Ever sce middle school, people have asked Thomas Lloyd the same qutn repeatedly. "If I had a dime for every time I was asked, 'Why am I so gay?' I uld probably pay for one cred at Geetown." In this humoro talk, Lloyd explor the trici of social "verg" as a gay man, fdg muny and the importance of inty ownership.
Contents:
- I LIKE GUYS BUT I DON’T WANT TO BE GAY. HOW DO I STOP BEG GAY?
- HOW TO COPE WHEN YOU'RE GAY AND LONELY
- HOW DO I KNOW I’M NOT REALLY GAY/STRAIGHT?
- WHY AM I "SO GAY?"
I LIKE GUYS BUT I DON’T WANT TO BE GAY. HOW DO I STOP BEG GAY?
I like guys but I don’t want to be gay. How do I stop beg gay?
You don’t need to be certa you are gay before talkg to someone or attendg an LGBTQ+ meetg. I am a gay male. I have been out nearly 7 years now (age 16, sophomore year of HS).
That week I told my iends and fay I was gay. It is very homogeneo/ hetero-normative and beg a tholic stutn is not the easit environment for queer stunts. Part of realizg you're gay, or bi, or trans, or non-bary, or anythg other than cisgenr and heterosexual is acceptg you’re different—and somewhat separated—om the majory.
HOW TO COPE WHEN YOU'RE GAY AND LONELY
Here he shar his journey to overe the sense of isolatn he felt growg up gay a small U. At the time, there were no real gay role mols except for Graham Norton and Jack om Dawson's Creek—and I certaly didn't intify wh him bee I wasn't a football player.
I felt like I was pletely on my rried on until I was 16, when I started gog out to gay bars my hometown. I ma one gay iend, who I'm actually close to now. For the first time I've been able to form a good group of gay iends and create my own support work.
HOW DO I KNOW I’M NOT REALLY GAY/STRAIGHT?
I'd go on gay chatrooms but that was jt a facels nversatn wh someone who uld have been anyone.
I thk if I'd had iends who were gay when I was growg up, my life would have been so different.
I now know there were other kids at my school who were gay, but they didn't e out till much later. 14 Ways To Defeat Your Fears of Beg Gay.
WHY AM I "SO GAY?"
There are many gay men who say "I'm not part of the scene" -- men who hate gay bars and, prumably, crowds of queer people general. Internalized homophobia -- self-shamg, self-hatred -- leads many gay men, and many queer people general, to recreate their closets long after they're "out" by shunng others, particularly those they nsir "flamboyant.
" Y, there are some good reasons to rce your participatn gay bars (time, money, health). But you mt spend time wh others, whether that means havg a group of gay movie iends or queer gamers or playg on a gay sports team. Go to gay bars, even if they make you unfortable.