Maybe Gay, Maybe Lbian, Maybe Not Totally | Psychology Today

Contents:

• ‘CALL ME MAYBE’ VIO ACTOR HOLN NOWELL SAYS HE WASN’T COMFORTABLE WH HIS CHARACTER’S GAY STORYLE
• MAYBE GAY, MAYBE LBIAN, MAYBE NOT TOTALLY
• GAYBE
• JOIN THE GAYBY FAMILY

‘CALL ME MAYBE’ VIO ACTOR HOLN NOWELL SAYS HE WASN’T COMFORTABLE WH HIS CHARACTER’S GAY STORYLE

‘Call Me Maybe’ Vio Actor Holn Nowell Says He Wasn’t Comfortable Wh His Character’s Gay Storyle.

MAYBE GAY, MAYBE LBIAN, MAYBE NOT TOTALLY

The succs of the song has much to do wh s now-viral vio (wh over 1 billn views on YouTube), which featur actor Holn Nowell as Jepsen’s csh, who ultimately turns out to be gay. “The fact that they had to make me gay at the end of the vio… was all very…I didn’t like beg known as the gay guy the ‘Call Me Maybe’ vio. Nowell went on to say that he believ that LGBTQ people should be allowed to love eely, but he wasn’t, and still isn’t, fortable beg asked to play a gay character.

“‘Gay for pay’ is lerally what ns the male molg dtry and I don’t get down like that. Although people often thk everyone is eher straight, bisexual, or gay/lbian, ’s not te. Now, I’d like to add a fifth on the other end of the spectm—mostly gay/lbian.

GAYBE

When mostly gays/lbians, who have nsirable homoerotism, are nonted wh choic rearchers give to scribe their sexualy, they explicly reject the tegory “exclively attracted to the same sex. ” They uld have rpond wh “lbian” or “gay” and they would have been mostly right, but they did not select eher one. Their iends might say, “You’re really gay/lbian but you’re jt aaid to say so.

They are a quandary and, not knowg how to rpond, they might skip the qutn, mark “don’t know” or “somethg else, ” or jt say “gay” even though ’s not te.

I reviewed several natnal studi and found the proportn of the populatn that reports beg mostly lbian/gay is around 1% to 2%, wh more women selectg mostly lbian than lbian and more men selectg gay than mostly gay. Given the ndns, ’s not surprisg that the stabily of a mostly lbian/gay inty over time is relatively low. When they move, they don’t always swch to exclive lbian/gay (ls than half) but intify wh a variety of sexual orientatns, cludg exclive straight.

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What is unique to mostly lbians/gays also characteriz mostly straights: neher vari om their exclive s their attractns to their preferred sex but their attractns to their “non-preferred” sex. In the first, when mostly gay men were shown male-centered pornography, their penis beme aroed and their pupils dilated, siar to gay men; but to female-centered pornography, their penis and pupils were more aroed than was te for gay men when they viewed women masturbatg. In their self-reports, when pared to exclive gay men, mostly gay men reported havg more sexual fantasi about women, a greater number of lifetime female sex partners, more fatuatns wh women, and more gazg time at female porn actors.

” Optns clud straight, lbian/gay, or bisexual (also transgenr). Revealgly, nearly 8% did not answer the sexual orientatn qutn, which was larger than eher the lbian/gay or bisexual tegory.