Sam Wilkson me out as gay at 18 years old, then realised he was pansexual after fallg love wh his female bt iend.
Contents:
- I WAS SURE I WAS GAY – UNTIL I FELL LOVE WH MY BT FEMALE IEND
- ‘HE BROKE MY HEART TO A BILLN PIEC’: WHEN A STRAIGHT WOMAN FALLS LOVE WH A GAY MAN
- ‘I FELL LOVE WH A GAY MAN AND NEARLY BROKE ME’
- CAN A GAY MAN FALL LOVE WH A WOMAN?
I WAS SURE I WAS GAY – UNTIL I FELL LOVE WH MY BT FEMALE IEND
I uldn’t say was bee he was gay, ” said the Davidson, om Sydney, says she’s not the first straight woman to fall for a gay bloke. People ask, uldn’t we tell we were fallg lovg wh a gay man? But both refer to the same thg — straight women who have strong, often highly tense and mutually supportive, relatnships wh gay men.
‘HE BROKE MY HEART TO A BILLN PIEC’: WHEN A STRAIGHT WOMAN FALLS LOVE WH A GAY MAN
The days, straight woman and gay men who get along would probably jt be lled mat, but “handbags” were often vol and visual supports of the homosexual muny when discrimatn — legal and otherwise — was still rampant. “So many women have acted as protectors, cheerlears and supporters of their gay iends, but always the background, ” Ms Davidson says. “Straight alli, and particularly women, are a val part of the fight for gay rights.
Her grandmother was a “beard”, or fake girliend, to gay men she was close to; while her mother helped when the muny was beg vastated by AIDS.
‘I FELL LOVE WH A GAY MAN AND NEARLY BROKE ME’
“I’d been raised a fay wh lots of gay men so I should have known better than anyone (not to fall love wh one), ” Ms Davidson says. “A gay man wasn’t a shy unirn I’d never seen before. “I know a woman who was a relatnship for 17 years before he me out as gay.
”Most of the time a gay bt iend might be obliv if his female iend has fallen for him. But some gay men actually enurage , she says. “The wonrful thg about gay men is they talk to me like I’m a person bee they don’t want to get your knickers.
“Wh a uple of months he was htg the gay bars. ”Ms Davidson says straight men uld learn a thg or two om their gay brothers.
CAN A GAY MAN FALL LOVE WH A WOMAN?
“I kd of knew (he was gay) and I kd of didn’t. “I’m gog to try not to fall love wh any more gay men. Fallg love wh a straight guy n be a paful experience, pecially for gay men who yearn for a romantic nnectn wh someone who is not terted them romantilly.
And as a Gay Datg & Relatnship Coach, I’ve worked wh many clients who have experienced the pa of fallg for straight guys. The pa of unrequed love n be overwhelmg, and ’s a feelg that many gay men n relate to.
Is bee you’re not ready to e out, or bee you’re aaid of beg rejected by someone who is gay? Once you’ve intified your patterns, start askg yourself why you’re not allowg yourself to fall for gay guys. Is a fear of rejectn, or a fear of beg seen as too gay?