Joe Kort, Ph.D., talks about his new book, "Is My Hband Gay, Straight, or Bi?"
Contents:
- HOW TO DEAL WHEN YOU FD OUT YOUR BOYIEND IS GAY
- 17 SIGNS YOUR BOYIEND IS SECRETLY GAY (& WHAT TO DO)
- IS YOUR MAN GAY, STRAIGHT, OR BISEXUAL?
- I FELT MY BOYIEND WAS GAY OR BI IMMEDIATELY, BUT HE FLATLY DENIED IT
- HOW TO TELL IF YOUR BOYIEND IS GAY
- FDG OUT YOUR SPOE IS GAY
HOW TO DEAL WHEN YOU FD OUT YOUR BOYIEND IS GAY
If you're readg this, there's a good chance you thk your boyiend might be gay. No doubt you're also feelg pretty nfed and wonrg how to al wh the suatn. It's a very sensive suatn to al wh, and you need to make sure you rpect his feelgs. But at the same time, you n't * just found out my boyfriend is gay *
But what do you do when your relatoship ends bee your boyiend out as gay? Did you make him gay?
Do your feelgs really have to change jt bee he’s gay? No matter what he might say, he didn’t jt wake up this morng and ci he was gay.
So no, you didn’t make him gay.
17 SIGNS YOUR BOYIEND IS SECRETLY GAY (& WHAT TO DO)
* just found out my boyfriend is gay *
It’s not his flt he’s gay. If you’re readg this, there’s a good chance you thk your boyiend might be gay.
So how n you tell if your boyiend is gay? If you see any of the signs below, your boyiend may be gay. He watch gay pornIf your boyiend watch a lot of gay porn, there’s a good chance he’s sexually terted men.
IS YOUR MAN GAY, STRAIGHT, OR BISEXUAL?
I want to rrect you on somethg you've said repeatedly: A man n “hi” his bisexual orientatn. I disagree. I felt my boyiend was gay or bi immediately. * just found out my boyfriend is gay *
He might not be fully gay, but he’s obvly cur enough to check out on a regular basis. After all, most heterosexual guys have no tert watchg any porn unls there’s a woman your boyiend is tryg to hi his sexualy om you, ’s doubtful that he’ll openly watch gay porn while you’re around. The only way you’ll know is to look at his search history, which is a pretty big vasn of his do he react if you offer to watch gay porn wh him?
He’s been wh men beforeIf he’s been relatnships or hooked up wh men the past, ’s a pretty big ditor that he’s gay or bisexual.
I FELT MY BOYIEND WAS GAY OR BI IMMEDIATELY, BUT HE FLATLY DENIED IT
”If you hear this kd of ment a lot, he might be attemptg to normalize his homosexual thoughts by makg them seem like nothg more than a joke. He’s homophobicIt sounds untertuive, but some gay or bisexual men will exprs homophobic sentiments. It’s a way of flectg spicn off of themselv and makg seem like they uld never be terted other to the way your boyiend talks about homosexualy.
Do he e hostile or sultg words to scribe gay men? Do he make jok about beg gay that cross the le om good-natured teasg to offensive terrory? If so, might be bee he’s secretly stgglg wh his own urse, there are plenty of heterosexual guys who e homophobic language as well.
HOW TO TELL IF YOUR BOYIEND IS GAY
He’s not terted sleepg wh youThere are lots of reasons why your boyiend might not want to have sex that don’t volve him beg secretly gay.
Do he always want to know who is gay and who is straight?
His fantasi volve menA of heterosexual men have sexual fantasi volvg other men, and don’t mean they are gay. He has a lot of gay iendsPeople tend to associate wh others who share siar terts and valu.
FDG OUT YOUR SPOE IS GAY
So if your boyiend has a lot of gay iends, uld be bee he’s subnscly tryg to surround himself wh people like urse, plenty of straight guys have gay iends as well. But if seems like the majory of his social circle is gay, uld be a sign that he’s stgglg wh his own sexualy. He has a gay datg app on his phoneEven if he hasn’t actually ed the app to hook up wh guys, he’s obvly cur and may be thkg about dog so the future.