Joe Kort, Ph.D., talks about his new book, "Is My Hband Gay, Straight, or Bi?"
Contents:
- WHY SOME STRAIGHT PEOPLE MIGHT HAVE GAY SEX
- IS YOUR MAN GAY, STRAIGHT, OR BISEXUAL?
- I LIKE GAY MALE PORN, BUT GAY MEN REAL LIFE EAK ME OUT.
WHY SOME STRAIGHT PEOPLE MIGHT HAVE GAY SEX
Many young men intify as mostly straight — a sexual orientatn that is not que straight but also, they say, ls gay than bisexualy * straight but gay *
We hear a lot about the Big Three Sexuali — straight, bisexual and gay. If you’re a young man, you might assume that eher you’re straight or you’re not, meang you’re likely gay and maybe bisexual. Yet the evince suggts that more young men intify or scribe themselv as mostly straight than intify as eher bisexual or gay bed.
Yet when the men were forced to choose between straight, bisexual or gay, about three-quarters marked straight bee for them bisexual, even if is unrstood as “bisexual-leang straight, ” is too gay to accurately scribe their inty. Tradnally, our unrstandg has been that if you’re male and have even a slight attractn to the same sex, then you mt be gay. He knows he’s not gay, but straight wh a dash of gayns.
But how much gayns? He’s not transng toward intifyg as bisexual or gay. He’s not a closeted gay man who fears beg gay yet wants to keep a slight, perhaps secretive, gay si by danglg his potential for guy sex.
IS YOUR MAN GAY, STRAIGHT, OR BISEXUAL?
He may retreat om a full intifitn wh heterosexualy, but rarely do he gravate toward bisexualy, and almost never do he move toward homosexualy of any sort. It is Mostly Straight: Sexual Fluidy Among Men, not Mostly Straight: Sexual Fluidy Among Gay Men. "My random roommate durg sophomore year happened to be gay.
' His buddi got all homophobic on him, so he asked, 'You guys have never msed around wh another guy? I'm gay, but I hooked up wh a handful of men and women my 30s.
I LIKE GAY MALE PORN, BUT GAY MEN REAL LIFE EAK ME OUT.
In the end, they're still straight, and I'm still gay and happily married to my hband of 12 years. In terms of pure numbers, we know that the vast majory of those who have gay sex intify as straight — and this is te for both women and men.
Were they heterosexist or homophobic?
The dividuals tend to engage gay sex private enunters, wh some appearg to be early phas of “g out” as not straight. Though they loved the sexual experience and wanted to have a future relatnship wh the person, they had mixed attus toward homosexualy and premaral sex.