'Did I ever really know him?': the women who married gay men | LGBTQ+ rights | The Guardian

Contents:

• YEP, HE’S GAY
• IS MY HBAND GAY? SIGNS OF A GAY HBAND
• IS YOUR MAN GAY, STRAIGHT, OR BISEXUAL?
• TELLG MY HBAND I'M GAY.
• IS MY HBAND GAY? 10 SIGNS THAT CAN HELP YOU FIGURE OUT
• FDG OUT YOUR SPOE IS GAY
• 'DID I EVER REALLY KNOW HIM?': THE WOMEN WHO MARRIED GAY MEN
• HOW TO COPE WHEN YOUR SPOE COM OUT AS GAY

YEP, HE’S GAY

Sometim a woman may have been a heterosexual relatnship for years and yet feel somethg is somehow "off;" and she may fd herself askg, "Is my hband gay?

IS MY HBAND GAY? SIGNS OF A GAY HBAND

" Many women fd this qutn unthkable but acrdg to Bonnie Kaye,, an expert women married to gay men, is timated that 4 ln women have been, or are, married to gay men. If a hband is gay, n vastate not only the relatnship but the straight wife as well. Signs of a Gay Hband – Is My Man Gay?

The cleart way to know if your hband is gay is if he tells you.

IS YOUR MAN GAY, STRAIGHT, OR BISEXUAL?

If the hband is hont wh both you and wh himself (read: How Do I Know If I Am Gay? Signs You Are Gay), that is when you n tly know that he is gay.

Unfortunately, is timated that 50% of gay hbands hi their homosexualy om their wiv and don't reach this place of honty on their own.

In many s, is the wife, who after spectg that somethg is wrong, mt nont the gay hband wh the evince, and only then n hontly be achieved. But if you're wonrg, "Is my man gay, " might be helpful to know that there are signs to look for, acrdg to Kaye.

TELLG MY HBAND I'M GAY.

Kaye has veloped the Official Gay Hband Checklist to help women know if their hbands are gay. Signs Your Hband or Man May Be Gay. You fd pop-ups of gay pornography on the puter while he claims they are not his.

IS MY HBAND GAY? 10 SIGNS THAT CAN HELP YOU FIGURE OUT

He adms to havg a homosexual enunter the past. He viss gay bars claimg he's there only to hang out wh his gay iend(s). He watch porno movi wh gay male scen.

FDG OUT YOUR SPOE IS GAY

He mak ntual homophobic ments or he mak too many gay ments nversatns. His ego appears to be boosted by pliments om gay men. The signs a hband is gay are not meant to be five.

A hband may be gay and display none of those signs or a hband may display the signs and not be gay. The signs of a gay hband are signed as a startg pot.

'DID I EVER REALLY KNOW HIM?': THE WOMEN WHO MARRIED GAY MEN

Kaye advis that women "follow their stcts" when cidg whether their hband may be gay. What If My Hband is Gay?

HOW TO COPE WHEN YOUR SPOE COM OUT AS GAY

If turns out that a hband is, fact, gay, the fallout n be difficult to al wh, particularly for the straight partner. (If you're thkg that you n cure the gay by havg your hband go to gay nversn therapy, read this.