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Contents:

• STRAIGHT WOMEN AND THEIR GAY HBANDS
• SEND HUNTER BIN IRS WHISTLEBLOWER INTIFIED AS GAY DEMOCRAT
• WHY ARE THERE GAY WOMEN?
• I WAS MARRIED WH 2 KIDS WHEN I REALIZED I’M GAY
• UNRSTANDG GAY & LBIAN INTI
• WHAT DO "GAY" MEAN?
• WHY STRAIGHT WOMEN ARE ATTRACTED TO GAY MEN
• AM I GAY?
• HOW TO KNOW IF YOU ARE GAY

STRAIGHT WOMEN AND THEIR GAY HBANDS

My Hband’s Not Gay, a show on TLC, has ed an uproar. Why do some people bee so outspoken and judgmental about marriag wh one straight and one gay spoe?

Fally, the relatnships suggt to some people “reparative therapy, ” the uhil and impossible claim that a person n be changed om gay to straight. The men this televisn program aren’t claimg to be ex-gay nor that they n change their sexual orientatn (at least not on the show).

They report they are attracted to men but choose not to live as a gay man and their straight wiv accept this. People seem to get up arms when a man says he is not gay but rather simply attracted to men. In our culture, we intify ourselv via a sexual-attractn bary: gay or straight.

SEND HUNTER BIN IRS WHISTLEBLOWER INTIFIED AS GAY DEMOCRAT

Later, their gay sexual inti surface and here they are—heterosexually married wh children. Many straight women married to gay men nscly choose to do so wh their ey wi open. There are plenty of wiv who choose to stay married even after fdg out later the marriage that their hband is gay and attracted to men.

They make this choice wh open discsns, which are very paful and emotnal for both the gay man and the straight wife. ” To the man, I say, “Consir whether you n really keep your homosexual feelgs and sir check.

You might be able to claim your inty by meetg ocsnally wh gay men, stayg touch on Facebook, and lettg your gay iends know that you want to rema sexually fahful to your wife. I warn mixed-orientatn upl that he may feel differently later life and his gayns may surface more strongly and bee more of an inty for him and th bee an issue their marriage.

WHY ARE THERE GAY WOMEN?

Both the gay man and the straight spoe share the risk of stayg married. Both straight and gay muni put enormo prsure on the man and woman a mixed-orientatn marriage, and few marriag n stand up unr this social, fay, and relig prsure. Some upl try to “live straight” and image that they will be able to not acknowledge the hband’s gayns any way.

Generally, a gay man will feel a lot of emotnal distrs, grief, and prsn if he is livg so eply the closet.

This will happen even if, or maybe I should say pecially if, he is nial about his gayns. If your hband says he didn’t know he was gay when he married you, he most likely didn’t know. Most of my male clients who are gay and married to women didn’t know that their inty was gay when they married.

I WAS MARRIED WH 2 KIDS WHEN I REALIZED I’M GAY

They often don’t know their inty is gay when they first e to see me. He most likely terpreted his gay terts as sexual “kks, ” and he nvced himself they would fa away after he married.

Typilly the men are homophobic and want me to reassure them and their wiv that they aren’t gay. I’ve heard more than once, “I’m not gay.

UNRSTANDG GAY & LBIAN INTI

” The gay men intify their behavr as “only sexual. A gay man n tly love a woman, have satisfyg and regular sex wh her, and want to stay married to her while beg unterted other women sexually.

That is, the man is still gay, and he lov you. She may fear that bee he is gay, he will leave her.

WHAT DO "GAY" MEAN?

He may fear that if he adms he is gay, she will leave him. The big qutn is: How n a gay man affirm his inty wh other gay men and at the same time rema te to his wife?

Matag a mixed-orientatn marriage requir endurg the strs of keepg the secrets that one of them is gay and beg discreet how they live their liv.

A prevly anonymo IRS whistleblower ttifyg about an vtigatn to Hunter Bin me forward Wednday, intifyg as a gay Democrat who wanted to do the “right thg.

WHY STRAIGHT WOMEN ARE ATTRACTED TO GAY MEN

Straight women are much more likely to get themselv knocked up than gay women. So, terms of evolutn, they would seem to have a better chance of passg on their gen, while at the same time would seem that the gen that make women gay would quickly vanish om the gene pool.

AM I GAY?

This rais the qutn, why are there gay women? While scientists have a theory for how male homosexualy propagat om one generatn to the next, no one has yet produced a viable explanatn for how the gen that promote lbianism might do the same. [Why Are There Gay Men?

A study by Dutch psychologists published the March issue of the Journal of Sexual Medice reported that 10 to 12 percent of male and female children who feel disfort wh their genr go on to intify as gay or lbian as adults. Meanwhile, jt 1 or 2 percent of children who are fortable wh their genr inty turn out to be gay or to the nfn about what lbianism is the slippers of female sexualy self. Therefore, the qutn "why are there gay women?

HOW TO KNOW IF YOU ARE GAY

" Plenty of women exist at both extrem of the straight-gay spectm, but is the formatn of this slippery spectm self that most needs explag.

Adam* said was dangero to e out as gay his home untry and feared beg forced to an arranged marriage wh a said he was "so lucky" to wed his soulmate, Ray, Manchter and wish everyone uld marry who they love. There are more than 60 untri wh laws that crimalise same-sex sexual acts acrdg to the Internatnal Lbian, Gay, Bisexual, Trans and Intersex Associatn, cludg Sdi Arabia. 'Authentilly myself'Ray said he had also stggled growg up gay the 1970s and 80s England, which was "tough" said his relig school "dmmed to you, 'you are gog to hell'" Adam returned home to Sdi Arabia, spe beg more than 3, 000 apart and later rtricted by the Covid-19 panmic, they kept touch daily and the romance years ago, Ray proposed on a vio ll and after succsfully applyg for a UK fiancé visa, Adam moved to Manchter December 2022.

Adam said he had been aaid to even wear lours his home untry so the first thg he did when he moved was start to "grow my mullet, got my ears pierced and booked appotments for tattoos" relled how, ntrast, one of his gay iends Sdi had been forced to marry a woman, addg: "It has ed not only his life but the life of his wife. The uple, who live London, said a "really betiful memory" was on the way home when one of their sons shouted out of the black b wdow to Trafalgar Square, "My dads jt got married" and cheered "Yay, gay marriage". "Navratilova, a trailblazer for gay rights, tweeted a one-word rponse: "Yik...