‘In gay years, you’re rather past your sell-by date, aren’t you?’ the person ont of me said, raisg an eyebrow.
Contents:
- GAY AND CAN'T FD A PARTNER?
- HOW TO GET A MAN (FOR GAY MEN)
- I’M 43 – BUT I’M MA TO FEEL LIKE A DOSR BY YOUNGER GAY MEN
GAY AND CAN'T FD A PARTNER?
Learn how gay men n overe the hurdl and fd Mr. Right. * im gay and can't find a boyfriend *
OK, so, you’re gay, and you want to fd a partner and eventually a hband; someone wh whom to share your life. You thk that maybe ’s jt not possible for gay men to have long-term relatnships.
HOW TO GET A MAN (FOR GAY MEN)
He says he’s bisexual, but I’m worried he’s actually gay. * im gay and can't find a boyfriend *
There mt be some tth to the old joke: “What do a gay man brg on a send date?
As an openly gay man wh over 30 years of experience as a therapist, I have seen sr of sgle gay men sabotage their efforts to fd a partner, placg obstacl their own path—whout havg the slightt ia as to what they are dog and why.
Fortunately, I have also learned how to intify and name the self-featg and often hidn hurdl—and have disvered that they are beliefs that too many gay men repeat to themselv, often whout even knowg .
I’M 43 – BUT I’M MA TO FEEL LIKE A DOSR BY YOUNGER GAY MEN
* im gay and can't find a boyfriend *
In my experience, this ternalized belief is the poison that prevents some gay men om buildg a healthy relatnship, and also why many ms up the on they already have. Some of have been bullied as children; physilly, verbally, and emotnally abed at tenr ag by our peers and fay members for beg gay before we even regnized and unrstood our same-sex attractns. Sadly, the wounds are difficult to heal, and as a rult, n leave gay men wh the sense that we are unlovable and th unworthy of love, affectn, and happs.
Consirg the biphobic society we live , would be naive to thk datg a bi guy is the exact same as datg a gay or straight guy. * im gay and can't find a boyfriend *
For sure, so much of the gay male world is way too foced on looks, youth, the gym, partyg, and fast hookups; so searchg for Mr. Right is like lookg for a needle a gaystack.