In his new memoir, "Party of One," former MTV VJ Dave Holm chronicl his life lovg mic and growg up gay.
Contents:
- THE MEN WHO TURNED DAVE HOLM GAY
- NO SHA, BUT THERE’S A WRONG WAY TO MAKE A GAY ANTHEM
- TAYLOR SWIFT'S 'YOU NEED TO CALM DOWN' VIO IS STRANGELY BOTH GAY AND SEXLS
- DAVE HOLM'S PARTY OF ONE IS THE LATT GREAT GAY AMERIN BOOK
- ‘HANDSOME DEVIL’ IS THE KD OF MOVIE JOHN HUGH WOULD’VE MA IF HE WERE IRISH, GAY, AND VERY INTO RUGBY
- DAVID H. HOLM REF THE CLICHé GAY BT FRIEND TROPE IN "HIGH FILY"
THE MEN WHO TURNED DAVE HOLM GAY
In the months sce g out, the Brothers Osborne star is rvg out a trail for gay men a way the genre hasn’t seen before. * dave holmes gay *
I'm not sayg the guys ma me gay, though they probably did; what I am sayg is that they st a shadow that stretched all the way to my adulthood. He is jt a grown man wh a thick outgrowth of cht hair a sensible pair of boxers Ameri's gay-iendlit cy.
NO SHA, BUT THERE’S A WRONG WAY TO MAKE A GAY ANTHEM
Attemptg to wre a gay anthem 2019 reeks of sweat and substandard self-awarens. Here's why artists like Taylor Swift, Katy Perry, and others need some lsons on the right way to wre a song celebratg the LGBTQ muny. * dave holmes gay *
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“I told [wrer Sam Lansky], ‘Beg gay is a very small part of who I am. ” A lot of say that when we’re g out, whether out of ternalized homophobia or some vague sense of obligatn to straight people.
TAYLOR SWIFT'S 'YOU NEED TO CALM DOWN' VIO IS STRANGELY BOTH GAY AND SEXLS
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Osborne, lead sger of Brothers Osborne, the band he started wh his big brother John, is the first current, male, mastream untry artist to be openly gay. Osborne is somethg even rarer and more signifint than an out, gay, male, mastream untry artist; he’s a public figure who’s explorg those qutns of inty, real time, right out loud. " Marvel, a untry songwrg veteran, is the proud dad of a gay son himself.
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DAVE HOLM'S PARTY OF ONE IS THE LATT GREAT GAY AMERIN BOOK
Although Taylor Swift's 'You Need to Calm Down' vio livers the celebry meos, om Ellen DeGener and Laverne Cox to Jse Tyler Fergon and all five Queer Eye guys, #YNTCD is strangely sanizg gay culture. Here's why we're glad Taylor Swift is g her platform, but not the bt way for the LGBTQ muny. * dave holmes gay *
"And I want to see gay fans feelg good and wele and fortable those crowds. “I didn’t thk I’d want to talk about beg gay this much. Last night, Taylor Swift gave a gift to her queer fan base the form of a summertime gay anthem lled “You Need To Calm Down, ” and on behalf of a grateful muny, I mt say: thank you, Taylor!
But attemptg to wre a gay anthem 2019 reeks of sweat and substandard self-awarens. The classics of the past— your “I Will Survive, ” your “It’s Rag Men, ” your “Pull Up To The Bumper”— they gave our gayns directly. The days, LGBTQ wokens is a box to check off a marketg plan, and when there are perfectly pable queer artists out there, stg down as a straight person and settg out to wre a gay anthem is very much like tryg to give yourself a nickname.
‘HANDSOME DEVIL’ IS THE KD OF MOVIE JOHN HUGH WOULD’VE MA IF HE WERE IRISH, GAY, AND VERY INTO RUGBY
Last year, thor Garth Greenwell suggted that Hanya Yanagihara’s A Ltle Life uld be the great gay novel that ntemporary culture was wag for. A few months later, Greenwell produced his own ntenr for that tle when his acclaimed What Belongs To Us was released. Around the same time, Alexanr Chee’s novel Queen of the Night was released. Thatt’s another beloved book that’s wily regard to be gay—if not subject matter, then sensibily. * dave holmes gay *
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You may be able to fd the same ntent another format, or you may be able to fd more rmatn, at their web the pantheon of gay anthems, I’m puttg “Calm Down” right alongsi “My Brother’s Gay (And That’s Okay! In , young pop sensatn ChaseDreams releas a song celebratg his brother’s homosexualy a way that is scere, supportive, and terrifygly unterproductive: “The way that he acts, the way that he talks, the way that he lghs and the way that he walks, ” ChaseDreams sgs, and then jt when you (and his brother Cary, still so poorly self-actualized he’s settlg for blowg his straight roommate) are ready for him to stop, he ntu: “the way that he ns, how he mov his hands, he’s gay even when he jt ss or he stands. ” Any gay person who spent their adolcence policg every word, step, giggle and gticulatn—which is every gay person—felt the burn.
DAVID H. HOLM REF THE CLICHé GAY BT FRIEND TROPE IN "HIGH FILY"
Speakg of which, all this is happeng when the ’s gay anthem has already arrived, and ’s lled “The Joke. ” There is triumph the chos (“Let ‘em lgh while they n…I have been to the movi, and I see how ends: the joke’s on them”) and bee the vers lay out wh vastatg clary jt how much ls gay—and happy, and proud—sha mak a person, the triumph is earned. A gay anthem is absolutely still possible, but now that gay people are dog for themselv, whout direct reprentatn or d language, maybe the role of an ally is to take a seat (aga, jt the one!
Also, I am wrg this on a ferry to Provcetown where I am stg across om a du a GAYS FOR TRUMP t-shirt, so I know there are bigger fish to y. But “You Need To Calm Down” is ls a gay anthem than a Wells Fargo Bank tent at a Pri ftival: You’re fabulo, and so is our troductory APR!