Joe Kort, Ph.D., talks about his new book, "Is My Hband Gay, Straight, or Bi?"
Contents:
- WHY SOME STRAIGHT PEOPLE MIGHT HAVE GAY SEX
- WHY ARE SO MANY GAYS AND LBIANS ATTRACTED TO SAME-SEX PEOPLE WHO LOOK LIKE THE OPPOSE SEX?
- IS YOUR MAN GAY, STRAIGHT, OR BISEXUAL?
- GAY OR STRAIGHT: WE ALL HAVE THE SAME RIGHTS
- AM I GAY?
WHY SOME STRAIGHT PEOPLE MIGHT HAVE GAY SEX
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If you’re a young man, you might assume that eher you’re straight or you’re not, meang you’re likely gay and maybe bisexual. Yet the evince suggts that more young men intify or scribe themselv as mostly straight than intify as eher bisexual or gay bed.
Yet when the men were forced to choose between straight, bisexual or gay, about three-quarters marked straight bee for them bisexual, even if is unrstood as “bisexual-leang straight, ” is too gay to accurately scribe their inty.
WHY ARE SO MANY GAYS AND LBIANS ATTRACTED TO SAME-SEX PEOPLE WHO LOOK LIKE THE OPPOSE SEX?
* gay straight it's all the same *
Tradnally, our unrstandg has been that if you’re male and have even a slight attractn to the same sex, then you mt be gay. He’s not a closeted gay man who fears beg gay yet wants to keep a slight, perhaps secretive, gay si by danglg his potential for guy sex. He may retreat om a full intifitn wh heterosexualy, but rarely do he gravate toward bisexualy, and almost never do he move toward homosexualy of any sort.
IS YOUR MAN GAY, STRAIGHT, OR BISEXUAL?
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In terms of pure numbers, we know that the vast majory of those who have gay sex intify as straight — and this is te for both women and men.
The dividuals tend to engage gay sex private enunters, wh some appearg to be early phas of “g out” as not straight. Though they loved the sexual experience and wanted to have a future relatnship wh the person, they had mixed attus toward homosexualy and premaral sex. Hence, they believed that homosexual relatns were almost always wrong and scribed their polics as nservative.
GAY OR STRAIGHT: WE ALL HAVE THE SAME RIGHTS
Bee only four sexual orientatn optns were given to stunts — heterosexual, bisexual, homosexual, and don’t know — perhaps many of the dividuals were misplaced the straight tegory. Are the the men who will bee vigilant wh anti-gay rhetoric, and who will e eher their nservative relig or polil beliefs to jtify their behavr? If we lived a culture which havg some gree of same-sex sexualy did not imply that you th had to be the “dread” lbian, gay, or bisexual, would be easier for dividuals who stggle or n’t ci their sexualy to be te to their thentic self.
AM I GAY?
Would this help them to curb their animosy toward homosexualy and let them accept their same-sex sexualy whout feelg stigmatized? “Mostly straight, ” as a male sexual inty, hasn’t entered the public’s nscns the way gay or bi inti have, though that seems to be changg. To the eternal nsternatn of men who intify as gay, mostly straights aren’t ually terted long-term same-sex relatnships, Sav-Williams wr, but they’re also rehgly shame-ee about their sir, wh many not only fortable wh gay culture but even “enchanted” by, who also works as the director of the Sex and Genr Lab at Cornell Universy, spoke wh VICE about why gay men seem culturally obssed wh mostly straight guys, the need to embrace all the msy nuanc of the Ksey spectm, and why you n’t assume every guy the lol gay choir is actually What drew you to study “mostly straight” men?
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