There are lots of reasons why you might want to know if your iend is gay. There are some important thgs that you have to unrstand about this suatn before gog forward, however. Someone's sexualy is highly plex and highly...
Contents:
- "THAT'S SO GAY" IS JT SO WRONG
- HOW TO KNOW IF YOU ARE GAY
- HOW TO TELL IF YOUR GUY FRIEND IS GAY
- WHAT DO YOU SAY TO “THAT’S SO GAY” AND OTHER ANTI-LGBTQ COMMENTS?
- AM I GAY?
- WHY ARE PEOPLE GAY? GAY BY CHOICE OR IS BEG GAY GEIC?
- THAT'S SO GAY
- WHAT’S SO BAD ABOUT “THAT’S SO GAY”?
"THAT'S SO GAY" IS JT SO WRONG
The phrase “that’s so gay” has tradnally been unrstood as homophobic. Stonewall’s School Report argued this posn, and will be discsed their upg Edutn Conference. Stonewall argu… * is so gay *
Spend any time around teens, and you’re likely to hear the mon exprsn, “That’s so gay" — even among gay kids. If you ask them about , as some rearchers have, they often will sist that is not tend as homophobic language, jt a harmls phrase to exprs tratn or somethg siar.
HOW TO KNOW IF YOU ARE GAY
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When most people hear the term LGBT (lbian, gay, bisexual or transsexual), for stance, they equate to havg adult sex. Another client’s mother once ught him lookg at gay porn, and said, horrified, “You’re not gay, are you? ” Later when the parents learned their children were gay, they apologized to them for sayg the thgs, but the damage was already done.
HOW TO TELL IF YOUR GUY FRIEND IS GAY
Are you qutng your sexualy? Fd out if you’re gay, straight, bisexual, or asexual. Learn what the terms mean and if they apply to you. * is so gay *
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WHAT DO YOU SAY TO “THAT’S SO GAY” AND OTHER ANTI-LGBTQ COMMENTS?
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But parents who are enough aware of language’s substrata n help by helpg their kids’ schools unrstand the value of practicg the same kd of zero tolerance for homophobic language that they do for racist or anti-Semic or bullyg language.
The bt thg I have seen is the mpaign “ThkB4YouSpeak” by GLSEN (Gay, Lbian School Edutor Network). Anti-LGBT remarks such as “that’s so gay” are often untentnal and a mon part of teens’ vernacular. Stonewall argu that the phrase has a harmful effect on young lbian, gay and bisexual people’s tn and well-beg.
AM I GAY?
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WHY ARE PEOPLE GAY? GAY BY CHOICE OR IS BEG GAY GEIC?
Language has evolved and “gay” means somethg different to younger generatns particular ntexts. I argued that straight men’s e of phras like “that’s so gay” uld only be unrstood by three key factors: first, the tent wh which was said; send, the social ntext (homophobic or otherwise); and third, the effect had.
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THAT'S SO GAY
This argument was supported by the narrativ of many of the 40 young gay people a study I am unrtakg wh lleagu at Durham Universy.
In the bat about “that’s so gay”, is important to regnise that gay youths also e the phrase. Only a mory of participants – ls than a third – thought that the phrase was homophobic, and even fewer said that they never ed .
WHAT’S SO BAD ABOUT “THAT’S SO GAY”?
Most of the young gay people my study felt “that’s so gay” would only be homophobic if was directed at a gay person, and wh negative tent.