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Contents:

• WHAT THE WORLD CAN LEARN FROM GAY-STRAIGHT FRIENDSHIPS
• GAY-STRAIGHT/GENRS & SEXUALI ALLIANC
• BRAS OF GAY PEOPLE REMBLE THOSE OF STRAIGHT PEOPLE OF OPPOSE SEX
• THE STEREOTYP ABOUT GAYS AND STRAIGHTS ARE TE
• NORTH JERSEY STUNTS NEED GAY-STRAIGHT ALLIANC THEIR HIGH SCHOOLS. THIS IS WHY

WHAT THE WORLD CAN LEARN FROM GAY-STRAIGHT FRIENDSHIPS

I’m gay, and Stephen has been my bt iend for 10 bond has unique value to both of . A 2022 study Psychology of Men & Masculi found that the iendships n help shift gay guys’ unrstandable prenceptns about straight men — that they’re all homophobic, for example.

But after years of iendship wh me — a gay man who don’t perform masculy a tradnal way — he feels more fortable dog thgs like wearg necklac and havg his bachelor party at a drag bar. Straight men may fd easier to be vulnerable wh their gay iends.

It’s possible that exprsg vulnerabily has posive spillover effects: Heterosexual men who have close iendships wh gay guys may wd up havg ls fear about beg more open wh their straight guy iends, acrdg to the thors of the 2021 study. Michael Bronski, a profsor at Harvard Universy and the thor of “A Queer History of the Uned Stat, ” said the gay liberatn movement, which emerged after the Stonewall uprisg 1969, began dismantlg patriarchal systems that prsured all men to reprs their feelgs and engage toxic masculy, cludg homophobia. “Gay men have helped straight men feel ls imprisoned by the cultural scripts of tradnal masculy, ” Mr.

GAY-STRAIGHT/GENRS & SEXUALI ALLIANC

Bronski iendships may relieve gay guys om the prsure to nform to mascule genr norms out of fear of g across as stereotypilly gay.

I did this for years before I me out, at age 16, bee I remember many of my guy iends school nstantly referrg to my behavr as “so gay. ” Even my dad would perform gay ritur an unsuccsful effort to make me lgh by flappg his wrists rogatorily and talkg a stereotypilly gay voice, which he told me he regrets eply today.

BRAS OF GAY PEOPLE REMBLE THOSE OF STRAIGHT PEOPLE OF OPPOSE SEX

And for years, even after I me out, some of my guy iends ntued to refer to thgs they thought were stupid as “gay. One night at a bar New York, a group of guys were g an anti-gay slur repeatedly.

I know another gay guy or female iend would have e to my fense this suatn, but the fact that was a straight guy showg such tense allyship was my iendship wh Stephen strengthened and I started buildg other relatnships wh people who would never image g homophobic slurs, I veloped a sense of eedom to be myself beyond queer spac: I’m now more fortable g out to straight male boss and owng my sexual orientatn my work, whether be through pchg L. -themed stori or explag to lleagu the importance of queer iendships between gay and straight men are on the rise, they aren’t universally accepted.

THE STEREOTYP ABOUT GAYS AND STRAIGHTS ARE TE

“Mostly straight, ” as a male sexual inty, hasn’t entered the public’s nscns the way gay or bi inti have, though that seems to be changg.

To the eternal nsternatn of men who intify as gay, mostly straights aren’t ually terted long-term same-sex relatnships, Sav-Williams wr, but they’re also rehgly shame-ee about their sir, wh many not only fortable wh gay culture but even “enchanted” by, who also works as the director of the Sex and Genr Lab at Cornell Universy, spoke wh VICE about why gay men seem culturally obssed wh mostly straight guys, the need to embrace all the msy nuanc of the Ksey spectm, and why you n’t assume every guy the lol gay choir is actually What drew you to study “mostly straight” men?

Sav-Williams: Usually, straight guys are jt very borg, but when I started terviewg them g the same protol I ed wh gay guys, appeared that some had same-sex attractns—and that the men were credibly plex. Another very valuable source was the Add Health Data Set, which is a longudal study that began followg a sample of adolcents Broadly talk to Margaret Cho about power bottoms and what 's like to be an openly bisexual entertaer:Were the men also terted gay culture? Y, the men I spoke to were kd of enchanted by gay culture, and I don’t know that I’ve ever met an exclively straight guy who was enchanted by gay culture.

NORTH JERSEY STUNTS NEED GAY-STRAIGHT ALLIANC THEIR HIGH SCHOOLS. THIS IS WHY

I got a sense om some of them that they would have liked to be gay—one helped his roommate e out, and another sang a gay chos. Yeah, you n’t fake your you thk we’ve overlooked the nuanc of the Ksey spectm to create orientatns like gay, bi, and straight? I thk they believe that if you’re a guy and you have jt a ltle b of same-sex attractn, you’re eher a closet se or you’re jt sort of a wayward was tertg that the gay men you terviewed saw mostly straight men as closet s.

I thk a lot of gay guys have the same feelg about bisexual guys—that they’re on their way.

And I thk ’s bee a lot of gay guys have their “bisexual phase. Gays don’t really believe mostly straight men reviewer said that the hype surroundg Call Me by Your Name reflects gay men’s obssn wh straight men as a sexual nqut. Clearly there are gay guys who are very attracted to masculy.

When Dylan (the ma character my book) go to gay bars, they’re always bettg on when he’ll turn gay. I do thk mostly straight guys have this dilemma, which is that they’re gog to be largely appealg to gay men. That’s a tough one, and I don’t know, if this inty were to bee more wispread, how gay guys would react to men may also want to preemptively reject mostly straight men so they don’t get hurt, right?

As the only out young gay kid at my school, I took the advancement of my sexual experienc to my own hands and I did what we all do: I bought a fake ID and h the gay clubs. While I knew wouldn’t be like a gay llege eroti I’d read on (gay non, really), I rather naively wasn’t expectg the fall out. I realize I fell to that old gay adage of placg my feelgs on a person who, for whatever reason, was never gog to vt them back me.