In this week’s What Your Therapist Really Thks lumn, an 18-year-old wants to know what to do about his parents, who haven’t accepted that he is gay.
Contents:
- I FELT MY BOYIEND WAS GAY OR BI IMMEDIATELY, BUT HE FLATLY DENIED IT
- I WAS MARRIED WH 2 KIDS WHEN I REALIZED I’M GAY
- ‘MY PARENTS STILL WON’T ACCEPT THAT I’M GAY!’
I FELT MY BOYIEND WAS GAY OR BI IMMEDIATELY, BUT HE FLATLY DENIED IT
I want to rrect you on somethg you've said repeatedly: A man n “hi” his bisexual orientatn. I disagree. I felt my boyiend was gay or bi immediately. * my girlfriend found out i'm gay *
I found out my boyiend me out as gay and I'm pletely vastated. My girliend found out I’m a former ex-gay and is pretty upset. So there’s a perd of time where I was the go-to ex-gay of my church and was postg the most hateful sh onle.
She’s trans but me out as “gay” (to men) first and was kicked out by her parents after years of her dad beatg her for not beg “man enough. She mentned somethg about me beg gay. After the movie end my parents pulled me asi and talked to me for like an hour about how “ur nOt reaLlY gAy yOuRe jUst nfUSeD” like,,,,, tell that to my search history.
I WAS MARRIED WH 2 KIDS WHEN I REALIZED I’M GAY
He says he’s bisexual, but I’m worried he’s actually gay. * my girlfriend found out i'm gay *
After about an hour of me explag that i actually like boys they blamed on the tv sayg “the tv ma him gay”. ’s jt that, ’s kd of hard to get a boyiend if not a sgle fuckg soul knows i’m gay, right? My dad says “’s not like we’re homophobic we jt thk you’re too young to know that ur gay” and my mom tells me that i’m jt nfed.
They then turn to parg homosexualy to beg labeled a slut (which i fd kda offensive personally) after half an hour of them explag to me that i should stop beg so gay i fally got to leave the room. I felt my boyiend was gay or bi immediately, but he flatly nied . Then I mercilsly outed him to iends, huiated him to his face, and fally nonted him wh the proof of his profile on a gay hookup app.
First, I thought if I asked him if he was gay, he would nfs and e clean wh me. Send, if he was gay, he wouldn’t hi that fact bee gays won the LGBTQ rights fight.
‘MY PARENTS STILL WON’T ACCEPT THAT I’M GAY!’
I am a fag hag but only bee I like feelg superr and enjoy what I get out of my iendships wh gay men. You are a terrible person, I don’t want you readg my lumn, and I hope your gay iends e to see you for the toxic person you are and cut you out of their liv—unls they’re jt as awful as you are, which se they serve you. I have always taken a dim view of closeted gay men who date straight women to throw people off the scent of ck on their lips (assumg your ex was gay and not bi).
Aga, I don’t have much sympathy for closeted gay men who lie to and mislead women. But if your ex-boyiend was bi, not gay, and you two hadn’t ma a monogamo mment to each other, he had every right to fuck other people—cludg other people wh penis. How AIDS shattered the silence about gay liv.