Joe Kort, Ph.D., talks about his new book, "Is My Hband Gay, Straight, or Bi?"
Contents:
- IS YOUR MAN GAY, STRAIGHT, OR BISEXUAL?
- HOW TO TELL IF YOUR BOYIEND IS GAY
- 17 SIGNS YOUR BOYIEND IS SECRETLY GAY (& WHAT TO DO)
- HOW TO TELL IF YOUR GUY FRIEND IS GAY
- HOW TO GET A MAN (FOR GAY MEN)
- IS MY HBAND GAY? SIGNS OF A GAY HBAND
- IS MY BOYIEND GAY?
- IS MY BOYIEND GAY? 10 SIGNS TO HELP YOU TELL FOR SURE
- CAN SOMEONE BE HOMOSEXUAL AND NOT GAY?
IS YOUR MAN GAY, STRAIGHT, OR BISEXUAL?
* is it gay to have a boyfriend *
In his Royal Oaks, Michigan, practice, Joe specializ Gay Affirmative Psychotherapy and IMAGO Relatnship Therapy, often treatg men who are qutng their sexual orientatn. This populatn is the foc of his new and much-need book: Is My Hband Gay, Straight, or Bi? Number one is the high cince of male-female upl enterg my office bee the woman thks her man might be gay.
HOW TO TELL IF YOUR BOYIEND IS GAY
If you're a woman, you may have noticed thgs about your boyiend that lead you to believe he's gay or terted men. Sexualy is highly plex and sensive, and there are a lot of accurate stereotyp out there that don't tly... * is it gay to have a boyfriend *
He’s actually straight, but for whatever reason, he’s been lookg at gay porn or he’s been havg sex wh men.
A lot of the time the men e on their own and they’re holdg my book about g out as gay, and they want to know, “Is this me?
And I thk ’s very important to state right here that I’m a gay man, yet here I am sayg that most of the time the men who are beg sexual wh other men aren’t gay. That’s unual, bee most gay men, even most gay therapists, believe that if a guy is havg gay sex, he’s gay.
17 SIGNS YOUR BOYIEND IS SECRETLY GAY (& WHAT TO DO)
He says he’s bisexual, but I’m worried he’s actually gay. * is it gay to have a boyfriend *
” I always joke wh clients that for me, as a gay man, when I’m walkg on the beach and checkg people out, the women are the way. Wh gay clients, they say they feel the same way; wh bisexual clients, they say they’re lookg at both the men and the women; wh straight clients, they say they’re lookg only at the women. When a man is a long-term relatnship wh a woman but beg sexual wh men, eher lookg at porn or havg actual sex, he eher will or won’t be homophobic.
The straight men have no homophobia at all—to the pot where they’re willg to seek unselg om me, an openly gay therapist.
HOW TO TELL IF YOUR GUY FRIEND IS GAY
If you're readg this, there's a good chance you thk your boyiend might be gay. No doubt you're also feelg pretty nfed and wonrg how to al wh the suatn. It's a very sensive suatn to al wh, and you need to make sure you rpect his feelgs. But at the same time, you n't * is it gay to have a boyfriend *
A lot of tim the gay men never even make to me (whout promptg om their wife, anyway) bee they’re riddled wh homophobia and I’m too gay for them.
So if a client is stgglg wh his sexual orientatn and he’s got a lot of homophobia, he’s probably gay.
HOW TO GET A MAN (FOR GAY MEN)
There are lots of reasons why you might want to know if your iend is gay. There are some important thgs that you have to unrstand about this suatn before gog forward, however. Someone's sexualy is highly plex and highly... * is it gay to have a boyfriend *
A gay guy wants to do all of that wh a man, a bisexual guy might want a man or a woman, and the straight guy wants to only be wh a woman that way. He’s been lookg at gay porn or he’s been hookg up wh guys he meets through Craigslist.
Even if he’s nfed and don’t want to e out as gay, this is who he is and over time that will e out.
So this is a way of bondg wh men—ironilly, through sex—and happens not bee the man is gay but bee he don’t know any other way to get this need met. Then I tell them that a lot of gay men don’t do anal at all, eher givg or receivg.
IS MY HBAND GAY? SIGNS OF A GAY HBAND
Is my hband gay? is an unthkable qutn to many wiv, and some hbands do turn out to be gay. Learn the signs of a gay hband. * is it gay to have a boyfriend *
The reason is that the guy really is gay and he wants to exprs that sexually and romantilly.
Eher they’re worried that their man will eventually ci he’s gay and end the relatnship, or they want monogamy, and his cheatg is a threat to the marriage regardls of who he’s dog wh. And I should pot out here that the men when they’re engagg this behavr (regardls of whether they’re gay, straight or bi) nearly always tell themselv that what they’re dog is not cheatg bee they’re dog wh a guy.
IS MY BOYIEND GAY?
If you're a woman, you may have noticed thgs about your boyiend that lead you to believe he's gay or terted men.
Keep readg for a thorough list of potential signs that your boyiend might be gay. There are many reasons why someone might act this way, so this by self is not a surefire sign that he’s gay. If you believe your boyiend lov and r for you but he "seems to be gay, " keep md that he uld be bisexual, pansexual, or terted men.
There are several inti which someone n be terted more than one genr, so don't thk he's "jt gay".
IS MY BOYIEND GAY? 10 SIGNS TO HELP YOU TELL FOR SURE
If you stumble upon evince of gay porn on his puter or phone, though, that may be a ltle different.
If he’s gay, he might thrive on other men’s attentn, equently touch or hug them, or exchange flirty ments wh them (pecially about their physil appearance). Notice if he equently hangs out wh his gay iends, or jos them on nights out at LGBTQ+ bars and clubs.
CAN SOMEONE BE HOMOSEXUAL AND NOT GAY?
” Notice if he acts unfortable around gay men, regularly mak homophobic ments or jok, or liberately never talks about anythg remotely gay. If his relativ are highly anti-gay, he may not feel safe or wele to e out to them.