The Closeted World of Gay Orthodox Jews: A Review of "Tremblg Before G-d"

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Oprah asks Shterna, Toby, Chaya and Brocha, four Hasidic women raisg 32 children between them, what would happen if a child were born gay. Fd out why they say this is a theoretil qutn.

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THE GAY ORTHODOX UNRGROUND

There is no official membership, and only a handful of people are willg to put their nam on support-group Ashkazy, a gay-rights activist and Orthodox Jew who liv New York Cy, says he has spoken wh over 200 gay Orthodox Jews over the past few years.

Filmmaker Sandi DuBowski, who produced and directed Tremblg Before G-d, terviewed hundreds of gay um (observant) Jews over the past few years for his movie. Open and Secret Support Groups In the New York area, home to the largt ncentratn of gay Orthodox Jews, at least four support groups have spng up to meet their needs. ’" The three founrs of the Gay and Lbian Yhiva Day School Alumni Associatn chose that name specifilly to attract a gay group wh an Orthodox background.

The first Wt Coast support group was found Los Angel by "Jab, " a 54-year-old Orthodox gay Jew who had been married and livg a New York suburb until ten years ago, when he nfsed to his wife that he was gay. He started attendg an Orthodox synagogue, but was treated as a send-class member (he did not receive aliyot [he was not lled up to the Torah], for example) bee he was gay.

MY SECRET LIFE AS A GAY ULTRA-ORTHODOX JEW

The issu for Orthodox lbians are different than for Orthodox gay men, part bee the Torah do not specifilly prohib lbian sex.

A YOUNG HASIDIC MAN LEADS A GAY DOUBLE LIFE BLACK HAT

For a long time, he says, "people uldn’t nceive that was possible to be gay and um, so they were leavg [Orthodoxy] drov. "The Liv They LiveMany gay Orthodox Jews attempt to ignore their sexual impuls, perhaps even marryg and raisg fai. And then there are those who lead fully gay liv, ignorg the halakhic [Jewish legal] ban on gay sex.

Richard Isay, a gay New York-based psychoanalyst, timat that 15 to 20 percent of gay men marry women–bee they want to ny or "cure" their gayns, or want children, or to please their parents.

WHAT IT MEANS TO BE A GAY TEEN IN A JEWISH ULTRA-ORTHODOX COMMUNY

He adds that the Orthodox muny, the number of gay men marryg pursu of tradnal liv is much higher than the secular world. I was still at school when I first tried tellg a rabbi I was gay but all he said rponse was: "It's jt a phase, happens to a lot of girls.

WHY DID NETFLIX CUT ‘I’M GAY’ FROM DOCUMENTARY ABOUT EX-HASIDS?

I thk he already knew I was gay but he'd nvced himself that was jt a latent sire rather than an tegral part of my inty. But if beg Orthodox Jewish and gay was not patible then I don't thk that God would have ma me this way.

So, Shmuel (Adam Silver) leads a double life -- prayg at the synagogue and managg a dry cleang bs by day, and then traversg gay bars by night -- at least while his wife and children are out of town. Wrer, -producer, and gay Jewish man Phillip Guttmann explaed some of the challeng ultra-Orthodox Jews face.

"Every Jew is obligated to fulfill the entire range of mzvot between person and person relatn to persons who are homosexual or have feelgs of same sex attractn. Embarrassg, harassg or meang someone wh a homosexual orientatn or same-sex attractn is a vlatn of Torah prohibns that embody the ept valu of Judaism.

MORN ORTHODOX JEWS ARE MOSTLY OBSERVANT, WEALTHY AND GAY-FRIENDLY

In rponse to the Supreme Court’s lg favor of marriage equaly, the Unn of Orthodox Congregatns released a statement, sayg, “We reerate the historil posn of the Jewish fah, enunciated unequivolly our Bible, Talmud and Cos, which forbids homosexual relatnships and nmns the stutnalizatn of such relatnships as marriag. Openly gay Orthodox rabbi, Rabbi Steven Greenberg, has officiated at same-sex mment ceremoni and has been sharply cricized by his lleagu for dog so.

There are, to date, only a few openly gay Orthodox rabbis all of whom revealed their sexual orientatn only after ordatn.

" Here I found eply relig people tryg sperately to rencile their sexualy wh their fah visg wh openly gay people who fled the muny years ago and never looked back. I've met beard Hasidic rabbis who joed this unr a girl's name bee they are transgenr, and teens thst out of their hom for beg gay who don't know how to live the secular world.

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The Closeted World of Gay Orthodox Jews: A Review of "Tremblg Before G-d" .

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