Men and Women as Friends – When One is Gay or Lbian | Psychology Today

Contents:

• WHY STRAIGHT WOMEN AND GAY MEN MAKE THE BT OF FRIENDS
• ARE GAY-STRAIGHT GUY/LBIAN-STRAIGHT GIRL IENDSHIPS POSSIBLE?
• A CONTRACT FOR THE GAY GUY/STRAIGHT GIRL FRIENDSHIP
• HOW TO GET A GAY MALE FRIEND (FOR GIRLS)
• WHY STRAIGHT WOMEN AND GAY MEN ARE OFTEN SO CLOSE
• MEN AND WOMEN AS FRIENDS – WHEN ONE IS GAY OR LBIAN
• GAY MEN AND STRAIGHT MEN AS FRIENDS

WHY STRAIGHT WOMEN AND GAY MEN MAKE THE BT OF FRIENDS

Studi show that gay men shower straight women wh a sort of attentn that straight men simply don't offer them. For stance, straight women feel that gay men accept and admire them for their ner bety, not their outer appearance. Subsequently, women wh more gay iends feel sexier and more self-nfint about their bodi by parison to women who don't have gay iends.

Siarly, gay men make straight women feel more appreciated for their personaly than do straight men. Perhaps unsurprisgly, women say their iendships wh gay people are more hont and secure than those wh straight dividuals, male or female. And rearch shows that gay men also have a special place their hearts for their straight girliends.

ARE GAY-STRAIGHT GUY/LBIAN-STRAIGHT GIRL IENDSHIPS POSSIBLE?

In other words, is the bond between straight women-gay man iends unique bee they n provi each other hont, unbiased romantic advice? Relatnships between straights and straights and gays and gays are notorly ght wh difficulty.

A CONTRACT FOR THE GAY GUY/STRAIGHT GIRL FRIENDSHIP

Admtedly, by parison to straight iendships, the rearch on gay male iendships is sorely lackg. What ltle there is shows that gay men's iendships wh each other n also be petive the sexual arena. The thors suggt the possibily that gay men may pete for mat the same way that straight women do wh each other, though they note remas to be studied.

HOW TO GET A GAY MALE FRIEND (FOR GIRLS)

Conversely, Rsell and his lleagu argue that the iendships between straight women and gay men are ee of such plitns. In orr to vtigate whether straight women and gay men see each other as the most tstworthy advisers on matters of the heart, the thors vised a clever puter task. ” Straight women and gay men were prented wh different targets, reflectg their rpective matg orientatns.

Female participants viewed fict Facebook profil belongg to eher straight women, straight men, or gay men. Gay male participants were asked to look at fake profil belongg to lbians, gay men, or straight women.

Lbians were add as a target bee although they have ltle mon wh gay men, they are also unlikely to give biased love life advice. Naturally, the straight female target profile picture was different than that of gay and straight mal (the same was ed for both); sexual preference was tailored acrdgly. Straight women perceived the romantic advice of gay men to be signifintly more tstworthy than that of straight men and women, who were equally ls helpful.

WHY STRAIGHT WOMEN AND GAY MEN ARE OFTEN SO CLOSE

But gay men weren't any more likely to help them fd them a mate than the straight targets. In kd, gay men found straight women more tstworthy when me to love life advice than gay men or lbians. Intertgly, they rated straight women to be signifintly more helpful fdg a mate than gay men.

This study lends scientific sight to the special mararie that straight women and gay men have long found each other. If you're the mood for a lighthearted take on the specialns of the straight woman-gay man iendship, the song “Gay Bt Friend” ptur hilar fashn. Thanks to make-over shows and realy televisn, every girl Ameri thks that they need "a gay.

In fact, there are some l for the latt stance of this behavr to piss off is Wendy Atterberry pleadg for some gay attentn on The Frisky.

MEN AND WOMEN AS FRIENDS – WHEN ONE IS GAY OR LBIAN

She needs a gay e she's married now and needs someone who n fix her bad-hair-day hair, make snarky ments about the Osrs, and enjoy long bnch wh plenty of gossip! Sorry, but we are sick of straight girls to want to fd a "gay bt iend" is like a whe person tryg to get "down wh the blacks.

" The ladi want to fall love wh some Platonic ial of gay iendship where they have some sexls beg who ters to their every whim, the urt jter to their prcs. They fetishize our sexualy and don't see that gay people are actually real, hont dividuals, not a set of Madonna-lovg stereotyp (though we do love some Madge).

GAY MEN AND STRAIGHT MEN AS FRIENDS

On the flip si there is the "fag hag, " a needy-drama lan women who llect gay men and lose themselv their drama so they don't have to face their sad, lonely liv. The loser both scenars is the gay 's not to say gay men and straight women n't be iends. We know that you jt want to be happy and a relatnship and want to show how ol you are that you know other gays, but we're not terted.

If we meet at your birthday party and h off, great, but please don't arrange for an awkward ffee Don't Want to Go Shoppg: Y, plenty of gay men sign women's cloth and many like watchg them on the nway (and on Runway) but gog wh you to a store that has a ty men's sectn or no men's cloth at all for the exprs purpose of tellg you if your ass looks fat is not our ia of a good time. And if you tst your gay iends to do your shoppg, you're gog to be miskirts and hooker heels every day, and that is jt not practil unls you are a Real Hoewife or a 'll Give You Sex Tips, but No Lady Bs: No one knows how to please a man like another man, and we don't md sharg you all the thgs we learned that hot tub P-Town, but, please, leave your vaga out of .

We'll help you fd Won't H on Your Boyiend In Front of You: If your gay iend helped you land a boyiend he is probably attractive, well-employed, and very nice. Also, he is probably down wh the gays, which means he won't really re when we flirt wh him. Out of nsiratn, we will not do this ont of you, but when you leave talkg to him at a party or go to the bathroom at bnch, 's Not Come to Our Clubs: A gay bar wh too many women—pecially the kd of club where isky thgs are gog on—mak everyone unfortable.