Often the real reason gay men fd so difficult to fd love and happs is bee they are their own worst enemy. YourTango expert Rick Clemons, The Comg Out Coach, drops some rather blunt tth about how gay men need to get out of their own way.
Contents:
- ARE GAY MEN HAPPIER THAN STRAIGHT MEN?
- WHO ARE THE HAPPIT? STRAIGHTS AND GAYS, BUT NOT BISEXUALS
- 5 (RATHER BLUNT) REASONS WHY GAY MEN STGGLE TO FD HAPPS
- GAY (HOMOSEXUAL) AND GAY (HAPPY)
- THE UNTRI WHERE GAY MEN ARE THE HAPPIT
ARE GAY MEN HAPPIER THAN STRAIGHT MEN?
* are gay happy *
A good illtratn of the facts is the recent spate of news stori about how gay men are happier than heterosexual men. "A new study has found that gay and bisexual men are ls likely to be prsed and have psychologil problems than heterosexual men. "Of urse gays are ls strsed.
Alas, none of this good news for gays and spankg fetishists is really backed up by the data the origal study, which, while trigug, is hardly evince that is beg out and gay that mak men happier (let alone women). For one, the study reced participants Montreal, a large and fairly progrsive cy where beg openly gay do not e wh high social or enomic sts.
While gay men the study seemed to experience ls strs and prsn than straight men, there are a variety of alternative explanatns that might expla this fact (like whether they worked out or not; whether they had children or not; e level and stabily). In other words, you might be out at work and at home, but if your grandparents don't know you're gay, then you're marked as closeted. Once upon a time there was a gay man and he me out of the closet and was happy and lived happily everyafter.
WHO ARE THE HAPPIT? STRAIGHTS AND GAYS, BUT NOT BISEXUALS
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5 (RATHER BLUNT) REASONS WHY GAY MEN STGGLE TO FD HAPPS
Only 2% intified as gay/lbian and only 2% intified as bisexual. Counter to mon sense, over a third of those wh lifelong same-sex partners and nearly half of those wh lifelong both-sex partners intified not as gay or bisexual but as straight. If you ed an inty measure, gays, lbians, and bisexuals were ls happy than straights.
If, however, you ed same-sex behavr, gays and lbians were as happy as straights, but not so for dividuals wh both-sex partners--they remaed relatively unhappy. Bee the vast majory of dividuals who intify as bisexual are women (equently the 60% to 80% range), any study that b gays/lbians wh bisexuals and fds negative mental or physil health problems likely distorts our unrstandg of sexual mori and th tells ltle about male bisexuals, gay mal, and lbians.
Th, if the goal of rearch is to document the problematic nature of beg gay, lbian, or bisexual, asssg sexual inty is the way to go. Bottom le: Be reful what you read, hear, and believe about gays, lbians, and bisexuals. Bee I'm tired of hearg gay men talk about how unhappy they are.
GAY (HOMOSEXUAL) AND GAY (HAPPY)
The problem wh gay men... IS gay men!
It's time to "man up" and get to the real reasons gay men have so many problems fdg love and Tth: We're Our Own Worst Enemi Far too many gay men script our liv to the envy of Sex and the Cy wrers. And stead, let's exame the top 5 ways gay men brg problems upon ourselv:1. Hontly, this isn't jt a gay man's problem; 's a man problem.
We thk wh our difference is, gay guys obss about crotch. However, for gay men, the greener pasture often seems (seems beg the operative word) to have a 6-pack vers a 5-pack, and a bank acunt that's not nsistently problem that aris wh the "somethg better will e along" mentaly is you sudnly wake up one day realizg you're still wag for the green grass to grow.
THE UNTRI WHERE GAY MEN ARE THE HAPPIT
You will be what matters, and the amount of self-love and self-nfince will be 's a few more reasons why the problem wh gay men is themselv:We don't love ourselv enough to know how to love someone else, and then we bch bee we n't fd foc is outward-driven stead of are the total sum of the five gay men we spend most of our time wh. Acceptance don't require beg someone else's versn of an ial gay man. You spent way too much time pretendg you are someone you're not before you me go back to another closet, pretendg you are the perfect gay man, jt to f ?
And wh that, I will now remove my Sassy Diva heels and slip to another fortable si of me—the real me: a gay man ed to seeg himself the mirror whout flchg. )Stgglg wh fdg yourself as a gay man?
11 Animals That Support Gay Marriage. People choose to be gay. Government should protect gay people om discrimatn bee homosexualy is an unalterable aspect of their inty.