How To Tell If Your Son Is Gay

Contents:

• MY TEN-YEAR-OLD SON IS BEG LLED 'GAY' BY HIS CLASSMAT
• WHEN YOUR 4TH GRA SON IS CALLED "GAY"
• THE SOLUTN TO "GAY" INSULTS: FREEDOM OF SPEECH
• HOW TO TELL IF YOUR SON IS GAY

MY TEN-YEAR-OLD SON IS BEG LLED 'GAY' BY HIS CLASSMAT

A parent is ncerned that her ten-year-old son is beg lled 'gay' the schoolyard. David Coleman offers advice:Very recently we found out that some boys, his class, were llg our ten-year-old son "gay".

Once he knows that you n see how difficult may have been om his perspective, you n try to reassure key msag that your son now needs to hear are that this wasn't his flt, that he did nothg wrong and that the other boys acted particular term that they ed to mock him, llg him "gay", is very problematic. Boys most often e the term "gay" celly, to suggt that other boys are weak, soft or effemate some son has also taken on the unrstandg that others are implyg he is weird or different sexually, sce he also believ they thk he has a "gay" is ed mockgly, like this, is also a very hard label, or term, to "stand up" to. If a boy tri to ny beg gay his tormentors know that they are gettg to him and wdg him all my years of workg wh children who are, or have been bullied, I still have never e across a really good, assertive, rponse that a child uld e if they are lled "gay".

Durg lunch, another 4gra kid walked by my son the lunch room, leaned to him and sffed, “You’re gay.

WHEN YOUR 4TH GRA SON IS CALLED "GAY"

) There’s nothg wrong wh “gay, ” 2. I’ve been hastily preparg for this day, I’ll adm; the day that someone would cross that le and move om sayg “you’re weird” to “you’re gay. ” The day that someone would associate my son’s effemate tennci wh beg homosexual, when sexualy is not yet even on his radar.

The day when someone would take the word “gay” and wield as the ultimate male slanr – as a means of timidatn, an effort to emasculate, huiate, and csh another human beg who don’t nform to genr stereotyp; a way to munite one’s absolute disgt, tolerance, and outright upsets me on many levels, but maly bee my son knows that the word “gay” do not mean “stupid, ” as so many kids tend to terchange the two.

He knows what gay means bee of the wonrful LGBTQ iends we have our fay’s life. He knows what means to actually be gay. He has heard the story of another iend who me out gay high school the ‘80’s, when the new threat of AIDS was fuelg our natn’s ignorant paranoia, and gay teens were beg kicked out of their hom.

THE SOLUTN TO "GAY" INSULTS: FREEDOM OF SPEECH

Bee no matter what his father and I tell him, no matter how much his olr sister and brother tell him, " gets better, " he still has a world of policians, radil relig zealots of all nomatns, peers, adults, media, and more, all sendg him the very clear msage that as a genr non-nformg person, he’s not, bee of a uple of relsly spewed words that will certaly be repeated over aga, my son will soon be forced to wonr if he’s gay, bee other kids are now sayg out loud. However, when gog to the tumultuo years of adolcence (which is already hard enough for anyone) my son is now gog wh the addnal, excsive worry of, “am I gay? But I’m learng that jt bee we’re okay wh , that don’t mean will be easy for him to go through – whether he’s gay, bi, trans, asexual, or qutng – if he’s basilly anythg that vari om cisgenr, straight male, he’s not protected; he is subject to legal discrimatn.

I wish wasn’t so, but I have to realize that I n’t spare him of the “gay” slanr, as much as I want to.

Blog: Genr Creative LifeRelatedParentg homophobiagenr non-nformggenr creativeYou May Like. There was a recent high profile story the news about an 11-year-old boy who mted suici, apparently bee he uld no longer tolerate beg lled “gay.

HOW TO TELL IF YOUR SON IS GAY

The most mon sult among kids today is “gay. " Kids get mad when they are lled gay and they sometim get to fights.

I have great passn for gays. What is one to do when lled gay?