Your Child Jt Told You He's Gay. Now What? | Psychology Today

Contents:

• ARE YOU SURE YOU’RE GAY, SON?
• IS YOUR CHILD GAY?
• YOUR CHILD JT TOLD YOU HE'S GAY. NOW WHAT?
• YOU SAY GAY SON I SAY GODSON
• JT BEE HE BREATH: LEARNG TO TLY LOVE OUR GAY SON

ARE YOU SURE YOU’RE GAY, SON?

So, yterday morng, my olst son me down for breakfast and announced to the whole fay that he was gay. It’s not that we don’t like gay people; ’s jt that me as a shock to . I’ll adm that we didn’t react the right way – we were so shocked that we tripped over our words and I told him that if he was sayg he’s gay to stand out or to f that he didn’t have to bee someone he’s not and I gus he took the wrong way and he’s been his room all day and I even heard him cryg a ltle.

I have nothg agast gay people, but is strange sce my son never showed any signs of beg gay before and as far as my hband and I knew, he liked girls and even had a girliend when he was younger. Last year my other son told me that there was a bunch of boys who beat up a gay kid at school and I keep thkg, “What if that were my son?

IS YOUR CHILD GAY?

You were totally ught off guard, though; neher you nor your hband had any klg that your son might be gay, so the first thgs that me to md to say to him was he didn’t have to be someone he wasn’t orr to stand out or f .

He had probably wanted to tell you that he was gay for a long time and had fally worked up the urage to do so.

YOUR CHILD JT TOLD YOU HE'S GAY. NOW WHAT?

As his mom, you might fd the fact that he is gay nfg or surprisg, and that’s fe.

” And even, “When did you first realize you were gay?

YOU SAY GAY SON I SAY GODSON

Now that he’s tsted you and his dad enough to e out to you, you will be able to learn more about your son’s experience and how he me to unrstand that he was gay. Especially sce you don’t thk he is old enough to be sure he is really gay (and not jt nfed), but I thk you would be wise at this pot to tst that he knows his own feelgs. Beg gay means that a person feels some sort of attractn toward the same sex.

Both lbians and gay men often have a history of cross-sex-typed behavrs: ltle boys beg fatuated wh their mother's makp k; ltle girls enamored of field hockey or profsnal wrtlg. Prehomosexual boys tend to be more attracted to solary sports such as swimmg, cyclg and tennis than they are to rougher ntact sports such as football and soccer. Children who show pronounced sex-atypil behavrs may have more of a geic loadg to their homosexualy.

JT BEE HE BREATH: LEARNG TO TLY LOVE OUR GAY SON

The behavral patterns are feared, loathed and often spoken of directly as harbgers of adult homosexualy. It is only relatively recently, however, that velopmental scientists have nducted ntrolled studi to intify the earlit and most reliable signs of adult homosexualy.