versatile (cludg the two studi at hand om the Universy of Toronto team) as well as my own anecdotal experience suggtg as much, the top/bottom bary persists gay culture. And wh the assumptns of femy men e sults (“bottom” as a pejorative amongst gay men) and wh those e a specific kd of shame addn to the shame many gay men already experience merely livg a heterosexual perhaps if the variatn among gay men has blogil basis, uld help make one’s sir, not to mentn those of others, ls ght or timidatg, for one thg.

“What’s tertg about this work is even among a group of dividuals who are pretty siar terms of their sexual preference—that is, gay men preferrg men—there uld be a diverse set of procs that lead them to exhib that same sexual orientatn oute, ” explaed VanrLaan, an assistant profsor the Universy of Toronto Mississga’s Department of Psychology, and the senr thor on two recent papers: “Handns is a bmarker of variatn anal sex role behavr and Relled Childhood Genr Nonnformy among gay men, ” published on PLOS One, and “Genr Nonnformy and Birth Orr Relatn to Anal Sex Role Among Gay Men, ” published Archiv of Sexual studi built on prev rearch suggtg that gay men are more likely to be genr-nonnformg (“ls terted , say, male-typil [exhibg] ls mascule personaly characteristics, ” said VanrLaan), are more likely to be non-right hand than their straight unterparts, and are more likely to have olr brothers ( what’s known as the aternal birth orr effect, which technilly poss that the more olr brothers a man has om the same mother, the more likely he is to be gay). The Universy of Toronto team ntacted what would bee their sample of men durg the 2015 Toronto Pri ftivi and asked them to fill out onle surveys regardg their sexual posng (both preference and behavr—there was discernible variatn between the two), their relled childhood genr nonnformy (which was assigned a number through a regularly ed 23-em qutnnaire The Relled Childhood Genr Inty/Genr Role Qutnnaire, which asks qutns like “As a child my bt or clost iend was 1-always a boy, to 5-always a girl, ” and “In fantasy or pretend play, I took the role 1-only of boys or men, to 5-only of girls or women), their handns, and their amount of siblgs (the sampl of the two studi were almost intil, wh 91 straight men surveyed both studi, and 242 gay men the handns study vers the 243 men of the birth orr study). ”The team’s ultimate fdgs poted to statistilly signifint variatn amongst the gay men, wh bottoms beg more likely wh the sampled populatns to be genr-nonnformg (Table 1) and non-right hand (Table 2), as well as to have a higher proportn of olr brothers (Table 3):Note that the handns study found the strongt lks terms of behavr (i.

As wh all self-reported studi, this one had s limatns (we n never ignore how sex-based shame may lor some gay men’s rpons regardg their sexual terts and practic, for example).

THE ‘GAY GLASS CEILG’ IS REAL: HERE’S WHY FEME MEN GET OVERLOOKED FOR LEARSHIP ROL, REARCHERS SAY

” Nothg about the fdgs is meant to be all-enpassg; ed, this very post has been wrten by a right-hand gay man wh only younger sisters and who intifi as antly versatile. For example, a fascatg paper om January’s Archiv of Sexual Behavr, “Regnn and Constctn of Top, Bottom, and Versatile Orientatns Gay/Bisexual Men, ” Northwtern Universy’s David A.

He emailed back this rponse:I specifilly nducted [the “Regnn and Constctn of Top, Bottom, and Versatile Orientatns Gay/Bisexual Men”] study to try to prove that anal perative role was far more nate than ever thought. However, we found both the chronology of gay and bisexual men’s self-labelg of their perative rol and their attudal measur, evince to suggt that unrstandg and assigng a role veloped over time.

I only began to feel a sense of acceptance or belongg when I started to py what everyone else did, lghg when others lghed at a homophobic joke, or only wearg certa lours that ma me look more rried to adulthood; my ternalized homophobia me om my fear of beg different, and I looked down on anyone who tried to be different. Havg a culture of acceptance all year is greater than the sum of rabow products you sell a culture of acceptance all year is greater than the sum of rabow products you sell universy Vanuver and returng to Wnipeg I uld see my ternalized homophobia narrative beg perpetuated the lol muny - I believe the number of Asian folks who are closeted the cy is a direct rrelatn to the lack of reprentatn of 2SLGBTQ+ folks the cy. That means a person of any genr n be attracted to someone who intifi as female or who exprs feme sexual orientatn terms such as “homosexualy” or “heterosexualy, ” gynosexualy do not specify the person’s own genr relatn to their sexual orientatn.

GAY STEREOTYP: ARE THEY TE?

Problematic statements like “no fems, ” “no queens” or “masc4masc” equently ed on datg apps only foreground the need to challenge the prejudice faced by mp, feme gay men om members of their own muny.

Consequently, mp/feme men are often tomatilly tegorised as gay (or at least placed on the ‘maybe’ pile), visible a way that other, more mascule, ‘straight-actg’ gay men are not. This n attract homophobic attentn, which is possibly part of the reason why many gay men feel the need to ‘pass’ as straight; to avoid beg sgled out as a target for abe, judgement and discrimatn.

BUTCH, FEMME, OR STRAIGHT ACTG? PARTNER PREFERENC OF GAY MEN AND LBIANS

However, the ncept of ‘passg’ as straight (or even as a certa genr if you’re trans) is highly troublg; impli that beg both feme and male, and/or homosexual is shameful and unsirable. It also impli that there’s an patibily between homosexualy and masculy, that masculy is an exclively heterosexual male tra – which is accurate, bee mascule gay men exist. Historilly, homosexualy has been reprented – and even ridiculed – as a illy mp cliché, and so, unrstandably, many gay men wanted to distance themselv om such rtrictive, rctive stereotyp.

In an overwrought attempt to pe such negative nnotatns of femy appears that, many gay men (and ed men general) have ventured too far the oppose directn, supprsg the feme sis of their nature the procs. Once we realise that femy and mpns aren’t flaws or weakns, that homosexualy is not e for shame, that masculy isn’t exclive to straight men and femy isn’t exclive to straight women, that genr is more fluid than rigid bary norms lead to thk, we will stop discrimatg agast those we should be showg solidary towards stead. Both gay men and heterosexual men prefer mascule-prentg men for high-stat rol, acrdg to a new study om the Universy of Sydney, leavg more feme-prentg gay men disadvantaged and facg ternal bias, prejudice and potential discrimatn the workplace, cludg hirg practic and promotn opportuni.

‘GAY GLASS CEILG’: WHY MORE FEME MEN GET PASSED OVER FOR LEARSHIP ROL

The rearch published the peer-reviewed journal Sex Rol is believed to be the first experimental study to monstrate stat sts for gay men who prent wh more feme than mascule quali across workplace hierarchi.

Gerrard says the fdg that gay men prefer a more "straight-actg" gay man for high-stat rol is disappotg and potentially creatg a gay glass ceilg workplac. Gerrard said while gay men appear to enjoy creasg equaly and reprentatn Wtern cultur, they are still disadvantaged pursug high-stat opportuni, pared to heterosexual men.