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class="tl7wu"><p>After beg visible the prostate ncer muny for 20 years, gay and bisexual men are fally beg seen.</p><p>Late 2015, a set of four booklets was produced Atralia specifilly for gay and bisexual men.</p><p>This is thought to be a world first and the iative was fund by the feral ernment via a Cancer Atralia grant.</p><figure class="gzJMC unfed NvmVw" data-pb-type="im"><picture><source media="(m-width: 1180px)" width="620" height="349" srcSet="zoom_1%2C$multiply_1%2C$rat_1.777778%2C$width_1784%2C$x_216%2C$y_8/t_crop_ctom/c_sle%2Cw_620%2Cq_88%2Cf_to/c1624ae2b7575d711eb2db15d43960944bf2664e, zoom_1%2C$multiply_1%2C$rat_1.777778%2C$width_1784%2C$x_216%2C$y_8/t_crop_ctom/c_sle%2Cw_1240%2Cq_52%2Cf_to/c1624ae2b7575d711eb2db15d43960944bf2664e 2x" data-pb-im-nfig="{"aspectRat":1.777778,"type":"landspe16x9","width":620,"urls":["zoom_1%2C$multiply_1%2C$rat_1.777778%2C$width_1784%2C$x_216%2C$y_8/t_crop_ctom/c_sle%2Cw_620%2Cq_88%2Cf_to/c1624ae2b7575d711eb2db15d43960944bf2664e"," 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back.<!-- --> <ce class="_23SOU">Anna Bryhanova</ce></p></figptn></figure><p>The booklets take a ank look at the role of the prostate gay sex.</p><p>Anthony Lowe, chief executive of the Prostate Cancer Foundatn of Atralia, which produced the booklets, says they are beg ed as a base for rourc Bra and Canada.</p></div></div><asi class="_3JfHJ"></asi><div class="ZAfSI"><div class="adWrapper _3XglG Hqxcp" data-ttid="ad-wrapper"><div class="" id="adspot-320x360_320x50_300x250_300x50-pos2-mobile"></div><div class="" id="adspot-728x90-pos2-tablet"></div><div class="" id="adspot-970x250_728x90-pos2-sktop"></div><small class="_3azTn">Advertisement</small></div></div><div class="_2J452"><div class="_33oUB"><div class="tl7wu" id="endOfArticle"><p>Gay men are more likely to enunter this ncer than heterosexual men, not bee they are at a higher risk but bee they and their partners uld both velop .</p><p>While they share many of the same challeng as their heterosexual peers, there are signifint differenc, Dr Gary Morrison, a Sydney-based health nsultant, says.</p><h2>Allayed fears </h2><p>Four years ago he was diagnosed wh prostate ncer and says had the rourc been available then they would have allayed many of his fears and eased his journey.</p><p>The diagnosis threw him and while the rmatn pack his surgeon gave him was prehensive and eful, the choic were overwhelmg.</p><p>Morrison says the new rourc follow through and provi the implitns of each choice for gay and bisexual men.</p><div class="ZAfSI"><div class="adWrapper _3XglG _35ekj Hqxcp _3_nxH" data-ttid="ad-wrapper"><div class="" id="adspot-320x360_320x50_300x250_300x50-pos3-mobile"></div><div class="" id="adspot-728x90-pos3-tablet"></div><small class="_3azTn">Advertisement</small></div></div><p>They regnise that the social environment for gay men is different, that their sexual practic are more versatile and that prostate ncer might have a broar effect.</p><p>"Sexually, they are more 'out there' and are probably more sexually active than straight men. This ncer has the potential to change their whole life as gay men," Morrison says.</p><p>It n change their self-image and their sense of masculy, to the extent that pursug a sexual life n be more plited and challengg.</p><p>Where the imagery and language of rmatn about prostate ncer has tradnally been heterosexual, Morrison says the new rourc e the language of the gay muny and don't hold back.</p><h2>Calm and rmative</h2><p>They are lm and rmative and although the gay muny is diverse, everyone om bankers to bikers n unrstand them.</p><div class="ZAfSI"><div class="adWrapper _3XglG _35ekj Hqxcp _3_nxH" data-ttid="ad-wrapper"><div class="" id="adspot-320x360_320x50_300x250_300x50-pos4-mobile"></div><div class="" id="adspot-728x90-pos4-tablet"></div><small class="_3azTn">Advertisement</small></div></div><p>Dpe good tentns, discrimatn and homophobia still exist the health system and when to prostate ncer assumptns are often ma.</p><p>An olr unmarried man is assumed to be sexually active, jt as 's assumed that after treatment a wife will llect the man and take re of him at home.</p><p>To talk about gay sexualy such an environment n be dntg and the booklets suggt men seek health profsnals they feel fortable wh.</p><p>One booklet quot a man sayg that others "jt don't get what means to be a gay man and the importance of the prostate a gay man's sex life".</p><p>Radil surgery to remove a ncero prostate has the most obv effects.</p><h2>Important role </h2><div class="ZAfSI"><div class="adWrapper _3XglG _35ekj Hqxcp _3_nxH" data-ttid="ad-wrapper"><div class="" id="adspot-320x360_320x50_300x250_300x50-pos5-mobile"></div><div class="" id="adspot-728x90-pos5-tablet"></div><small class="_3azTn">Advertisement</small></div></div><p>Whout a prostate there is no ejaculatn and no semen exchange, which has an important role the sexual play between men who have sex wh men.</p><p>Whout a prostate, the receptive partner anal sex don't get the benef of havg his prostate massaged, a procs that gments asm.</p><p>Whout a prostate, the active partner might not have an erectn rigid enough for perative anal sex. While men might rever some erectile functn after surgery, vagal peratn is generally easier.</p><p>Surgery n e problems wh urary ntence, which n rce a man's sense of beg sexually sirable. It n also lead to the leakg of ure on asm.</p><p>For some men asm be paful, although this generally don't last.</p><p>Apart om creatg a sr, surgery n rce length and width of the penis, further affectg body image.</p><div class="ZAfSI"><div class="adWrapper _3XglG _35ekj Hqxcp _3_nxH" data-ttid="ad-wrapper"><div class="" id="adspot-320x360_320x50_300x250_300x50-pos6-mobile"></div><div class="" id="adspot-728x90-pos6-tablet"></div><small class="_3azTn">Advertisement</small></div></div><p>Radiatn has a range of issu too, such as a slow cle potency, rctn ejaculate and bowel plitns.</p><h2>Mak pa worse</h2><p>Followg radiatn, the receptive partner might fd anal sex mak the pa worse and damag the lite lg of the an and rectum.</p><p>The booklets ver the entire prostate ncer experience, om qutns of ttg to tryg to start a new relatnship when treatment is over.</p><p>The nature of relatnships and emotnal support stctur gay muni is often different to heterosexual muni and gay men often talk about a greater sense of isolatn. There is value, the booklets say, participatg gay support groups, which n provi a sense of unrstandg, belongg and muny.</p><p>If a man has a partner, prervg timacy is important and the booklets suggt he be up ont. Not disclosg his issu n e tratn and misunrstandg, leavg them to send gus each other.</p><div class="ZAfSI"><div class="adWrapper _3XglG _35ekj Hqxcp _3_nxH" data-ttid="ad-wrapper"><div class="" id="adspot-320x360_320x50_300x250_300x50-pos7-mobile"></div><div class="" id="adspot-728x90-pos7-tablet"></div><small class="_3azTn">Advertisement</small></div></div><p>"One unfortable moment may be nothg pared to what you n ga by takg the risk to open the nversatn."</p><p>Intimacy n be improved by talkg bee 's about beg physilly and emotnally close, about beg alone together, showg affectn, offerg and receivg fort and reassurance.</p><p>When to future partners, many men are ncerned whether they will still be attractive. Will other men still want to have sex wh them or will they be dismissed? </p><p>The booklets say while a man might want to disclose ls to a sual sexual partner, he shouldn't assume the reactn will always be negative.</p><p>The rourc are available om the PCFA onle, on USB stick and booklets.</p></div><div class="_3E2eQ"><div class="_2wCJp"><div class="_1fSQD"><span class="_13Ymr" data-ttid="AuthorCard"><span><strong><a class="_35mP2" data-ttid="AuthorURL" href="/by/jill-margo-j7gd4">Jill Margo</a></strong> is the health edor, based the Sydney office. 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He touched me. I touched him. We were tremblg. In that moment, “bottomg” wasn’t a ncept that I unrstood any appreciable way. Years later, I would learn my sexual vobulary — words that divid my sire to rol like “top,” “versatile,” and “bottom.” Wh the rol me skills to velop, stereotyp to navigate, misnceptns to addrs, and a surprisg amount of cultural shame.</p><p>Gettg better at bottomg required me to see through all that, and tst my experience. In my md, I ntuoly returned to that first experience. It felt right bee <em>was</em> right. It was the oppose of shame — was my body dog what need to do.</p><div><div class="ConsumerMarketgUnThemedWrapper-iUTMTf jssHut nsumer-marketg-un nsumer-marketg-un--article-mid-ntent" role="prentatn" aria-hidn="te"><div class="nsumer-marketg-un__slot nsumer-marketg-un__slot--article-mid-ntent nsumer-marketg-un__slot---ntent"></div><div class="journey-un"></div></div></div><p>Today, bottomg is an awome part of my life. I’m proud of the sex I have and enjoy helpg others disver what they love — no shame allowed. If you want to try bottomg, here are five poters to get you started, wh more to e part two.</p><div class="Contaer-bkChBi byNLHx"></div><p><strong>How do I know if I am a bottom?</strong></p><div class="AdWrapper-dQtivb fZrssQ ad ad---ntent"><div class="ad__slot ad__slot---ntent" data-no-id="omt05f"></div></div><p>What do beg a “bottom” mean to you? Well, first of all, you don’t have to “be” anythg. You don’t have to make somethg you enjoy sexually part of your inty.</p><div data-attr-viewport-monor="le-recirc" class="le-recirc-wrapper le-recirc-observer-target-1 viewport-monor-anchor"></div><p>I love bottomg and want people I’m sexually terted to know that. Callg myself a bottom has pros and ns. On one hand, I have an easier time fdg tops — guys who enjoy takg the active role sex. On the other hand, puttg myself a box is tratg when I want to top. (In my experience, most people are versatile the right suatn, or wh the right person — I am.)</p><p>The labels make fdg sex partners easier. That’s all they do. They don’t fe an sential part of you unls you want them to. Before hookup apps like Grdr and Scff tablished the words as standard sex vobulary, queer men ed discreet street dg — lored hanki, certa typ of clothg — to discreetly tell each other what kd of sex they were lookg for and which role (top or bottom, domant or submissive) they wanted to take.</p></div></div></div><div class="GridItem-buujkM fVLMby grid--em grid-layout__asi"><div class="StickyBoxWrapper-jfYB kNleGZ sticky-box"><div class="StickyBoxPrimary-dzWDWL cdhYoN sticky-box__primary"><div class="Contaer-bkChBi byNLHx"></div><div class="AdWrapper-dQtivb fZrssQ ad ad--rail"><div class="ad__slot ad__slot--rail" data-no-id="r97bu"></div></div><div class="ConsumerMarketgUnThemedWrapper-iUTMTf jssHut nsumer-marketg-un nsumer-marketg-un--display-rail" role="prentatn" aria-hidn="te"><div class="nsumer-marketg-un__slot nsumer-marketg-un__slot--display-rail"></div><div class="journey-un"></div></div></div><div class="StickyBoxPlaceholr-grPmrg dxAvXx"></div></div></div></div><div class="RowWrapper-UmqTg HEhan full-bleed-ad row-mid-ntent-ad"><div class="StickyMidContentAdWrapper-fSBzwl drzyIa ad-stickymidntent"><div class="AdWrapper-dQtivb fZrssQ ad ad--mid-ntent should-hold-space"><div class="ad__slot ad__slot--mid-ntent" data-no-id="ft5v5p"></div></div></div></div><div class="GridWrapper-cAzTTK kHBDeH grid grid-margs grid-ems-2 ArticlePageChunksGrid-hfxa bjczjj grid-layout--adrail narrow wi-adrail"><div class="GridItem-buujkM stRKV grid--em grid-layout__ntent"><div class="BodyWrapper-kufPGa bectqB body body__ntaer article__body" data-journey-hook="client-ntent" data-ttid="BodyWrapper"><div class="body__ner-ntaer"><p>The words help sex happen. They are not g you have to live your life .</p><p><strong>How do I know if I will enjoy bottomg?</strong></p><p>Bottomg is ually not extremely fun on s first attempts. For many, bottomg is unfortable the begng. All sex is awkward when you don’t know what you’re dog.</p><p>But don’t give up. Wh practice pleasure. Once you get the hang of , bottomg feels great.</p><p><strong>Is bottomg safe?</strong></p><p>Anal sex has jt as much risk as vagal sex for unwanted sexually transmted fectns like chlamydia and gonorrhea, and sce HIV is more mon among certa populatns (transgenr women of lor and men who have sex wh men), anal sex pos a higher risk of HIV transmissn for the people.</p><div data-attr-viewport-monor="le-recirc" class="le-recirc-wrapper le-recirc-observer-target-2 viewport-monor-anchor"></div><p>I’m a man who has sex wh men, cludg trans men, and I see transgenr women and queer people of lor as sential members of my LGBTQ+ fay. <a href=">I am also HIV-posive</a>. In cultural disurse, HIV is wily associated wh my muny — so much so that many begners who want to try bottomg rea om dog so bee they thk ’s an extremely dangero, high-risk activy.</p><p>That’s not te. All sex — bottomg, toppg, suckg, handjobs — volv risk. Learng about those risks and takg the necsary steps to mimize them (protectg yourself and playg smartly) giv you the eedom to enjoy bottomg whout fear.</p><p>I discs the risks and how to protect yourself part two of this gui.</p><p><strong>Can two bottoms be a relatnship?</strong></p><p>Y they n. My boyiend leans bottom, and so do I. I love fuckg him, and he lov fuckg me, but sometim (often) we both prefer to get fucked — and we do, by other guys.</p><p>The ncept of non-monogamy might not be somethg you’re ready to thk about right now, but at some pot you will disver an awome part of gay male culture: We are masters of nontradnal, non-monogamo, polyamoro, and “open” relatnships.</p><p>We were trailblazers the “ee love” movement, and have a long history of enjoyg long-term, succsful relatnships between guys who both “play for the same team.” If you nnect wh someone, don’t immediately assume that your perceived sexual “patibily” is a al-breaker. Talk about . 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class="BodyWrapper-kufPGa bectqB body body__ntaer article__body" data-journey-hook="client-ntent" data-ttid="BodyWrapper"><div class="body__ner-ntaer"><p><strong>Why do I feel ashamed of bottomg?</strong></p><div data-attr-viewport-monor="le-recirc" class="le-recirc-wrapper le-recirc-observer-target-3 viewport-monor-anchor"></div><p>You’ve probably been told bottomg mak you “the girl,” or mak you “more gay.” We live a misogynistic, patriarchal culture which femized men often get shamed, and men gettg fucked is seen by many as the ultimate act of femizatn.</p><p>Maybe you’re still alg wh some self-acceptance issu, and the ncept of beg “more gay” is unfortable, bee you don’t want to be “more gay.” You may not even want to “be gay” at all.</p><p>First thgs first: there is nothg wrong wh beg feme. There’s also nothg wrong wh beg gay. Even if you don’t believe that now, give time, and spend as much time as you n among your people — other LGBTQ+ folks. We will help you.</p><p>What you enjoy sexually says nothg about your social importance, your power, your masculy, your femy, your genr inty, your attractivens, your sirabily, or your “worth.” It’s jt sex. Enjoy . Do what feels good.</p><p><em><a data-offer-url=" class="external-lk" data-event-click="{"element":"ExternalLk","outgogURL":"" href=" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Alexanr Chev</a> is a New York Cy-based wrer whose work has appeared Vice, Out Magaze, Pri, Gayety, Project Q, Fenuxe Magaze, and others. 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