I’m male and I am aaid that I might be gay

I’ve always weled qutns om gay men that fall outsi the predictable range — “Where are you om?” “What do you do?” “Top or bottom?” — and I’d do anythg to help a iend, but I n’t… * i dont wanna be gay *

However, at the surface, I fantasise over homosexual sex and many people believe that I am gay, and exprs those opns – and have done for longer than I n remember. People fd me funny and ‘sweet’ and I n’t really thk of anyone who I don’t get on wh, however people still assume I’m gay even though I ask out many women, and show affectn to women. I don’t want to be gay, as I said, ep down I am ashamed of the way I feel, I still feel as though is not normal, which may have origated om my parents views.

‘I AM GAY – BUT I WASN’T BORN THIS WAY’

* i dont wanna be gay *

The other thg to remember is that vast numbers of so lled heterosexual men and women have gay fantasi - but they choose never to do anythg about them.

‘I DON’T WANT TO BE GAY’

Listen to I Don't Wanna Be Gay om Jonathan Kg's The Pk Marble Egg for ee, and see the artwork, lyrics and siar artists. * i dont wanna be gay *

And then there are huge numbers of ostensibly heterosexual men this untry who marry happily and have children but who also like to fd exprsn gay love om time to time.

You so obvly nnot be gay, was her implitn, bee this is good was 2006, a full five years before Lady Gaga would set the Born This Way argument atop s unassailable cultural perch, but even then the popular unrstandg of orientatn was that was somethg you were born wh, somethg you uldn’t change. I me out at a nservative Christian llege the US and was a gay relatnship for around two years wh a basketball player who end up marryg a woman.

I DON’T WANT TO BE GAY…

Many young men intify as mostly straight — a sexual orientatn that is not que straight but also, they say, ls gay than bisexualy * i dont wanna be gay *

Well, you mt have been gay the whole time, some might thk, and bee of some relig shame, you cid to lie to yourself and experiment wh a girl. But what feels most accurate to say is that I’m gay – but I wasn’t born this people may fd their sir changg directn - and n't jt be explaed as experimentatn (Cred: Ignac Lehmann)In 1977, jt over 10% of Amerins thought gayns was somethg you were born wh, acrdg to Gallup.

Throughout the same perd, the number of Amerins who believe homosexualy is “due to someone’s upbrgg/environment” fell om jt unr 60% to ias reached cril mass pop culture, first wh Lady Gaga’s 2011 Born This Way and one year later wh Macklemore’s Same Love, the chos of which has a gay person sgg “I n’t change even if I tried, even if I wanted to. ” Around the same time, the Human Rights Campaign clared unequivolly that “Beg gay is not a choice, ” and to claim that is “giv unwarranted crence to roundly disproven practic such as nversn or reparative therapy.

I DON’T WANT TO BE GAYJONATHAN KGTRACK 2 ON HOOKED ON A FEELG - SGLE PRODUCED BYJONATHAN KGNOV. 19711 VIEWER2 CONTRIBUTORSI DON’T WANT TO BE GAY LYRICSBEGGED ME TO E TO YOUR PARTYBUT I DON'T HEAR A WORD THAT YOU SAYYOU N SQUEEZE ME AND TEASE MEAPPEASE ME AND PLEASE MEBUT I DON'T WANNA BE GAYYOU SAY I'LL BE GLAD WHEN I GET THERETHAT YOU'LL SHOW ME A NEW WAY TO PLAYYOU N HTLE ME, BTLE MEFS ME AND MCLE MEBUT I DON'T WANNA BE GAYYOU N TRY ANYTHG THAT YOU WANT WH MEBUT YOU'RE NOT GONNA CHANGE MY LIFTYLEYOU N FLUFF ME, REBUFF ME AND FFLE MEBUT YOU A'T GONNA [?] A SEYOU'RE TRYG TO GET WHAT YOU WANT OM MEBUT I'M JT GONNA DO MY WAYYOU N TUG ME AND BUG MEPLUG ME AND JUGGLE MEBUT I DON'T WANNA BE GAYYOU N TUG ME AND BUG MEPLUG ME AND JUGGLE MEBUT I DON'T WANNA BE GAYYOU MIGHT ALSO LIKEEMBEDCANCELHOW TO FORMAT LYRICS:TYPE OUT ALL LYRICS, EVEN REPEATG SONG PARTS LIKE THE CHOSLYRICS SHOULD BE BROKEN DOWN TO DIVIDUAL LUSE SECTN HEARS ABOVE DIFFERENT SONG PARTS LIKE [VERSE], [CHOS], ETC.USE ALICS (LYRIC) AND BOLD (LYRIC) TO DISTGUISH BETWEEN DIFFERENT VOLISTS THE SAME SONG PARTIF YOU DON’T UNRSTAND A LYRIC, E [?]TO LEARN MORE, CHECK OUT OUR TRANSCRIPTN GUI OR VIS OUR TRANSCRIBERS FOMABOUTTHIS SONG B IS UNREVIEWEDGENI ANNOTATN1 NTRIBUTORTHE B SI OF THE SGLE OF JONATHAN KG’S 1971 “HOOKED ON A FEELG”.EXPAND SHAREASK A QUTN ABOUT THIS SONGASK A QUTN *‌WHO PRODUCED “I DON’T WANT TO BE GAY” BY JONATHAN KG?WHEN DID JONATHAN KG RELEASE “I DON’T WANT TO BE GAY”?WHO WROTE “I DON’T WANT TO BE GAY” BY JONATHAN KG?HOOKED ON A FEELG - SGLE (1971)JONATHAN KG1. HOOKED ON A FEELG2. I DON’T WANT TO BE GAYCREDSPRODUCED BYJONATHAN KGWRTEN BYJONATHAN KGRELEASE DATENOVEMBER 1971TAGSPOPEXPAND COMMENTSADD A MENTSIGN UP AND DROP KNOWLEDGE ?GENI IS THE ULTIMATE SOURCE OF MIC KNOWLEDGE, CREATED BY SCHOLARS LIKE YOU WHO SHARE FACTS AND SIGHT ABOUT THE SONGS AND ARTISTS THEY LOVE.SIGN UPGENI IS THE WORLD’S BIGGT LLECTN OF SONG LYRICS AND MIL KNOWLEDGE

”People who challenge the Born This Way narrative are often st as homophobic, and their thkg is nsired backwardAs Jane Ward not Not Gay: Sex Between Straight Whe Men, what’s tertg about many of the claims is how transparent their speakers are wh their polil motivatns. “Such statements, ” she wr, “fe blogil acunts wh an obligatory and nearly ercive force, suggtg that anyone who scrib homosexual sire as a choice or social nstctn is playg to the hands of the enemy. ” People who challenge the Born This Way narrative are often st as homophobic, and their thkg is nsired backward – even if they are themselv, for example, Cynthia Nixon of Sex and The Cy fame.

”Gay rights do not have to hge on a geic explanatn for sexualy (Cred: Ignac Lehmann)For Aravosis, and many gay activists like him, the public will only accept and affirm gay people if they thk they were born gay.

CAN SOMEONE BE HOMOSEXUAL AND NOT GAY?

Patrick Grzanka, Assistant Profsor of Psychology at Universy of Tennsee, for stance, has shown that some people who believe that homosexualy is nate still hold negative views of gays. In fact, the homophobic and non-homophobic rponnts he studied shared siar levels of belief a Born This Way Samantha Allen not at The Daily Beast, the growg public support for gays and lbians has grown out of proportn wh the rise the number of people who believe homosexualy is fixed at birth; would be unlikely that this small change opn uld expla the spike support for gay marriage, for stance. “It don’t seem to matter as much whether or not people believe that gay people are born that way as do that they simply know someone who is currently gay, ” Allen spe of the studi, those who ph agast Born This Way narrativ have been heavily cricised by gay activists.

Siarly, Ward has received her own hatemail for phg agast the lg LGB narrativ, wh some gays tellg her she’s “worse than Ann Coulter, ” the ntroversial US thor of books like If Democrats Had Any Bras, They’d Be Republins. And when I published my say on choosg to be gay, an irate Amerin lbian activist wrote me that had “jt been nfirmed” to her that my wrg was “directly rponsible for four gay aths Rsia. There is a unanimo opn that gay “nversn therapy” should be rejectedLet’s first be clear that whatever the origs of our sexual orientatn, there is a unanimo opn that gay “nversn therapy” should be rejected.

The efforts are potentially harmful, acrdg to the APA, “bee they prent the view that the sexual orientatn of lbian, gay and bisexual youth is a mental illns of disorr, and they often ame the abily to change one’s sexual orientatn as a personal and moral failure. The APA, for example, while notg that most people experience ltle to no choice over their orientatns, says this of homosexualy’s origs:“Although much rearch has examed the possible geic, hormonal, velopmental, social and cultural fluenc on sexual orientatn, no fdgs have emerged that perm scientists to nclu that sexual orientatn is termed by any particular factor or factors. ”Siarly, the Amerin Psychiatric Associatn wr a 2013 statement that while the of heterosexualy and homosexualy are currently unknown, they are likely “multifactorial cludg blogil and behavral roots which may vary between different dividuals and may even vary over time.

HOW DO I KNOW I’M NOT REALLY GAY/STRAIGHT?

” Acrdg to LeVay’s rearch, a specific part of the bra, the third terstial nucls of the anterr hypothalam (INAH-3), is smaller homosexual men than is heterosexual as they might, scientists have stggled to inty any particular gen that nsistently predict the directns of our love and sire (Cred: Ignac Lehmann)Read moreYou n spot the problem wh this study a e away: were the gay bras LeVay studied born that way, or did they bee that way? Another landmark paper on the origs of homosexualy was published 1993 by a geicist named Dean Hamer, who was terted to learn whether homosexualy uld be hered.

I DON'T WANNA BE GAY

Begng om his observatn that there are more gay relativ on a mother’s si than a father’s, Hamer turned his attentn to the X chromosome (which is passed on by the mother).

Bis the dividual criqu leveled agast each new study announcg some gay gene disvery, there are major methodologil cricisms to make about the entire enterprise general, as Grzanka pots out: “If we look at the raveno pursu, particularly among Amerin scientists, to fd a gay gene, what we see is that the ncln has already been arrived at. ”The other problem wh Born This Way science is summed up nicely by Simon Copland: “Scientists are askg whether homosexualy is natural when we n’t even agree exactly what homosexualy is. ” Our sir may exprs themselv many different ways that do not all nform to existg notns of ‘gay’, ‘straight’ or ‘bisexual’ is one of the bt takeaways of Ward’s Not Gay, a peratg analysis of sex between straight whe men.

Gay men make up only a actn of the US populatn — yet Ward says that there are many men not clud that number who engage homosexual behavr. Ccially, she argu, “whether or not this baggage is appealg is a separate matter altogether om the appeal of homosexual or heterosexual sex. ”Gay or not, our sir are oriented and re-oriented throughout our liv (Cred: Ignac Lehmann)In fact, the straight-intified men Ward studied for her book sometim found themselv suatns that sparked the sire for homosexual sex: aterni, ployments, public rtrooms, etc.

LETTERS TO THE EDOR: I’M GAY AND DON’T WANT TO PATRONIZE BIGOTS. THANKS, SUPREME COURT

Ward thks this qutn is the next ontier of queer I first said I chose to be gay, a queer Amerin journalist challenged me to name the time and date of my choice. I’m claimg that at some pot durg llege, my sexual and romantic sir beme reoriented toward menThkg back to my llege romanc wh women and men, I n beg to unrstand how my own experienc might have helped me to ‘cultivate’ my sire for homosexualy.

JACKSONVILLE JAGUARS' KEV MAXEN BE FIRST MALE COACH TO COME OUT AS GAY MAJOR U.S. SPORTS

I want to be very clear: I’m not claimg I simply began to ‘grow to’ my homosexualy, or that as I beme more fortable wh beg gay, I allowed myself the eedom to exprs what had always been latent wh me. “Limg our unrstandg of any plex human experience is always gog to be worse than allowg to be plited, ” he gay rights activists pared sexualy to relign - a ccial part of our life that we should be ee to practise however we like (Cred: Ignac Lehamann)So what are we to do wh the Born This Way rhetoric?

I DON’T WANNA BE A HOMOSEXUALSLOPPY SENDSTRACK 1 ON DTROYED 19891 VIEWER3 CONTRIBUTORSI DON’T WANNA BE A HOMOSEXUAL LYRICS[DIALOGUE OM "FEMALE TROUBLE," BETWEEN EDH MASSEY AND MICHAEL POTTER][AUNT IDA NELSON:] "HAVE YOU MET ANY NICE BOYS THE SALON?"[GATOR:] "OH, PRETTY NICE."[AUNT IDA:] "I MEAN ANY NICE QUEER BOYS. DID YOU FOOL WH ANY OF THEM?"[GATOR:] "AUNT IDA, YOU KNOW I DIG WOMEN."[AUNT IDA:] "AW, DON'T TELL ME THAT."[GATOR:] "CHRIST, LET'S NOT GO THROUGH THIS AGA."[AUNT IDA:] "ALL THOSE BETICIANS, AND YOU DON'T HAVE ANY BOY DAT?"[GATOR:] "I DON'T WANT ANY BOY DAT."[AUNT IDA:] "OH HONEY, I'D BE SO HAPPY IF YOU TURNED NELLY."[GATOR:] "HEY, NO WAY. I'M STRAIGHT. I MEAN I LIKE A LOT OF QUEERS, BUT I DON'T DIG THEIR EQUIPMENT, Y'KNOW? I LIKE WOMEN."[AUNT IDA:] "BUT YOU N CHANGE. QUEERS ARE JT BETTER. I'D BE SO PROUD IF YOU WAS A FAG, AND HAD A NICE BETICIAN BOYIEND. I'D NEVER HAVE TO WORRY."[GATOR:] "THERE A'T NOTHG TO WORRY ABOUT."[AUNT IDA:] "I'M WORRIED THAT YOU'LL WORK AN OFFICE, GET MARRIED, HAVE CHILDREN, CELEBRATE WEDDG ANNIVERSARI. THE WORLD OF HETEROSEXUALS IS A SICK AND BORG LIFE."[GATOR:] "SOMETIM I THK YOU'RE FUCKG CRAZY. I'M REAL HAPPY JT THE WAY I AM."[VERSE 1]PEOPLE ARE TELLG METHAT I'M MISSG OUT ON THE FUN'CSE I DON'T GO ANYWHEREAND I DON'T MEET ANYONEBUT I KNOW HOW MORS FLYWHEN YOU'RE A LONELY GUYAND I'M HERE TO TELL YOU 'S A LIE[VERSE 2]THERE'S STRANGE THGS GOG ONAT NIGHT MOST EVERYWHEREYOU KNOW THOSE PLAC WELLAND YOU'VE NEVER SEEN ME THEREI WALK BY OTHER MENAND I DON'T NOTICE THEMBUT THEN THOSE MORS START AGAYOU MIGHT ALSO LIKE[CHOS]SO I'M GONNA TELL THE WORLDI DON'T WANNA BE A HOMOSEXUALI'M GONNA FD A GIRL'CSE I DON'T WANNA BE A HOMOSEXUALI GUS THAT 'S OKAYIF OTHER GUYS ARE GAYBUT MY HORMON ARE ONE-DIRECTNALAND I DON'T WANNA BE A HOMOSEXUAL[VERSE 3]SOMEBODY TELL ME WHAT I DID TO START THIS TALKIS THE WAY I LOOK, IS THE WAY I WALK?IS THE CLOTH I WEARTHAT MAKE THE PEOPLE STARE?IS THE WAY I B MY HAIR?[VERSE 4]I'M ONLY HOPG MAYBE THERE WILL E A DAYWHEN I N MAKE THEM UNRSTAND THAT I'M NOT GAYBUT TILL THAT DAY IS HEREI GUS I'LL LIVE FEARAND I CURSE THE DAY I PIERCED MY EAR[CHOS]THERE'S NOTHG WRONG WH MEI DON'T WANNA BE A HOMOSEXUALKNOW WHAT I WANT TO BEAND I DON'T WANNA BE A HOMOSEXUALSOFT BOYS AND CLOSET QUEENSTHK JUDY GARLAND'S KEENBUT I DON'T THK SHE'S NOTHG SPECIALAND I DON'T WANNA BE A HOMOSEXUAL[GUAR SOLO][VERSE 5]SO NOW I'M WONRG IF MAYBE THEY'RE NOT RIGHTI'VE GONE ALL PARANOID AND I N'T SLEEP AT NIGHTI WENT TO SEE THE SHRKWHAT DID THE DOCTOR THK?I SWEAR TO GOD I SAW HIM WK[CHOS]I PRAY THAT I AM WRONGI DON'T WANNA BE A HOMOSEXUALWHY DID I WRE THIS SONGIF I DON'T WANNA BE A HOMOSEXUAL?I HOPE 'S NOT TOO LATEFOR THEM TO SET ME STRAIGHTI'M GONNA SEE A REAL PROFSNAL'CSE I DON'T WANNA BE A HOMOSEXUAL[OUTRO]NONO, NO, NO, NONO, NO, NO, NO, NONO, NO, NO, NO, NO, NOI DON'T WANNA BEI DON'T WANNA BEI DON'T WANNA BE A HOMOSEXUALI DON'T WANNA GO WH GUYS NAMED SEAMI DON'T WANNA BE RICH AND FAMOI DON'T WANNA GO TO A FRENCH ART FTIVALI DON'T WANNT BE A HOMOSEXUALI GUS THAT 'S OKAYIF OTHER GUYS ARE GAYEMBEDCANCELHOW TO FORMAT LYRICS:TYPE OUT ALL LYRICS, EVEN REPEATG SONG PARTS LIKE THE CHOSLYRICS SHOULD BE BROKEN DOWN TO DIVIDUAL LUSE SECTN HEARS ABOVE DIFFERENT SONG PARTS LIKE [VERSE], [CHOS], ETC.USE ALICS (LYRIC) AND BOLD (LYRIC) TO DISTGUISH BETWEEN DIFFERENT VOLISTS THE SAME SONG PARTIF YOU DON’T UNRSTAND A LYRIC, E [?]TO LEARN MORE, CHECK OUT OUR TRANSCRIPTN GUI OR VIS OUR TRANSCRIBERS FOMABOUT

Sendly, the entire search for a gay gene is predited upon the assumptn that homosexualy is not the natural or ‘flt’ state of a velopg human. “That’s a very narrow unrstandg of what jtice looks like, ” says about the ncern that homophob will want to ‘enurage’ gay people to be straight if there’s no blogil basis for sexualy? It don’t take too much creativy to image a scenar which homophobic parents, upon beg rmed their fet has ‘the gay gene’, choose what to them may seem the lser of two evils: abortn.

”Acrdg to surveys, ls than half of Generatn Z intify as "100% heterosexual", suggtg more and more people have embraced their sexual fluidy (Cred: Ignac Lehmann)Perhaps is time to look to the begng of the gay rights movement. “Then there was a shift, and the lears of the movement chose to jump on board wh a ls nuanced argument that people already unrstood: jt like race, people are born wh their homosexualy. More than a third chose a number between one and rponse to the poll, one of my Facebook iends quipped about how natural selectn mt be workg overtime, what wh makg all of gay!

I’m thankful for a new generatn that is pable of imagg sexualy a way that transcends the gay/straight bary, that uldn’t re ls about what happened to their bodi and mds to make them who they are today.

JACKSONVILLE JAGUARS ASSISTANT KEV MAXEN BE FIRST MALE ACH MAJOR U.S. PRO LEAGUE TO E OUT AS GAY

He was a fixture on both Grdr and the gay scene Bangkok, where he was om and where I was livg at the time, and nothg he’d prevly said or done the year or so I’d known him had betrayed even a ht of gay spe his total immersn all thgs gay, ep down, he didn’t want to be one of . Begged me to e to your partyBut I don't hear a word that you sayYou n squeeze me and tease meAppease me and please meBut I don't wanna be gayYou say I'll be glad when I get thereThat you'll show me a new way to playYou n htle me, btle meFs me and mcle meBut I don't wanna be gayYou n try anythg that you want wh meBut you're not gonna change my liftyleYou n fluff me, rebuff me and ffle meBut you a't gonna [?

] a seYou're tryg to get what you want om meBut I'm jt gonna do my wayYou n tug me and bug mePlug me and juggle meBut I don't wanna be gayYou n tug me and bug mePlug me and juggle meBut I don't wanna be gayHow to Format Lyrics:Type out all lyrics, even repeatg song parts like the chosLyrics should be broken down to dividual lUse sectn hears above different song parts like [Verse], [Chos], alics (lyric) and bold (lyric) to distguish between different volists the same song partIf you don’t unrstand a lyric, e [?

JACKSONVILLE JAGUARS ASSISTANT COACH KEV MAXEN MAK HISTORY AFTER COMG OUT AS GAY

So when we therapists are nonted wh male clients, often married on, who e to wh ep nflicts about their sexual attractn to other men, we often fd that they are willg to e the word “homosexual, ” but chew the “gay” label. Unfortunately, much of our natn’s polics have long exacerbated the problem as well, shamg and vilifyg homosexualy, leadg legns of men stgglg wh sexual inty to ternalize their homophobia. I warned them of the pfalls of keepg their sexual orientatn secret: a life of creased prsn, pursug a secret life the gay unrground wh the danger of beg ught, how attemptg to supprs urg n often e them to bee even more obssed wh them.

They may need, om time to time, to seek further therapy, but wh the right therapist, one who has thoroughly unrstood the dangers of such practic of “reparative therapy” which the therapist seeks to change the client’s sexual inty om gay to straight. Bee the labels “homosexual” or “gay” rry such a stigma, some of the men seek help for their “sex addictn” and see their homosexualy as an actg out of same-sex urg. In orr to have doubts about one’s sexual inty, a sufferer need not ever have had a homo- or heterosexual experience, or any type of sexual experience at all.

” Some people’s doubts are further plited by havg such experienc as hearg other people talkg or lookg their directn and thkg that the people mt be analyzg their behavr or appearance and talkg about them – discsg how they mt be gay (or straight). Let’s face , gay people have always been an opprsed mory wh our culture, and to sudnly thk of beg this posn, and to be stigmatized this way, n be ighteng.

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