Si Guys: Thkg Beyond Gay Male "Tops" and "Bottoms" | Psychology Today

Contents:

• SI GUYS: THKG BEYOND GAY MALE "TOPS" AND "BOTTOMS"
• GAY "SIS": HOW LANGUAGE FRE US TO BE OURSELV
• I’M GAY AND I’M NOT A TOP OR A BOTTOM – I’M A ‘SI’

SI GUYS: THKG BEYOND GAY MALE "TOPS" AND "BOTTOMS"

“I ntributed a term to the gay male muny. Gay men are always fg themselv as top and bottom or verse for terurse.

What about gay men who don’t engage terurse?

GAY "SIS": HOW LANGUAGE FRE US TO BE OURSELV

A third add: “Personally I’m not crazy about the term ‘si’ (sounds to me like someone lyg there, dog not much) but ’s good that Grdr acknowledg that there’s more to gay sex than anal. Gay men who intify as a "si". When to sex, whether you’re gay, bi, or straight, we’ve all been a ltle brawashed to believg that there is this thg lled “normal.

In the gay male muny, ually, you’re eher nsired to be a “top, ” the perator, or a “bottom, ” the perated, or you’re versatile (n go eher way). For stance, thk about datg apps for gay men. But what if you’re a gay man who don’t enjoy anal sex or fds anal peratn paful, don’t like the feelg or the troublome amount of preparatn and cleang up need for to be a pleasurable experience, or simply don’t experience anal sex as erotic?

That’s why a 2013 article I wrote for Huffgton Post, "Guys on the ‘Si’: Lookg Beyond Gay Tops and Bottoms, " I began workg on popularizg the term “si” orr for the gay men to have the language to exprs their sexual and erotic preference.

I’M GAY AND I’M NOT A TOP OR A BOTTOM – I’M A ‘SI’

Sis often suffer the accatns of other gay men, such as:. I’ve seen gay male clients who rry a load of shame about not likg or wantg to get or give anal sex.

There are straight men who like havg anal sex and/or beg perated wh a dildo, and there are gay men who don’t. The gay datg app Grdr n seem like a mefield wh s extensive e of slang – here’s what terms like GEN, NPNC and si is the most popular LGBTQ datg app the world and a cemented part of gay culture.