Gay Engagement: Which Etiquette Rul Apply? | HuffPost Life

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• ENGAGEMENT ETIQUETTE FOR GAY COUPL
• GAY MARRIAGE PROPOSALS: UGH, WHAT DO I DO?
• GAY ENGAGEMENT: WHICH ETIQUETTE RUL APPLY?
• TOP FIVE PROPOSAL IAS FOR GAY MEN
• ASK THE EXPERT: WE'RE BOTH LBIANS - SO WHO PROPOS?{FONT:NORMAL 800 1.2REM/1.2 "D BOLD",SANS-SERIF;TEXT-TRANSFORM:NORMAL;LOR:HER;DISPLAY:LE-BLOCK;PADDG-BOTTOM:6PX;POSN:RELATIVE;TEXT-TRANSFORM:UPPERSE;}{BACKGROUND:#89308A;BOTTOM:0;NTENT:'';DISPLAY:BLOCK;HEIGHT:2PX;LEFT:0;POSN:ABSOLUTE;RIGHT:0;-WEBK-TRANSN:ALL 0.2S EASE;TRANSN:ALL 0.2S EASE;WIDTH:100%;}{LEFT:51%;RIGHT:51%;WIDTH:0;}{FONT:NORMAL 800 1.2REM/1.2 "D BOLD",SANS-SERIF;TEXT-TRANSFORM:NORMAL;LOR:HER;DISPLAY:LE-BLOCK;PADDG-BOTTOM:6PX;POSN:RELATIVE;TEXT-TRANSFORM:UPPERSE;}{BACKGROUND:#89308A;BOTTOM:0;NTENT:'';DISPLAY:BLOCK;HEIGHT:2PX;LEFT:0;POSN:ABSOLUTE;RIGHT:0;-WEBK-TRANSN:ALL 0.2S EASE;TRANSN:ALL 0.2S EASE;WIDTH:100%;}{LEFT:51%;RIGHT:51%;WIDTH:0;}LIFEBY KIRSTEN PALLADOJANUARY 26, 2011/8:00 AMBY KIRSTEN PALLADOJANUARY 26, 2011 / 8:00 AM{"@NTEXT":","@TYPE":"NEWSARTICLE","HEADLE":"ASK THE EXPERT: WE'RE BOTH LBIANS - SO WHO PROPOS?","DATEPUBLISHED":"2011-01-26T13:00:17.000+0000","DATEMODIFIED":"2011-01-26T13:00:17.000+0000","IMAGE":{"@NTEXT":","@TYPE":"IMAGEOBJECT","WIDTH":1920,"HEIGHT":1080},"URL":","THOR":{"@TYPE":"ORGANIZATN","NAME":"LOGO TV"},"MAENTYOFPAGE":{"@TYPE":"WEBPAGE","@ID":"},"PUBLISHER":{"@TYPE":"ORGANIZATN","@ID":","NAME":"LOGO TV","URL":","LOGO":{"@TYPE":"IMAGEOBJECT"}},"CREATOR":"KIRSTEN PALLADO","ARTICLESECTN":"LIFE"}{BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}STUMPED ON WHEN TO SEND OUT YOUR STDS (SAVE-THE-DATE ANNOUNCEMENTS)? DON’T KNOW WHO SHOULD BE VED TO YOUR REHEARSAL DNER? GET THE ANSWERS TO ALL YOUR ETIQUETTE QUTNS FOR YOUR GAY WEDDG BY SUBMTG YOUR DILEMMA TO {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}Q.  SO, WE’RE TWO WOMEN LOVE, AND WE WANT TO GET MARRIED. WE EACH WANT TO SURPRISE THE OTHER WH A RG AND ASK THE {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}IF THIS WERE A STRAIGHT RELATNSHIP, I GUS THE GUY WOULD PROPOSE TO THE GIRL. NEHER OF IS A GUY, SO HOW DO WE DO THIS? WHOEVER GO FIRST GETS TO BE THE ONE WHO DO THE SURPRISE, AND THEN WHAT’S THE POT OF THE SEND PERSON DOG ANYTHG?{BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}IS THERE A SOLUTN WE’RE NOT THKG OF? HAS ANYONE ELSE E UP WH A WORKABLE IA? HOW HAVE OTHER SAME-SEX UPL BEE ENGAGED, IF BOTH WANTED TO DO THE ASKG? {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}A. LET’S THK OF THIS LIKE SURPRISG EACH OTHER WH AN VATN TO GO ON A DATE. BOTH VATNS ARE EQUALLY SPECIAL, THOUGH WHO DO FIRST MIGHT BE NSIRED THE BRAVER OR MORE PREPARED OF THE TWO—AS WELL AS THE ONE WHOSE STORY IS TOLD FIRST WHEN PEOPLE ASK TO HEAR YOUR ENGAGEMENT {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}MANY EQUALLY WED REARS HAVE TALKED TO ABOUT THIS VERY ISSUE, AND THE SOLUTNS ARE AS VARIED AS THE UPL THEMSELV. BUT UALLY BOILS DOWN TO MOST UPL CHOOSG TO SELECT THEIR ENGAGEMENT RGS TOGETHER, AND THEN KNOWG PROPOSALS ARE {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}SOME, LIKE ONE OF OUR REAL WEDDGS UPL  JSE AND FERNAN, HAVE BEEN SO SYNC THEY ACTUALLY PROPOSED TO EACH OTHER ON THE SAME NIGHT—UNPLANNED!{BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}YOU ULD ALSO PLAN A PROPOSAL EVENG TOGETHER IF NEHER OF YOU LIK THE IA OF GETTG TO BE THE ONE TO SURPRISE THE OTHER. IT WOULD BE LIKE A WEDDG CEREMONY WHERE YOU WRE YOUR OWN VOWS, SO WHAT’S BEG SAID BY EACH OF YOU IS A SURPRISE, BUT YOU BOTH KNOW THAT THE END, YOU’LL BE ASKG HER TO SPEND THE RT OF HER LIFE WH YOU AND VICE {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}THE PURPOSE OF THE SEND PERSON THE RELATNSHIP PROPOSG IS UALLY IF THE ORIGAL PROPOSER WANTS TO ALSO BE SWEPT OFF HER FEET WH A PROPOSAL OR HAS THE NEED TO WEAR AN ENGAGEMENT {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}IT’S NOT NECSARY, AND NOT ALL LBIAN OR GAY UPL DO . BUT IF YOU BOTH WANT , THAT’S ALL THAT {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}REARS, HAVE YOU BEEN THIS SUATN? WHAT DID YOU DO, OR WHAT WOULD YOUR ADVICE BE FOR THIS REAR?{BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}KIRSTEN PALLADO IS THE EDOR CHIEF OF EQUALLY WED, THE NATN’S PREMIER SAME-SEX WEDDG MAGAZE, ONLE AT . EQUALLY WED OFFERS GAY, LBIAN, BISEXUAL, TRANSGENR AND QUEER UPL A GUI TO THEIR WEDDGS, A SOCIAL MUNY AND A MARKETPLACE OF VETTED LGBT-IENDLY WEDDG VENDORS. FOLLOW EQUALLY WED ON TWTER AT {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;CLEAR:BOTH;}{BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;MARG:0 TO;WIDTH:90%;M-WIDTH:288PX;MAX-WIDTH:1440PX;M-HEIGHT:194PX;}LATT NEWS

ENGAGEMENT ETIQUETTE FOR GAY COUPL

When to planng your gay proposal, there aren’t any hard and fast l. Learn the s and outs of your perfect gay proposal!

When to gay proposal ias for two men, an engagement rg don’t have to be the centerpiece. Of urse, he’ll know you’re fishg for gay proposal ias, but the exact who, when and where is still your hands.

GAY MARRIAGE PROPOSALS: UGH, WHAT DO I DO?

Who pays for what a gay weddg? Unfortunately, our parents e om a generatn where weddg etiquette was clearly fed, and that fn rarely, if ever, clud rmatn on gay marriag.

Do gay men wear diamond engagement rgs?

Gay upl are le breakers at heart, so there is nothg wrong wh a man wearg a diamond rg. The gay muny is creative and novative and there are fe ways to propose whout a rg.

GAY ENGAGEMENT: WHICH ETIQUETTE RUL APPLY?

Uh, how do we do a gay bachelor/bachelorette party? Do I have to ve fay members who don’t agree wh gay marriage?

You or your parents n expla that although gay marriage isn’t somethg everyone agre wh, would still mean a lot if you showed up. How do we handle seatg arrangements a gay weddg? Who walks down the aisle, and who stands at the altar a gay weddg?

TOP FIVE PROPOSAL IAS FOR GAY MEN

), How do I fd one that is acceptg of gay unns? I wouldn’t want you to promise, you may be happier lookg elsewhere, but perhaps if the head of your church is agast a gay ceremony IN the church, they may be OK wh you dog the Church garn, library, etc. For what ’s worth, the Epispal Church has voted to allow gay marriag (July 2015).

Danya almost proposed to Eliza when gay marriage was legalized natnwi 2015, only Eliza admted at the time she disliked public proposals and Danya end up losg the Etsy rg she orred.

“I feel like wh gay upl, an engagement n still be thought of as a surprise for one person, but I didn’t know who asks who. It was such a spontaneo and betiful proposal and I would never have wanted to be any sharg his betiful story, he asked me a ton of qutns about engagement etiquette, and the only rource I have is Peggy Post's classic book tled Etiquette, which of urse says zero about gay proposals. There are no formal l for gay weddgs (yet) so you are sentially pneers.

ASK THE EXPERT: WE'RE BOTH LBIANS - SO WHO PROPOS?{FONT:NORMAL 800 1.2REM/1.2 "D BOLD",SANS-SERIF;TEXT-TRANSFORM:NORMAL;LOR:HER;DISPLAY:LE-BLOCK;PADDG-BOTTOM:6PX;POSN:RELATIVE;TEXT-TRANSFORM:UPPERSE;}{BACKGROUND:#89308A;BOTTOM:0;NTENT:'';DISPLAY:BLOCK;HEIGHT:2PX;LEFT:0;POSN:ABSOLUTE;RIGHT:0;-WEBK-TRANSN:ALL 0.2S EASE;TRANSN:ALL 0.2S EASE;WIDTH:100%;}{LEFT:51%;RIGHT:51%;WIDTH:0;}{FONT:NORMAL 800 1.2REM/1.2 "D BOLD",SANS-SERIF;TEXT-TRANSFORM:NORMAL;LOR:HER;DISPLAY:LE-BLOCK;PADDG-BOTTOM:6PX;POSN:RELATIVE;TEXT-TRANSFORM:UPPERSE;}{BACKGROUND:#89308A;BOTTOM:0;NTENT:'';DISPLAY:BLOCK;HEIGHT:2PX;LEFT:0;POSN:ABSOLUTE;RIGHT:0;-WEBK-TRANSN:ALL 0.2S EASE;TRANSN:ALL 0.2S EASE;WIDTH:100%;}{LEFT:51%;RIGHT:51%;WIDTH:0;}LIFEBY KIRSTEN PALLADOJANUARY 26, 2011/8:00 AMBY KIRSTEN PALLADOJANUARY 26, 2011 / 8:00 AM{"@NTEXT":","@TYPE":"NEWSARTICLE","HEADLE":"ASK THE EXPERT: WE'RE BOTH LBIANS - SO WHO PROPOS?","DATEPUBLISHED":"2011-01-26T13:00:17.000+0000","DATEMODIFIED":"2011-01-26T13:00:17.000+0000","IMAGE":{"@NTEXT":","@TYPE":"IMAGEOBJECT","WIDTH":1920,"HEIGHT":1080},"URL":","THOR":{"@TYPE":"ORGANIZATN","NAME":"LOGO TV"},"MAENTYOFPAGE":{"@TYPE":"WEBPAGE","@ID":"},"PUBLISHER":{"@TYPE":"ORGANIZATN","@ID":","NAME":"LOGO TV","URL":","LOGO":{"@TYPE":"IMAGEOBJECT"}},"CREATOR":"KIRSTEN PALLADO","ARTICLESECTN":"LIFE"}{BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}STUMPED ON WHEN TO SEND OUT YOUR STDS (SAVE-THE-DATE ANNOUNCEMENTS)? DON’T KNOW WHO SHOULD BE VED TO YOUR REHEARSAL DNER? GET THE ANSWERS TO ALL YOUR ETIQUETTE QUTNS FOR YOUR GAY WEDDG BY SUBMTG YOUR DILEMMA TO {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}Q.  SO, WE’RE TWO WOMEN LOVE, AND WE WANT TO GET MARRIED. WE EACH WANT TO SURPRISE THE OTHER WH A RG AND ASK THE {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}IF THIS WERE A STRAIGHT RELATNSHIP, I GUS THE GUY WOULD PROPOSE TO THE GIRL. NEHER OF IS A GUY, SO HOW DO WE DO THIS? WHOEVER GO FIRST GETS TO BE THE ONE WHO DO THE SURPRISE, AND THEN WHAT’S THE POT OF THE SEND PERSON DOG ANYTHG?{BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}IS THERE A SOLUTN WE’RE NOT THKG OF? HAS ANYONE ELSE E UP WH A WORKABLE IA? HOW HAVE OTHER SAME-SEX UPL BEE ENGAGED, IF BOTH WANTED TO DO THE ASKG? {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}A. LET’S THK OF THIS LIKE SURPRISG EACH OTHER WH AN VATN TO GO ON A DATE. BOTH VATNS ARE EQUALLY SPECIAL, THOUGH WHO DO FIRST MIGHT BE NSIRED THE BRAVER OR MORE PREPARED OF THE TWO—AS WELL AS THE ONE WHOSE STORY IS TOLD FIRST WHEN PEOPLE ASK TO HEAR YOUR ENGAGEMENT {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}MANY EQUALLY WED REARS HAVE TALKED TO ABOUT THIS VERY ISSUE, AND THE SOLUTNS ARE AS VARIED AS THE UPL THEMSELV. BUT UALLY BOILS DOWN TO MOST UPL CHOOSG TO SELECT THEIR ENGAGEMENT RGS TOGETHER, AND THEN KNOWG PROPOSALS ARE {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}SOME, LIKE ONE OF OUR REAL WEDDGS UPL  JSE AND FERNAN, HAVE BEEN SO SYNC THEY ACTUALLY PROPOSED TO EACH OTHER ON THE SAME NIGHT—UNPLANNED!{BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}YOU ULD ALSO PLAN A PROPOSAL EVENG TOGETHER IF NEHER OF YOU LIK THE IA OF GETTG TO BE THE ONE TO SURPRISE THE OTHER. IT WOULD BE LIKE A WEDDG CEREMONY WHERE YOU WRE YOUR OWN VOWS, SO WHAT’S BEG SAID BY EACH OF YOU IS A SURPRISE, BUT YOU BOTH KNOW THAT THE END, YOU’LL BE ASKG HER TO SPEND THE RT OF HER LIFE WH YOU AND VICE {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}THE PURPOSE OF THE SEND PERSON THE RELATNSHIP PROPOSG IS UALLY IF THE ORIGAL PROPOSER WANTS TO ALSO BE SWEPT OFF HER FEET WH A PROPOSAL OR HAS THE NEED TO WEAR AN ENGAGEMENT {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}IT’S NOT NECSARY, AND NOT ALL LBIAN OR GAY UPL DO . BUT IF YOU BOTH WANT , THAT’S ALL THAT {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}REARS, HAVE YOU BEEN THIS SUATN? WHAT DID YOU DO, OR WHAT WOULD YOUR ADVICE BE FOR THIS REAR?{BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}KIRSTEN PALLADO IS THE EDOR CHIEF OF EQUALLY WED, THE NATN’S PREMIER SAME-SEX WEDDG MAGAZE, ONLE AT . EQUALLY WED OFFERS GAY, LBIAN, BISEXUAL, TRANSGENR AND QUEER UPL A GUI TO THEIR WEDDGS, A SOCIAL MUNY AND A MARKETPLACE OF VETTED LGBT-IENDLY WEDDG VENDORS. FOLLOW EQUALLY WED ON TWTER AT {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;CLEAR:BOTH;}{BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;MARG:0 TO;WIDTH:90%;M-WIDTH:288PX;MAX-WIDTH:1440PX;M-HEIGHT:194PX;}LATT NEWS

Follow Frank on Twter @GayAtHomeDad and on Instagram at gayathomedad. "Same-sex upl have the eedom to create their own ctoms, which is what mak so excg, " Joseph Alexanr, founr of same-sex weddg planng firm Gay Ever After, told HuffPost Weddgs. So as no surprise that gays and lbians are takg tradnally heterosexual weddg tradns -- such as formal proposals and rg-wearg -- and rhapg them to form new and dividually relevant marriage ctoms.

"Like most heterosexual spo, gay and lbian upl often choose to wear engagement and weddg rgs. But sce many same-sex partners held mment ceremoni long before gay marriage was ma legal some U. "Lbians have long worn matchg rgs, way before legal gay marriage, " so they're more likely to both wear engagement rgs, Kort wh heterosexual upl, where -- thanks largely to the diamond dtry's advertisg mache -- a diamond rg is almost always expected to acpany a marriage proposal, there aren't many norms dictatg the "right kd" of engagement rg same-sex relatnships.

Still, spe the flexibily to choose the bt rg to reprent a uple's relatnship -- and spe the heteronormativy of most diamond advertisg -- a giant rock is still mandatory for some gay and lbian upl.