20 years of gay marriage the Netherlands: 20 thoand upl

HOW MANY GAY MARRIAG END IN DIVORCE?
GAY DIVORCE AND STRAIGHT DIVORCE: THE DIFFERENCE
21 AMAZG GAY MARRIAGE DIVORCE RATE STATISTICS
CELEBRATG MY (GAY) DIVORCE
WHAT IS THE GAY DIVORCE RATE THE US?
WHY LBIAN UPL ARE MORE LIKELY TO DIVORCE THAN GAY ON
CELEBRATG MY (GAY) DIVORCE
WHY LBIAN UPL ARE MORE LIKELY TO DIVORCE THAN GAY ON
LBIANS ARE GETTG DIVORCED AT AN ALARMG RATE. I WAS ONE OF THEMARE WE JT WIRED THIS WAY?{FONT:NORMAL 800 1.2REM/1.2 "D BOLD",SANS-SERIF;TEXT-TRANSFORM:NORMAL;LOR:HER;DISPLAY:LE-BLOCK;PADDG-BOTTOM:6PX;POSN:RELATIVE;TEXT-TRANSFORM:UPPERSE;}{BACKGROUND:#89308A;BOTTOM:0;NTENT:'';DISPLAY:BLOCK;HEIGHT:2PX;LEFT:0;POSN:ABSOLUTE;RIGHT:0;-WEBK-TRANSN:ALL 0.2S EASE;TRANSN:ALL 0.2S EASE;WIDTH:100%;}{LEFT:51%;RIGHT:51%;WIDTH:0;}{FONT:NORMAL 800 1.2REM/1.2 "D BOLD",SANS-SERIF;TEXT-TRANSFORM:NORMAL;LOR:HER;DISPLAY:LE-BLOCK;PADDG-BOTTOM:6PX;POSN:RELATIVE;TEXT-TRANSFORM:UPPERSE;}{BACKGROUND:#89308A;BOTTOM:0;NTENT:'';DISPLAY:BLOCK;HEIGHT:2PX;LEFT:0;POSN:ABSOLUTE;RIGHT:0;-WEBK-TRANSN:ALL 0.2S EASE;TRANSN:ALL 0.2S EASE;WIDTH:100%;}{LEFT:51%;RIGHT:51%;WIDTH:0;}LIFEBY TRISH BENDIXOCTOBER 23, 2017/11:35 {HEIGHT:HER;DISPLAY:-WEBK-BOX;DISPLAY:-WEBK-FLEX;DISPLAY:-MS-FLEXBOX;DISPLAY:FLEX;POSN:RELATIVE;-WEBK-FLEX-WRAP:WRAP;-MS-FLEX-WRAP:WRAP;FLEX-WRAP:WRAP;-WEBK-ALIGN-EMS:CENTER;-WEBK-BOX-ALIGN:CENTER;-MS-FLEX-ALIGN:CENTER;ALIGN-EMS:CENTER;-WEBK-BOX-PACK:CENTER;-WEBK-JTIFY-NTENT:CENTER;-MS-FLEX-PACK:CENTER;JTIFY-NTENT:CENTER;-WEBK-TRANSFORM-ORIG:CENTER;-MS-TRANSFORM-ORIG:CENTER;TRANSFORM-ORIG:CENTER;} IMG{HEIGHT:100%;WIDTH:100%;OBJECT-F:VER;}{HEIGHT:574PX;WIDTH:1020PX;}GETTY IMAGCIVIL PARTNERSHIP LBIAN DIVORCE KEBY TRISH BENDIXOCTOBER 23, 2017 / 11:35 AM{"@NTEXT":","@TYPE":"NEWSARTICLE","HEADLE":"LBIANS ARE GETTG DIVORCED AT AN ALARMG RATE. I WAS ONE OF THEM","THUMBNAILURL":","DATEPUBLISHED":"2017-10-23T15:35:33.000+0000","DATEMODIFIED":"2017-10-23T15:35:33.000+0000","IMAGE":{"@NTEXT":","@TYPE":"IMAGEOBJECT","URL":","WIDTH":1920,"HEIGHT":1080},"URL":","THOR":{"@TYPE":"ORGANIZATN","NAME":"LOGO TV"},"MAENTYOFPAGE":{"@TYPE":"WEBPAGE","@ID":"},"PUBLISHER":{"@TYPE":"ORGANIZATN","@ID":","NAME":"LOGO TV","URL":","LOGO":{"@TYPE":"IMAGEOBJECT"}},"CREATOR":"TRISH BENDIX","KEYWORDS":"MARRIAGE EQUALY, LOVE AND SEX, OPN","ARTICLESECTN":"LIFE"}{BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}I GOT ENGAGED WHEN I WAS 25. I HAD BEEN DATG MY GIRLIEND FOR LS THAN A YEAR AND WE ALREADY LIVED TOGETHER. THE PROPOSAL SURPRISED ME—I DIDN'T KNOW WHAT ELSE TO SAY BUT "Y," BEE THAT'S JT WHAT YOU'RE SUPPOSED TO SAY, RIGHT?{BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}THEN SUDNLY EVERYONE WAS ASKG WHEN THE WEDDG WAS AND I WAS MARRIED BY 27 (LEGALLY, IOWA, ONE OF FEW STAT THAT ALLOWED SAME-SEX MARRIAGE AT THE TIME).{BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}MAYBE 27 SEEMS LIKE A TOTALLY NORMAL AGE TO GET MARRIED—MY MOM HAD ME AT 27—BUT NSIRG I'D SENTIALLY SHED TO , WASN'T IAL FOR ME. AND SO, UNSURPRISGLY, END DIVORCE. A NEW STUDY OM THE UNED KGDOM OFFICE FOR NATNAL STATISTICS (ONS) SUGGTS I WAS SOMETHG OF A TRENDSETTER.GETTY IMAGSIMPLE GAY/LBIAN MARRIAGE GRAPHIC WH TWO FEMALE STICK FIGUR HOLDG HANDS WH TWO WEDDG RGS SI A THOUGHT {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}MARRIAGE EQUALY ME TO THE UK MARCH 2014: THREE MONTHS LATER, THERE WERE 1,409 SAME-SEX MARRIAG, 56% (796) OF WHICH WERE WOMEN. BY 2015, 22 OF THOSE UPL BROKE UP. BUT 2016, THE NUMBER OF DIVORC LEAPED TO 112, MORE THAN THREE-QUARTERS OF WHICH (87) WERE LBIAN {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}THE MOST MON REASON FOR THOSE SPLS WAS "UNREASONABLE BEHAVR"—WHICH N MEAN ANYTHG OM REFG TO GET A JOB TO BEG UNFAHFUL. BUT SOCLOGISTS BELIEVE THE HIGHER DIVORCE RATE AMONG LBIANS IS ED BY WOMEN HAVG HIGHER EXPECTATNS AND SHG TO A {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}EVEN BEFORE SAME-SEX MARRIAGE ME TO BRA, LBIAN UPL WERE NEARLY TWICE AS LIKELY AS GAY MEN TO END A CIVIL PARTNERSHIP. OF THE 794 PARTNERSHIPS DISSOLVED 2012, ALMOST 60% WERE BY FEMALE {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}GUNNAR ANRSSON, PROFSOR OF MOGRAPHY AT STOCKHOLM UNIVERSY, FOUND THE SAME TREND A 2013 STUDY OF CIVIL PARTNERSHIPS NORWAY, SWEN, AND DENMARK. QUEER WOMEN WERE TWICE AS LIKELY TO DISSOLVE THEIR SAME-SEX PARTNERSHIPS AS {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}“THIS REFLECTS TRENDS A HETEROSEXUAL MARRIAGE—BEE WOMEN ARE MORE PRONE TO SAY THEY WANT TO MARRY, BUT THEY’RE ALSO MORE LIKELY TO IATE A DIVORCE," HE TOLD THE INPENNT. "WOMEN UALLY HAVE HIGHER MANDS ON RELATNSHIP QUALY, THAT’S [BEEN SHOWN] STUDI. EVEN IF YOU NTROL FOR AGE THERE IS STILL A TREND OF MORE WOMEN ENDG PARTNERSHIPS THAN MEN."WOMEN WH RELATNSHIP {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}I ADM I HAD HIGH EXPECTATNS FOR MY MARRIAGE, BUT I WASN'T THE LTLE GIRL WHO DREAMED OF A WHE DRS AND BIG FORMAL WEDDG. I ACTUALLY DIDN'T EVEN REALLY FANTASIZE ABOUT BEG SOMEONE'S WIFE. BUT DIDN'T I, A FEMIST LBIAN WHO DON'T SUBSCRIBE TO SOCIETY'S EXPECTATN OF WHAT A "WOMAN" SHOULD BE, WANT TO BE WANTED?{BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}I'M SECURE ENOUGH (NOW, ANYWAY) TO ADM THAT ULD'VE BEEN A PART OF WHY I SAID "I DO." THE IA OF MARRIAGE WAS ROMANTIC, BUT THE REALY? NOT SO MUCH. AND AT 25 (OR 26, OR 27), I DIDN'T REALIZE HOW MUCH WORK GO TO BEG SOMEONE'S SPOE. BY THE TIME I DID, MY SIRE TO WANT TO BE THE RIGHT SUATN WAS OVERSHADOWED BY THE HONT FACT THAT JT WASN'{BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}MY EX-WIFE WAS (AND PROBABLY STILL IS) FANTASTIC. SHE WAS A DREAM FOR ANYONE WHO WANTS TO SETTLE DOWN, WHICH I THOUGHT I DID. OUR NEWFOUND EEDOM TO MARRY GAVE A NEW DREAM TO ASPIRE TO. BUT WE DIDN'T TAKE THE TIME TO CI IF WAS THE RIGHT DREAM FOR . (MY WIFE WAS SIGNIFINTLY OLR THAN ME. SHE ACHIEVED SOME MEASURE OF THE AMERIN DREAM—A SUCCSFUL REER, A HOE—AND THAT LIKELY FUELED HER SIRE TO TIE THE KNOT, TOO.){BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}A 2011 WILLIAMS INSTUTE STUDY FOUND THAT 134,000 SAME-SEX UPL THE U.S. (ABOUT 21%) WERE LEGALLY BOUND SOME WAY. OF THEM, 62% WERE WOMEN, EVEN THOUGH WOMEN MAKE UP JT 51% OF SAME-SEX RELATNSHIPS. THREE YEARS LATER, THAT PERCENTAGE ROSE TO 64%. IN MASSACHETTS ALONE, THE FIRST STATE TO REGNIZE THE EEDOM TO MARRY, 75% OF GAY UPL TYG THE KNOT WERE {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}IT'S NOT HARD TO NNECT THE DOTS: MORE MARRIAGE MEAN MORE DIVORC. SO WHY ARE LADI SO HASTY TO SAY Y TO THE VT?GETTY {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}MAYBE WE'RE SHG TO MARRIAGE BEE 'S FALLY AVAILABLE TO . BUT FOR QUEER WOMEN, MIGHT BE BEE WE'RE WIRED THAT WAY. IN LBIAN LOVE ADDICTN, LREN D. COSTE SUGGTS WOMEN FD FORT RELATNSHIPS BEE ONCE WE FD A NNECTN, WE FEEL A SH OF DOPAME AND OXYTOC. (LERALLY ALL THE FEELS.){BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}"MEN DON'T EM OXYTOC THE SAME WAY," COSTE TOLD PSYCH CENTRAL. "THEREFORE, WHEN TWO WOMEN GET TOGETHER THE 'OXYFT' IS BEYOND TOXITG."{BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}THE PROBLEM, OF URSE, IS WHAT HAPPENS WHEN THAT CHEMIL SH WEARS {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}THERE'S NOT YET GOOD DATA ON THE SAME-SEX DIVORCE AND DISSOLUTN RATE POST-OBERGEFELL V. HODG—AT LEAST NOT BY GENR. THE WILLIAMS INSTUTE STUDY DID FD THAT THE 19 STAT THAT GRANTED SOME KD OF LEGAL REGNN TO GAY UPL BETWEEN 1997 AND 2011, THE RATE FOR SAME-SEX SPLS WAS ACTUALLY SLIGHTLY LOWER FOR SAME-SEX UPL THAN HETEROSEXUALS. (1.1% ON AVERAGE PARED TO 2%.){BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}DIVORCE IS NEVER FUN (TAKE OM ME), BUT 'S LS EVABLE IF WE ENTER TO MARRIAGE WH PARTNERS WHO ARE REALLY RIGHT FOR , AND WHOM WE'RE REALLY RIGHT FOR. WE OWE TO OURSELV TO PUT THE WORK—OR EVEN MAKE PEACE WH SGLEHOOD—SO WE N STOP LG THE POCKETS OF DIVORCE {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}I'M NOT SAYG LOWER YOUR EXPECTATNS OR HOLD OFF THE ALTAR FOREVER. JT TO NSIR HOW EASY IS TO BEE A ANOTHER STATISTIC STEAD OF HAPPILY EVER {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;CLEAR:BOTH;}MARRIAGE EQUALYLOVE AND {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;MARG:0 TO;WIDTH:90%;M-WIDTH:288PX;MAX-WIDTH:1440PX;M-HEIGHT:194PX;}LATT NEWS
20 YEARS OF GAY MARRIAGE THE NETHERLANDS: 20 THOAND UPL

HOW MANY GAY MARRIAG END IN DIVORCE?

* gay marriage divorce rate *

The statistics may provi some sight to how the legalizatn of same-sex marriage has affected the divorce rate among gay and lbian Marriag Takg PlaceSce the legalizatn of same-sex marriag 2015, there has been a drastic crease the unns.

This also means that lbian divorce rat are higher than other same-sex upl and about twice as likely to file for divorce as gay upl. Many people thk gay upl or gay marriag tend not to last long or that they are not lifelong marriag. Bee more and more untri all around the world are regnizg gay marriage, the surge gay upl choosg to get married means we have more data than ever before.

GAY DIVORCE AND STRAIGHT DIVORCE: THE DIFFERENCE

Regardls of sexual orientatn, is important for an dividual to unrstand the differenc between gay divorce and straight divorce. * gay marriage divorce rate *

The Netherlands, which legally regnized gay marriage before any other untry the world, has the most data.

One study suggts that approximately 15% of gay marriag end divorce wh 10 years, as opposed to 18% their heterosexual unterparts. Below, we will review the differenc between gay and straight marriag and divorc.

Comparg the statistics on gay marriage and straight marriage.

21 AMAZG GAY MARRIAGE DIVORCE RATE STATISTICS

When parg gay marriag to straight marriag, the data shows that gay people typilly stay together longer and divorce ls. Are there any differenc between a gay divorce and a straight divorce? When discsg gay divorce, there some issu wh the law.

CELEBRATG MY (GAY) DIVORCE

Gay divorc n also brg up issu if there is a child or children volved. When discsg gay divorce, pecially when parg agast straight divorce, many legal issu arise. Hodg legalized gay marriage natnwi, cludg the 14 stat that did not prevly allow gays and lbians to wed.

WHAT IS THE GAY DIVORCE RATE THE US?

Adults (37%) favored allowg gays and lbians to wed 2009, a share that rose to 62% 2017. For stance, 45% of adults the Silent Generatn (those born between 1928 and 1945) favor allowg gays and lbians to wed, pared wh 74% of Millennials (born between 1981 and 1996). 4As wh the general public, Amerins who intify as lbian, gay, bisexual or transgenr (LGBT) are most likely to ce love as a very important reason for gettg married.

WHY LBIAN UPL ARE MORE LIKELY TO DIVORCE THAN GAY ON

Is among 29 untri and jurisdictns that allow gay and lbian upl to wed.

The first natn to legalize gay marriage was the Netherlands, which did so 2000.

Sce then, several other European untri – cludg England and Wal, France, Ireland, all of Sndavia, Spa and, most recently, Atria, Germany and Malta – have legalized gay marriage. And May 2019, Taiwan beme the first untry Asia to allow gays and lbians to legally wed.

CELEBRATG MY (GAY) DIVORCE

Tara Parker-Pope, a wrer at The New York Tim, says gay marriag “tend to be more egalarian, part bee same-sex upl don’t divi work along tradnal genr l” (Gay Marriage: Same, but Different – The New York Tim). Let take a look at the legali of gay divorce. LGBT fay law has granted benefs to same-sex upl, but what happens durg a gay divorce?

On the one hand, there are reports of higher levels of timacy and happs between gay upl, makg the divorce rate lower between same-sex upl than oppose-sex upl.

WHY LBIAN UPL ARE MORE LIKELY TO DIVORCE THAN GAY ON

Studi show although gay upl are generally “happier” they also have a high separatn rate. The fdgs seem to nclu that the reason for higher breakups gay upl is due to external reasons such as fay prsure, children, fanc, and societal ndng. Acrdg to a UCLA report, almost 50, 000 of the 64, 000 gay upl the US got married.

The same study found that “first-wave gay marriag have proved more durable than straight on, that’s not expected to last. On the flipsi for gay marriag, data shows that the rate of divorce is 16% while heterosexual upl have a divorce rate of 19%. Many studi have been done to try to figure out what is g lbian upl to have a 34% divorce rate, and why gay marriag have a lower rate of divorce, but no answer has yet been found.

LBIANS ARE GETTG DIVORCED AT AN ALARMG RATE. I WAS ONE OF THEMARE WE JT WIRED THIS WAY?{FONT:NORMAL 800 1.2REM/1.2 "D BOLD",SANS-SERIF;TEXT-TRANSFORM:NORMAL;LOR:HER;DISPLAY:LE-BLOCK;PADDG-BOTTOM:6PX;POSN:RELATIVE;TEXT-TRANSFORM:UPPERSE;}{BACKGROUND:#89308A;BOTTOM:0;NTENT:'';DISPLAY:BLOCK;HEIGHT:2PX;LEFT:0;POSN:ABSOLUTE;RIGHT:0;-WEBK-TRANSN:ALL 0.2S EASE;TRANSN:ALL 0.2S EASE;WIDTH:100%;}{LEFT:51%;RIGHT:51%;WIDTH:0;}{FONT:NORMAL 800 1.2REM/1.2 "D BOLD",SANS-SERIF;TEXT-TRANSFORM:NORMAL;LOR:HER;DISPLAY:LE-BLOCK;PADDG-BOTTOM:6PX;POSN:RELATIVE;TEXT-TRANSFORM:UPPERSE;}{BACKGROUND:#89308A;BOTTOM:0;NTENT:'';DISPLAY:BLOCK;HEIGHT:2PX;LEFT:0;POSN:ABSOLUTE;RIGHT:0;-WEBK-TRANSN:ALL 0.2S EASE;TRANSN:ALL 0.2S EASE;WIDTH:100%;}{LEFT:51%;RIGHT:51%;WIDTH:0;}LIFEBY TRISH BENDIXOCTOBER 23, 2017/11:35 {HEIGHT:HER;DISPLAY:-WEBK-BOX;DISPLAY:-WEBK-FLEX;DISPLAY:-MS-FLEXBOX;DISPLAY:FLEX;POSN:RELATIVE;-WEBK-FLEX-WRAP:WRAP;-MS-FLEX-WRAP:WRAP;FLEX-WRAP:WRAP;-WEBK-ALIGN-EMS:CENTER;-WEBK-BOX-ALIGN:CENTER;-MS-FLEX-ALIGN:CENTER;ALIGN-EMS:CENTER;-WEBK-BOX-PACK:CENTER;-WEBK-JTIFY-NTENT:CENTER;-MS-FLEX-PACK:CENTER;JTIFY-NTENT:CENTER;-WEBK-TRANSFORM-ORIG:CENTER;-MS-TRANSFORM-ORIG:CENTER;TRANSFORM-ORIG:CENTER;} IMG{HEIGHT:100%;WIDTH:100%;OBJECT-F:VER;}{HEIGHT:574PX;WIDTH:1020PX;}GETTY IMAGCIVIL PARTNERSHIP LBIAN DIVORCE KEBY TRISH BENDIXOCTOBER 23, 2017 / 11:35 AM{"@NTEXT":","@TYPE":"NEWSARTICLE","HEADLE":"LBIANS ARE GETTG DIVORCED AT AN ALARMG RATE. I WAS ONE OF THEM","THUMBNAILURL":","DATEPUBLISHED":"2017-10-23T15:35:33.000+0000","DATEMODIFIED":"2017-10-23T15:35:33.000+0000","IMAGE":{"@NTEXT":","@TYPE":"IMAGEOBJECT","URL":","WIDTH":1920,"HEIGHT":1080},"URL":","THOR":{"@TYPE":"ORGANIZATN","NAME":"LOGO TV"},"MAENTYOFPAGE":{"@TYPE":"WEBPAGE","@ID":"},"PUBLISHER":{"@TYPE":"ORGANIZATN","@ID":","NAME":"LOGO TV","URL":","LOGO":{"@TYPE":"IMAGEOBJECT"}},"CREATOR":"TRISH BENDIX","KEYWORDS":"MARRIAGE EQUALY, LOVE AND SEX, OPN","ARTICLESECTN":"LIFE"}{BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}I GOT ENGAGED WHEN I WAS 25. I HAD BEEN DATG MY GIRLIEND FOR LS THAN A YEAR AND WE ALREADY LIVED TOGETHER. THE PROPOSAL SURPRISED ME—I DIDN'T KNOW WHAT ELSE TO SAY BUT "Y," BEE THAT'S JT WHAT YOU'RE SUPPOSED TO SAY, RIGHT?{BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}THEN SUDNLY EVERYONE WAS ASKG WHEN THE WEDDG WAS AND I WAS MARRIED BY 27 (LEGALLY, IOWA, ONE OF FEW STAT THAT ALLOWED SAME-SEX MARRIAGE AT THE TIME).{BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}MAYBE 27 SEEMS LIKE A TOTALLY NORMAL AGE TO GET MARRIED—MY MOM HAD ME AT 27—BUT NSIRG I'D SENTIALLY SHED TO , WASN'T IAL FOR ME. AND SO, UNSURPRISGLY, END DIVORCE. A NEW STUDY OM THE UNED KGDOM OFFICE FOR NATNAL STATISTICS (ONS) SUGGTS I WAS SOMETHG OF A TRENDSETTER.GETTY IMAGSIMPLE GAY/LBIAN MARRIAGE GRAPHIC WH TWO FEMALE STICK FIGUR HOLDG HANDS WH TWO WEDDG RGS SI A THOUGHT {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}MARRIAGE EQUALY ME TO THE UK MARCH 2014: THREE MONTHS LATER, THERE WERE 1,409 SAME-SEX MARRIAG, 56% (796) OF WHICH WERE WOMEN. BY 2015, 22 OF THOSE UPL BROKE UP. BUT 2016, THE NUMBER OF DIVORC LEAPED TO 112, MORE THAN THREE-QUARTERS OF WHICH (87) WERE LBIAN {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}THE MOST MON REASON FOR THOSE SPLS WAS "UNREASONABLE BEHAVR"—WHICH N MEAN ANYTHG OM REFG TO GET A JOB TO BEG UNFAHFUL. BUT SOCLOGISTS BELIEVE THE HIGHER DIVORCE RATE AMONG LBIANS IS ED BY WOMEN HAVG HIGHER EXPECTATNS AND SHG TO A {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}EVEN BEFORE SAME-SEX MARRIAGE ME TO BRA, LBIAN UPL WERE NEARLY TWICE AS LIKELY AS GAY MEN TO END A CIVIL PARTNERSHIP. OF THE 794 PARTNERSHIPS DISSOLVED 2012, ALMOST 60% WERE BY FEMALE {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}GUNNAR ANRSSON, PROFSOR OF MOGRAPHY AT STOCKHOLM UNIVERSY, FOUND THE SAME TREND A 2013 STUDY OF CIVIL PARTNERSHIPS NORWAY, SWEN, AND DENMARK. QUEER WOMEN WERE TWICE AS LIKELY TO DISSOLVE THEIR SAME-SEX PARTNERSHIPS AS {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}“THIS REFLECTS TRENDS A HETEROSEXUAL MARRIAGE—BEE WOMEN ARE MORE PRONE TO SAY THEY WANT TO MARRY, BUT THEY’RE ALSO MORE LIKELY TO IATE A DIVORCE," HE TOLD THE INPENNT. "WOMEN UALLY HAVE HIGHER MANDS ON RELATNSHIP QUALY, THAT’S [BEEN SHOWN] STUDI. EVEN IF YOU NTROL FOR AGE THERE IS STILL A TREND OF MORE WOMEN ENDG PARTNERSHIPS THAN MEN."WOMEN WH RELATNSHIP {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}I ADM I HAD HIGH EXPECTATNS FOR MY MARRIAGE, BUT I WASN'T THE LTLE GIRL WHO DREAMED OF A WHE DRS AND BIG FORMAL WEDDG. I ACTUALLY DIDN'T EVEN REALLY FANTASIZE ABOUT BEG SOMEONE'S WIFE. BUT DIDN'T I, A FEMIST LBIAN WHO DON'T SUBSCRIBE TO SOCIETY'S EXPECTATN OF WHAT A "WOMAN" SHOULD BE, WANT TO BE WANTED?{BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}I'M SECURE ENOUGH (NOW, ANYWAY) TO ADM THAT ULD'VE BEEN A PART OF WHY I SAID "I DO." THE IA OF MARRIAGE WAS ROMANTIC, BUT THE REALY? NOT SO MUCH. AND AT 25 (OR 26, OR 27), I DIDN'T REALIZE HOW MUCH WORK GO TO BEG SOMEONE'S SPOE. BY THE TIME I DID, MY SIRE TO WANT TO BE THE RIGHT SUATN WAS OVERSHADOWED BY THE HONT FACT THAT JT WASN'{BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}MY EX-WIFE WAS (AND PROBABLY STILL IS) FANTASTIC. SHE WAS A DREAM FOR ANYONE WHO WANTS TO SETTLE DOWN, WHICH I THOUGHT I DID. OUR NEWFOUND EEDOM TO MARRY GAVE A NEW DREAM TO ASPIRE TO. BUT WE DIDN'T TAKE THE TIME TO CI IF WAS THE RIGHT DREAM FOR . (MY WIFE WAS SIGNIFINTLY OLR THAN ME. SHE ACHIEVED SOME MEASURE OF THE AMERIN DREAM—A SUCCSFUL REER, A HOE—AND THAT LIKELY FUELED HER SIRE TO TIE THE KNOT, TOO.){BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}A 2011 WILLIAMS INSTUTE STUDY FOUND THAT 134,000 SAME-SEX UPL THE U.S. (ABOUT 21%) WERE LEGALLY BOUND SOME WAY. OF THEM, 62% WERE WOMEN, EVEN THOUGH WOMEN MAKE UP JT 51% OF SAME-SEX RELATNSHIPS. THREE YEARS LATER, THAT PERCENTAGE ROSE TO 64%. IN MASSACHETTS ALONE, THE FIRST STATE TO REGNIZE THE EEDOM TO MARRY, 75% OF GAY UPL TYG THE KNOT WERE {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}IT'S NOT HARD TO NNECT THE DOTS: MORE MARRIAGE MEAN MORE DIVORC. SO WHY ARE LADI SO HASTY TO SAY Y TO THE VT?GETTY {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}MAYBE WE'RE SHG TO MARRIAGE BEE 'S FALLY AVAILABLE TO . BUT FOR QUEER WOMEN, MIGHT BE BEE WE'RE WIRED THAT WAY. IN LBIAN LOVE ADDICTN, LREN D. COSTE SUGGTS WOMEN FD FORT RELATNSHIPS BEE ONCE WE FD A NNECTN, WE FEEL A SH OF DOPAME AND OXYTOC. (LERALLY ALL THE FEELS.){BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}"MEN DON'T EM OXYTOC THE SAME WAY," COSTE TOLD PSYCH CENTRAL. "THEREFORE, WHEN TWO WOMEN GET TOGETHER THE 'OXYFT' IS BEYOND TOXITG."{BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}THE PROBLEM, OF URSE, IS WHAT HAPPENS WHEN THAT CHEMIL SH WEARS {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}THERE'S NOT YET GOOD DATA ON THE SAME-SEX DIVORCE AND DISSOLUTN RATE POST-OBERGEFELL V. HODG—AT LEAST NOT BY GENR. THE WILLIAMS INSTUTE STUDY DID FD THAT THE 19 STAT THAT GRANTED SOME KD OF LEGAL REGNN TO GAY UPL BETWEEN 1997 AND 2011, THE RATE FOR SAME-SEX SPLS WAS ACTUALLY SLIGHTLY LOWER FOR SAME-SEX UPL THAN HETEROSEXUALS. (1.1% ON AVERAGE PARED TO 2%.){BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}DIVORCE IS NEVER FUN (TAKE OM ME), BUT 'S LS EVABLE IF WE ENTER TO MARRIAGE WH PARTNERS WHO ARE REALLY RIGHT FOR , AND WHOM WE'RE REALLY RIGHT FOR. WE OWE TO OURSELV TO PUT THE WORK—OR EVEN MAKE PEACE WH SGLEHOOD—SO WE N STOP LG THE POCKETS OF DIVORCE {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}I'M NOT SAYG LOWER YOUR EXPECTATNS OR HOLD OFF THE ALTAR FOREVER. JT TO NSIR HOW EASY IS TO BEE A ANOTHER STATISTIC STEAD OF HAPPILY EVER {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;CLEAR:BOTH;}MARRIAGE EQUALYLOVE AND {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;MARG:0 TO;WIDTH:90%;M-WIDTH:288PX;MAX-WIDTH:1440PX;M-HEIGHT:194PX;}LATT NEWS

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