When eelance wrer Philip Ellis was young, wasn't unmon for people who found out he was gay to ask "Oh my god! Will you be my gay bt iend?"
Contents:
- CAN GAY AND STRAIGHT MEN REALLY BE FRIENDS?
- HOW TO TELL IF YOUR GUY FRIEND IS GAY
- THE REAL REASONS YOU NEED A GAY BT FRIEND
- NO, YOU DON'T NEED A ‘GAY BT IEND.’ AND Y, ASKG FOR ONE IS OFFENSIVE.
CAN GAY AND STRAIGHT MEN REALLY BE FRIENDS?
New rearch explor the benefs of iendship between gay and straight men. * sometimes all you need is your gay best friend *
I’ll never fet beg 15 years old and walkg to my first ever meetg for lbian, gay, bi, queer, and trans youth at BAGLY Boston. ”) The close queer iends we make bee a chosen fay, wh a shared culture and inty, formg the bonds that are sential to our wellns and as gay bars and bookstor are closg left and right, many of have turned to apps to fill that gap, meang we spend more time than ever alone our rooms.
LGBT2Q people exist all genrs, all cultur, and relyg on your gaydar is a good start, but expandg your queer and trans cultural referenc will boost your abili.
Instagram and Twter make easier to fd other people wh the same terts, whether ’s hedgehogs or aerosol art, and there are so many homo-tastic hashtags. Try #QueerStyle, #BlackTransExcellence, #QueerFemme, #LbianMem, #BiLove, #GenrEuphoria, #Gaysian, #LGBTTikTok. Or, add your inty to your state, school, or profsn to fd #GayMichigan or #QueerMorehoe or #TransUtah or #PansexualUK and more.
HOW TO TELL IF YOUR GUY FRIEND IS GAY
There are lots of reasons why you might want to know if your iend is gay. There are some important thgs that you have to unrstand about this suatn before gog forward, however. Someone's sexualy is highly plex and highly... * sometimes all you need is your gay best friend *
That may be surprisg news if you’ve been raised a homophobic branch of your relig tradn, but I promise you—they’re out there, and they n’t wa to wele you (and you may fd really healg to brg your whole self to your fah tradn).
Here are some lks to lists of affirmg (that’s the relig buzzword for “we like the gays here”) anizatns:. Check out Unlikely Hikers, which specifilly wel and celebrat people who don’t f the classic Patagonia profile cludg fat folks and hikers of lour; Venture Out Project, which is n by and explicly wel trans people; Gay SCUBA Week and Queer Paddlers; and basilly what I’m sayg is that if you want to be out and Out there are fely other ‘mos to do wh your area. If you’re newly sober or revery and tryg to avoid plac, people, or patterns that may not be healthy for you right now, a gay AA or other revery meetg might be a double-w for you: support on your path and a boost for your new social life.
(Mis)e hookup apps wh gay be clear, a happy, healthy, nsentg hookup is a thg of bety. Growlr (gay bears and admirers). ” or “lookg for garng gays!
THE REAL REASONS YOU NEED A GAY BT FRIEND
” they’re sayg, “Hello, fellow homo! ” or “What a great lor story, ” ’s extremely likely they’re sayg HELLO I AM ALSO QUEER AND/OR TRANS AND I WOULD LIKE TO TALK TO don’t be fooled if someone don’t “look gay.
We’re everywhere and we look like anyone and also please don’t ntribute to the ia that there’s one way to look gay, ol? They’ll troduce you to their nonbary , their gay office iend, the trans girl their PhD hort, or whomever.
McKellan is a gay man who me out 1988, and although 33 years have passed sce he me out, n still be shockg to the world to see such a close same-sex iendship that cross sexual inti. Along wh his supervisor, Robb Travers, he lnched a study that surveyed 350 straight men and 275 gay or bisexual men om across North Ameri. Siar to qutns that loom about whether straight men and women n ever tly be platonic iends, the same qutn lgers over the iendships between gay and straight men.
NO, YOU DON'T NEED A ‘GAY BT IEND.’ AND Y, ASKG FOR ONE IS OFFENSIVE.
A bromosexual iendship is a nonsexual iendship between two men, where typilly one iend is gay (or bisexual), and the other is straight. In days past, this may have seemed as unlikely as a iendship between a ln and a moe, given the tradnally high levels of homophobia among straight men. McKie’s rearch reported that straight participants felt that a gay iend ma for the ultimate wgman bee the gay iend uld help to attract prospective partners for the straight iend.
Other rearch has shown that women prefer iendships wh gay vers straight men, partly bee the threat or loomg qutn of sexual attractn is renred moot.