Contents:
- 'HOMOSEXUAL OCD': STRAIGHT MEN WHO SPECT THEY ARE GAY
- HOW DO I KNOW I’M NOT REALLY GAY/STRAIGHT?
- MY SON MIGHT BE GAY. WHAT SHOULD I SAY TO HIM?
'HOMOSEXUAL OCD': STRAIGHT MEN WHO SPECT THEY ARE GAY
In my practice, I sometim enunter men who are so obssively worried they may be gay or bisexual that tak up such a signifint amount of their daily life and thoughts and them nearly cripplg anxiety. Sometim they tly are gay or bisexual, and sometim not at all. ” He may worry that he appears to be gay if cross his legs at the knee like a woman when stg down rather than havg the typil “man spread.
Like those wh Obssive-Compulsive Disorr (OCD), he may exhib the same kd of repet behavrs, such as stg and standg over and over aga to see if they may appear gay the way he do . This may sound like ’s a set-up for a joke, or an ongog lgh le a s, but is a real disorr that some have labeled as Homosexual Obssive-Compulsive Disorr (HOCD), though the Diagnostic and Statistil Manual of Mental Disorrs, the “bible” of psychiatry, has yet to regnize . HOCD n sudnly occur for some men who, for example, fd themselv beg h on by other gay or bisexual men, mistaken for beg a gay or bisexual man, fd themselv attracted to another man or stumble onto gay porn that exc them.
They will often blame the thgs as reasons for how the HOCD started, but isn’t about homosexualy nor bisexualy, is about OCD. In my own clil experience workg wh the men, those who suffer om this may fd themselv obssively lookg at porn, eher gay or straight, to see if they bee sexually exced by eher. They might nstantly check out others’ reactns to their gtur or nversatn to see if they get any strange looks or other signals that would imply homophobia.
HOW DO I KNOW I’M NOT REALLY GAY/STRAIGHT?
They sometim will go to extreme lengths, such as havg sex wh men even though they are not gay or bisexual, which typilly leav them feelg unsatisfied and unfortable. Even though they have not been able to nfirm by their pulsive experimentatn that they are, ed, gay, they may even ask me to help them e out as gay or bisexual jt to end the sufferg. Four Qutns I Use to Distguish Gay, Bisexual and Straight Men.
MY SON MIGHT BE GAY. WHAT SHOULD I SAY TO HIM?
I am a specialist sexual orientatn and relatnships and not traed to al wh OCD, so I first mt set out to terme if they are simply closeted gay or bisexual men, or if there is somethg else gog on. How do you feel about gay people? Closeted gay men are often vilently anti-gay, whereas HOCD men are not.
They may even say to me, “If I’m gay, okay. Tly gay men jt say that they’re annoyed that women keep gettg their le of sight.