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And I want my kids to see .</span></h1></div><h2 class="font--subhead font-light offblack mb-sm pb-xxs-ns subheadle" data-qa="subheadle" style="max-width:1000px">Children need to know that they n make their own ways the world</h2><div class="flex prt-byle prt-mt-none"><div class="byle-wrapper flex-lumn flex"><div class="PJLV PJLV-ihSmMVC-css"><div class="PJLV PJLV-iPJLV-css mb-xxs overriStyl" style="gap:0.5rem" data-qa="thor-byle"><span class="wpds-c-PJLV"><div class="flex" data-qa="thor-byle"><div class="mr-sm flex lh-0"><div class="wpds-c-iTcer"><img src=" alt="" class="wpds-c-dgBqAZ"/></div></div><span class="left"><div class="flex"><div class="dib font-xxs mb-xxs" data-qa="name-wh-optnal-lk" data-cy="name-wh-optnal-lk"><span data-qa="attributn-text" class="wpds-c-cNdzuP">Perspective by <!-- --> </span><span data-qa="thor-name" rel="thor" class="wpds-c-cNdzuP wpds-c-cNdzuP-cIdiJW-isLk-false">Lren Rowello</span></div></div><span class="wpds-c-ewNrgJ thor-scriptn" data-qa="thor-scriptn">Lren Rowello is a wrer who liv the Philalphia area.</span></span></div></span></div></div><div data-ttid="timtamp" class="wpds-c-kgabfe wpds-c-kgabfe-ieEDlgV-css"><span data-ttid="display-date" class="wpds-c-iKQyrV">June 29, 2021 at 12:18 p.m. EDT</span></div></div></div></hear></div><article class="grid-article mb-xxl-ns" data-qa="ma"><div data-ttid="le-art" data-qa="le-art" class=""><figure class="overflow-hidn relative hi-for-prt center center mb-sm mb-md-ns ml-to-ns mr-to-ns grid-mobile-full-bleed"><div style="filter:blur(10px);transn:filter .1s;le-height:0" class="w-100 mw-100 h-to" width="600" height="400"><img style="background-size:ver;max-width:1600px;background-image:url('data:image/svg+xml;charset=utf-8,%3Csvg xmlns='http%3A//; xmlns%3Axlk='http%3A//; viewBox='0 0 1280 853'%3E%3Cfilter id='b' lor-terpolatn-filters='sRGB'%3E%3CfeGssianBlur stdDeviatn='.5'%3E%3C/feGssianBlur%3E%3CfeComponentTransfer%3E%3CfeFuncA type='discrete' tableValu='1 1'%3E%3C/feFuncA%3E%3C/feComponentTransfer%3E%3C/filter%3E%3Cimage filter='url(%23b)' x='0' y='0' height='100%25' width='100%25' xlk%3Ahref='data%3Aimage/png;base64,iVBORw0KGgoAAAANSUhEUgAAAAkAAAAGCAIAAACepSOSAAAACXBIWXMAAC4jAAAuIwF4pT92AAAAs0lEQVQI1wGoAFf/AImSoJSer5yjs52ktp2luJuluKOpuJefsoCNowB+kKaOm66grL+krsCnsMGrt8m1u8mzt8OVoLIAhJqzjZ2tnLLLnLHJp7fNmpyjqbPCqLrRjqO7AIeUn5ultaWtt56msaSnroZyY4mBgLq7wY6TmwCRfk2Pf1uzm2WulV+xmV6rmGyQfFm3nWSBcEIAfm46jX1FkH5Djn5AmodGo49MopBLlIRBfG8yj/dfjF5TUAAAAASUVORK5CYII='%3E%3C/image%3E%3C/svg%3E')" alt="" class="w-100 mw-100 h-to" width="600" height="400" srcSet=" 400w, 540w, 691w, 767w, 916w, 1200w" siz="(max-width: 440px) 440px,(max-width: 600px) 691px,(max-width: 768px) 691px,(m-width: 769px) and (max-width: 1023px) 960px,(m-width: 1024px) and (max-width: 1299px) 530px,(m-width: 1300px) and (max-width: 1439px) 691px,(m-width: 1440px) 916px,440px" dg="async"/></div><figptn class="ml-gutter mr-gutter mr-to-ns ml-to-ns font--subhead font-xxxs mt-xs left gray-dark">People gather and rally at the Queer Liberatn March on June 27 New York. 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She squeezed my hand, worried that she might n to a lleague or be harassed by a stranger. My wife is trans, and wasn’t out at the time, so she typilly only exprsed her thenticy the privacy of our home. That morng she wore a green skirt and light makp, bshg her hair all to one si. Even though we’d attend Pri march and protts prev years, that day was our first celebratg openly as a fay.</p></div></div><div></div><div class="article-body" data-qa="article-body"><div class="db dn-ns mr-neg-gutter ml-neg-gutter mb-md hi-for-prt" data-qa="subscribe-promo"><div data-orientatn="horizontal" role="separator" class="wpds-c-dbVHzF wpds-c-dbVHzF-hDkAcj-variant-flt"></div><a class="pt-sm pb-sm flex ems-center bold font-xxxs font-xxs-ns jtify-center" href=" target="_blank" rel="noreferrer noopener" style="lor:#166dfc;borr:none"><svg class="ntent-box" width="24" height="24" viewBox="0 0 24 24" xmlns=" aria-hidn="te" focable="false" role="img"><tle>Wp</tle><path d="M11.055 8.728l-1.018-1.019-.782.782v6.292l1.782 1.564.018-.019v-7.6zm-4.11.236L5.674 7.71l-.836.855v6.237l1.545 1.327.564-.636V8.964zm2.656 9.074l-2.528-2.182-1.927 2.182-2.619-2.255v-3.564h-.509c-.454 0-.672.273-.745.636H1.09a2.89 2.89 0 0 1-.091-.69c0-.473.2-1.71 1.527-1.71V7.691c0-1.073-.709-1.127-.709-2.054 0-1.037.982-2 2.782-2.637l.164.145c-.6.291-1.09.655-1.09 1.437 0 1.2 1.163.89 1.163 2.782v.727l2.127-2.236 2.237 2.2 2.109-2.2 2.036 2v6.728l-3.745 3.455zm11.108-9.625l-1.073-.982-.964 1.018v6.6c.855.11 1.491.4 2.019.964l.018-.018V8.413zm-2.382.418l-.528.545v10.237l.528.492V8.83zm1.49 9.055c-.308-.382-.69-.709-1.145-.836v3.782l-.036.018-1-.927-2.11 1.945-.036-.018V16.96c-.636.145-1.327.545-1.854 1.2l-.146-.091c.127-1.4.818-2.436 2-2.837v-3.545h-.382c-.527 0-.89.363-.963.763h-.219c-.054-.145-.127-.381-.127-.836 0-.891.6-1.564 1.582-1.564h.11V8.085l-.655-.582-.51.51-.254-.237 2.018-2.073 1.71 1.564V9.05l.527-.564v-2.09h.345v1.727l2.273-2.419L23 7.576v7.91l-3.182 2.4z" fill-le="evenodd"></path></svg><span class="mr-xs ml-xs gray-darkt flex ems-center">Get the full experience.<span class="ml-xs subs-theme blue">Choose your plan</span></span><svg class="ntent-box" width="16" height="16" viewBox="0 0 16 16" xmlns=" style="fill:#166dfc" aria-hidn="te" focable="false" role="img"><tle>ArrowRight</tle><path d="M7.664 1.25l6 6a1 1 0 010 1.414l-6 6L6.25 13.25 10.499 9H2V7h8.585L6.25 2.664 7.664 1.25z" fill-le="nonzero"></path></svg></a><div data-orientatn="horizontal" role="separator" class="wpds-c-dbVHzF wpds-c-dbVHzF-hDkAcj-variant-flt"></div></div></div><div class="article-body" data-qa="article-body"><p data-ttid="drop-p-letter" data-el="text" class="wpds-c-cYdRxM wpds-c-cYdRxM-iPJLV-css overriStyl font-py" dir="null">When our children grew tired of marchg, we plopped onto a nearby curb. Jt as we got settled, our elementary-schooler poted the directn of ong floats, raisg an eyebrow at a bare-chted man dark sunglass whose black spenrs clipped to a leather thong. The man psed to be spanked playfully by a partner wh a flog. “What are <i>they</i> dog?” my cur kid asked as our toddler cheered them on. The pair was the first of a few dozen kksters who danced down the street, lghg together as they twirled their whips and batons, some leadg panns by leash. At the time, my children were too young to unrstand the nuance of the suatn, but I told them the tth: That the folks were members of our muny celebratg who they are and what they like to do.</p></div><div class="article-body" data-qa="article-body"><p data-ttid="drop-p-letter" data-el="text" class="wpds-c-cYdRxM wpds-c-cYdRxM-iPJLV-css overriStyl font-py" dir="null">The kk muny has participated Pri sce s ceptn — riskg their jobs and safety to be thentilly themselv public. Still, every year as Pri Month approach, a <a href=">bate epts about whether kk belongs at Pri </a><a href=">at all</a>. Those hopg to ot kksters often ce the prence of children as their top ncern. That was potedly the se this year when Twter ers argued that kk at Pri is a <a href=">highly sexualized experience that children should be shield om</a>. <a href=">Thoands</a> of ers supported the posts, claimg that kk at Pri <a href=">cross a le</a> bee mors also attend events. I agree that Pri should be a welg space for children and teens, but policg how others show up don’t protect or uplift young people. Instead, homogenizg self-exprsn at Pri will do more harm to our children than good. When my own children ught glimps of kk culture, they got to see that the queer muny enpass so many more nontradnal ways of beg, livg, and lovg.</p></div><div class="article-body" data-qa="article-body"><p><span class="wpds-c-gnhuPA wpds-c-gnhuPA-hqeSyH-variant-terstial wpds-c-gnhuPA-iPJLV-css hi-for-prt"><a data-qa="terstial-lk" href=">The ph for LGBTQ equaly began long before Stonewall</a></span></p></div><div class="article-body" data-qa="article-body"><p data-ttid="drop-p-letter" data-el="text" class="wpds-c-cYdRxM wpds-c-cYdRxM-iPJLV-css overriStyl font-py" dir="null">As much as I want them to spend time queer spac so they n be wh fai like their own, I also want them to know that they shouldn’t lim their unrstandg of what relatnships or exprsn look like to whatever’s most faiar. I want them to see that they n make their own ways the world — and know that they’ll be supported and celebrated by their muny. If we want our children to learn and grow om their experienc at Pri, we should hope that they’ll enunter kk when they attend. How else n they learn about the spe and valy of queer life?</p></div><div class="article-body" data-qa="article-body"><div class="cb dn db-ns" data-qa="article-body-ad" data-ttid="article-body-ad-sktop"><div aria-hidn="te" class="hi-for-prt relative flex jtify-center ntent-box ems-center b bh mb-md mt-none pt-lg pb-lg" style="m-height:250px;borr-top-lor:;borr-bottom-lor:"><div class="center absolute w-100 borr-box" style="top:"><div class="dib gray-dark pl-xs pr-xs font-sans-serif light font-xxxxs lh-md" style="--primary-borr-lor:"></div></div><div data-ttid="placeholr-box" class="w-100 h-100 absolute flex flex-lumn jtify-center borr-box bg-offwhe" style="width:300px;height:250px"><div class="flex flex-lumn jtify-center font-sans-serif center font-xxs light gray-dark lh-md"><div>Advertisement</div></div></div></div></div></div><div class="article-body" data-qa="article-body"><div class="cb db dn-ns" data-qa="article-body-ad" data-ttid="article-body-ad-mobile"><div aria-hidn="te" class="hi-for-prt relative flex jtify-center ntent-box ems-center b bh mb-md mt-sm pt-sm pb-sm" style="m-height:250px;borr-top-lor:;borr-bottom-lor:"><div class="center absolute w-100 borr-box" style="top:"><div class="dib gray-dark pl-xs pr-xs font-sans-serif light font-xxxxs lh-md" style="--primary-borr-lor:"></div></div><div data-ttid="placeholr-box" class="w-100 h-100 absolute flex flex-lumn jtify-center borr-box bg-offwhe" style="width:300px;height:250px"><div class="flex flex-lumn jtify-center font-sans-serif center font-xxs light gray-dark lh-md"></div></div></div></div></div><div class="article-body" data-qa="article-body"><p data-ttid="drop-p-letter" data-el="text" class="wpds-c-cYdRxM wpds-c-cYdRxM-iPJLV-css overriStyl font-py" dir="null">Anti-kk advot tend to manipulate language about safety and privacy by assertg that atten are <a href=">nonnsensually exposed</a> to overt displays of sexualy. The most outrageo claim is that <a href=">nocent bystanrs are forced to participate kk simply by sharg space wh the kk muny</a>, as if the prence of kk at Pri is a perverse exhibn that kksters pursue for their own gratifitn. But kksters at Pri are not engaged sex acts — and we nnot nfe their self-exprsn wh obsceny. Co-optg the language of sexual tonomy only serv to bury that tth and muddi the serns of other nversatns about nsent. If this all sounds faiar, ’s bee anti-kk rhetoric echo the same socialized disgt people have projected onto other queer people when they claim that our love is not appropriate for public spac. It’s a sentiment that tolerat queerns only if stays wh parameters — offerg the kd of acceptance that wh a tch. The middle-aged, Whe men who I grew up wh said they were “fe” wh gay people as long as they wouldn’t be subjected to PDA — as long as all signs of queer love uld be outwardly erased. Queer people’s eedom to be themselv is, acrdg to this logic, ntgent on non-queer people’s eedom om exposure to .</p></div><div class="article-body" data-qa="article-body"><p><span class="wpds-c-gnhuPA wpds-c-gnhuPA-hqeSyH-variant-terstial wpds-c-gnhuPA-iPJLV-css hi-for-prt"><a data-qa="terstial-lk" href=">My spoe me out as trans. It didn't change a thg.</a></span></p></div><div class="article-body" data-qa="article-body"><p data-ttid="drop-p-letter" data-el="text" class="wpds-c-cYdRxM wpds-c-cYdRxM-iPJLV-css overriStyl font-py" dir="null">The arguable difference here is that many of the latt objectns are g om self-intified queer people, but that shouldn’t necsarily be surprisg. Rpectabily polics mand that queer people assiate as much as possible to cis- and heteronormativy, hewg to mastream cultural standards. Members of the queer muny have ternalized those norms to the pot that we judge ourselv by them, and then cricize and ostracize others if they don’t uphold them, too. This is the same opprsive msage that prevented my wife om transng for 30 years, and the same msage that still keeps margalized children om g to terms wh their own experienc wh sire and embodiment.</p></div><div class="article-body" data-qa="article-body"><p data-ttid="drop-p-letter" data-el="text" class="wpds-c-cYdRxM wpds-c-cYdRxM-iPJLV-css overriStyl font-py" dir="null">Children who wns kk culture are reassured that alternative experienc of sexualy and exprsn are valid — no matter who they bee as they mature, helpg them regnize that their personal experienc aren’t bad or wrong, and that they aren’t alone their experienc. I n’t thk of a more relevant or important remr for youth, who often stggle wh feelgs of isolatn and nfn as they disver more about themselv and wrtle wh ncerns about whether they’re normal enough. Includg kk Pri opens space for fai to have necsary and powerful nversatns wh young people about health, safety, nsent, and — most uniquely — pleasure. Kk visibily is a remr that any person n and should shamelsly explore what brgs joy and excement. We don’t talk to our children enough about pursug sex to fulfill rnal needs that light and ptivate the moment. Sharg the language of kk culture wh young people provis them wh valuable rmatn about safe sex practic — such as the importance of tablishg boundari, safe words and signals, affirmg the importance of planng and rearch and the need to seek and give enthiastic nsent. I never want my children to worry that explorg any aspect of nsensual sex or touch is too taboo.</p></div><div class="article-body" data-qa="article-body"><div class="cb dn db-ns" data-qa="article-body-ad" data-ttid="article-body-ad-sktop"><div aria-hidn="te" class="hi-for-prt relative flex jtify-center ntent-box ems-center b bh mb-md mt-none pt-lg pb-lg" style="m-height:250px;borr-top-lor:;borr-bottom-lor:"><div class="center absolute w-100 borr-box" style="top:"><div class="dib gray-dark pl-xs pr-xs font-sans-serif light font-xxxxs lh-md" style="--primary-borr-lor:"></div></div><div data-ttid="placeholr-box" class="w-100 h-100 absolute flex flex-lumn jtify-center borr-box bg-offwhe" style="width:300px;height:250px"><div class="flex flex-lumn jtify-center font-sans-serif center font-xxs light gray-dark lh-md"><div>Advertisement</div></div></div></div></div></div><div class="article-body" data-qa="article-body"><div class="cb db dn-ns" data-qa="article-body-ad" data-ttid="article-body-ad-mobile"><div aria-hidn="te" class="hi-for-prt relative flex jtify-center ntent-box ems-center b bh mb-md mt-sm pt-sm pb-sm" style="m-height:250px;borr-top-lor:;borr-bottom-lor:"><div class="center absolute w-100 borr-box" style="top:"><div class="dib gray-dark pl-xs pr-xs font-sans-serif light font-xxxxs lh-md" style="--primary-borr-lor:"></div></div><div data-ttid="placeholr-box" class="w-100 h-100 absolute flex flex-lumn jtify-center borr-box bg-offwhe" style="width:300px;height:250px"><div class="flex flex-lumn jtify-center font-sans-serif center font-xxs light gray-dark lh-md"></div></div></div></div></div><div class="article-body" data-qa="article-body"><p data-ttid="drop-p-letter" data-el="text" class="wpds-c-cYdRxM wpds-c-cYdRxM-iPJLV-css overriStyl font-py" dir="null">If we’re aaid to talk about kk wh our children, we prrize the stat quo — sanizg and censorg their accs to rmatn about appropriate and normal self-exprsn. The are the very attus that ma Pri necsary — and life-affirmg — for so many of the first place, and we have no bs imposg them on the next generatn. Kk embodi the eedom that Pri stands for, remdg atten to unapologetilly take up space as an act of ristance and celebratn — refg to bend to social prsure that asks to be prentable. That’s a value I want my children to learn. Affirmg the kk muny helps our children to love themselv and others wh urage and rilience. If my wife and I had seen such fierce and termed role mols as young people, we might have learned to be ourselv much sooner. We didn’t have that chance, but my children have that muny Pri, and I want to keep that way.</p></div><div class="wpds-c-jkoBlc wpds-c-jkoBlc-leHWbT-removeAllStyl-te"><div class="wpds-c-dhzjXW wpds-c-dhzjXW-iPJLV-css overriStyl mt-md tt"><div id="gift-share-end" data-ttid="gift-share-end" class="PJLV PJLV-idiqKOk-css hi-for-prt"><button aria-haspopup="dialog" aria-expand="false" aria-ntrols="gift-share-drawer" role="button" tabx="0" aria-label="Share this article" id="gift-share-drawer-ntrol-end" data-ttid="gift-share-drawer-ntrol-end" class="wpds-c-PJLV wpds-c-gsmDXe wpds-c-gsmDXe-iIVoLq-placement-Shortcut foc-highlight"><div class="wpds-c-UazGY" id="gift-share-shortcut" data-ttid="gift-share-shortcut"><svg xmlns=" fill="var(--wpds-lors-primary)" viewBox="0 0 16 16" aria-hidn="te" focable="false" role="img" class="wpds-c-fVfumU "><path fill="currentColor" d="M8 .6v3.8h.1c-4.4 0-7.3 4.5-6.9 8.8.1.8.2 1.2.2 1.2l.2 1 .4-1.3c.8-2 2-4 6.2-3.9H8v4l7-6.9L8 .6Zm1 11.3V9.3h-.9c-3 0-4.8.5-6.2 2.9.5-3.3 2.7-6.8 6.2-6.8H9V3l4.5 4.4L9 11.9Z"></path></svg><div class="PJLV wpds-c-kwcHlj">Share</div></div></button></div><div class="wpds-c-hcekgi"><div class="mb-lg-mod" data-qa="ments-btn-div"><button aria-label="Scroll to the ments sectn" data-qa="ments-btn" class="wpds-c-kSOqLF wpds-c-kSOqLF-SQjOY-variant-sendary wpds-c-kSOqLF-eHdizY-nsy-flt wpds-c-kSOqLF-ejCoEP-in-left wpds-c-kSOqLF-igqYgPb-css ments hi-for-prt"><svg xmlns=" viewBox="0 0 16 16" fill="currentColor" aria-hidn="te" focable="false" role="img" class="wpds-c-fBqPWp "><path d="M14 14V2H2v9.47h8.18L12.43 13ZM3 10.52V3h10v9.23l-2.5-1.66Z"></path></svg><span></span> Comments</button></div></div></div><div class="PJLV PJLV-iipsdti-css"><div></div></div><div class="PJLV PJLV-iipsdti-css"><div></div></div><sectn class="PJLV PJLV-icEohIP-css dn-ns hi-for-prt" data-ttid="mostRead" subscriptns-sectn="ntent"><div data-ttid="lazy-most-read-parent" class=""><div style="m-height:800px"></div></div></sectn><div class="PJLV PJLV-ickXkbz-css"><div data-qa="newsletter" class="hi-for-prt relative"><div class="dib w-100"><div><div class="flex jtify-center align self-center center transn-all duratn-400 ease--out" data-qa="sc-newsletter-signup" aria-label=""><svg aria-labelledby="react-aria-1-aria" role="img" viewBox="0 0 100 80"><tle id="react-aria-1-aria">Loadg...

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Pictur om gay pri paras held across the US and around the world this past weekend. |

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CONTENT WARNG: IMAG OM THIS WEEKEND’S GAY PRI PARAS

A Wt Hollywood gay Pri Para that was advertised as fay-iendly drew social media attentn for a graphic sexual act. * gay pride parade whipping *

In one viral vio om the weekend, two Pri para atten explaed that they knew they were gay at age 10, addg, “but I wasn’t, like, clear on my genr. While several stat have sought to lim LGBTQ+ ntent the tn system and ban children om attendg drag shows, gay rights advot argue that such claims and measur stigmatize young LGBTQ+ dividuals, impactg their mental health.

"It is not an acceptable standard for anyone else, why should be acceptable for him to do simply bee he is homosexual?

A gay Pri Para California billed as fun for "the whole fay" ed a stir onle after graphic vios om the para were shared on social Hollywood had a three day "WeHo Pri" event last weekend featurg ncerts, a street fair, a "Women’s Freedom Ftival, " and a "dyke march. Stock image of children marchg a Gay Pri para.

THIS PRI MONTH, FELLOW GAYS, KEEP YOUR KKS AT HOME — AND AWAY OM KIDS

* gay pride parade whipping *

No gatekeepg possible, " Belissa Cohen News Digal reached out to the cy of Wt Hollywood to ask if they nsired the float as appropriate for "the whole fay, " but they did not rpond by time of 40% of Wt Hollywood's populatn intifi as LGBTQ, and three of the five members of the Wt Hollywood Cy Council are openly gay, the cy HERE FOR THE FOX NEWS APPElsewhere Los Angel, a Pri event ed fights to ept on Friday as parents North Hollywood clashed wh LGBTQ activists outsi an elementary father told Fox News that school officials ignored parents' ncerns about a planned Pri assembly held that day. “A group of naked men participated the Seattle Gay Pri para – exposg themselv to small children along the para route, ” said nservative rad host Todd Starn a post. New York Mayor Bill De Blas march the Gay Pri Para on June 28, 2015 New York Cy.

Gabriel Anrson march wh Suts for Equaly durg the 45th annual San Francis Gay Pri para Sunday, June 28, 2015, San Francis. A woman wearg a stume walks away om Turkish rt police durg the Gay Pri para on June 28, 2015 the Istiklal street near the Taksim square Istanbul.

But as a member of the gay muny, I thk we ought to have a reckong over why kk is nflated wh LGBT pri at all. After all, heterosexual and homosexual people alike have var kks and fetish. What’s more, beg gay, or even havg genr dysphoria, is not somethg anyone choos.

GETTG WHIPPED AT LEATHER PRIAS THIS WEEKEND’S GAY PRI PARAS RISE TO NEW HEIGHTS OF RPECTABILY, THE DAILY BEAST GO OFF THE BEATEN PATH TO ATTEND “LEATHER PRI DAY,” AN OLD-SCHOOL, X-RATED Y OF OUTRAGEO BEHAVR.SPENCER MANUPDATED JUL. 14, 2017 1:47PM EDT / PUBLISHED JUN. 26, 2009 9:43AM EDT JT SULLIVAN / GETTY IMAG “I PED OH WHEN I WAS 19," SAID DALE VARGAS. HE HAD TO SQUAT DOWN ON HIS STILTS TO TALK TO ME. HE WAS WEARG A BLACK LEATHER JOCKSTRAP, RED BOLERO JACKET WH EPLETT, LEATHER MASK AND TOP HAT—LAST SUNDAY ON WT 28TH STREET MANHATTAN.IN OH, HE SAID, "YOU HAD TO BE WHE AND HAVE 2.3 KIDS TO F . I FOUND THE GAY MUNY PEOPLE WHO TEND TO LEAN TOWARD LEATHER AND KK WERE PEOPLE THAT DIDN’T BOX THEMSELV TO WHERE THEY GREW UP AND STAY THERE. THEY EXPLORE. I FOUND THAT THE LEATHER MUNY WAS MORE HONT, MORE WORLDLY, MORE TOUCH, AND THAT’S WHERE I GRAVATED TO.”THAT DAY, MR. VARGAS AND 7,000 OTHERS HAD TURNED THE FAR WT CHELSEA BLOCK TO A LTLE SLICE OF THEIR OWN PERSONAL PARADISE, FAR OVER THE RABOW OM OH, KANSAS, OR ANY OTHER PLACE WHERE THE SIGHT OF MEN LEATHER JOCKSTRAPS WOULD HOIST THE EYEBROWS OF THE TOWN MATRONS. THEY WERE THERE TO CELEBRATE “FOLSOM STREET EAST,” ALSO KNOWN AS LEATHER PRI DAY, THE ANNUAL STREET FAIR PUT ON BY THE GAY MALE SM ASSOCIATN.IT'S WHERE I MET 72-YEAR-OLD JOE REGAN, A RINT OF THE NEIGHBORHOOD, AS HE WAS PULLG ON A PAIR OF YELLOW BBER BOOTS AND GETTG THGS PROPERLY SUATED HIS JOCKSTRAP. “I’M WEARG A YELLOW BBER JOCK THAT THE GUY DOWN THERE MAK," HE SAID, GTURG DOWN THE STREET. “HE MAK THE BT. THIS IS ALL ONE PIECE OF BBER, NO SEAMS.” I ASKED HIM WHAT FOLSOM STREET EAST—THE TAG PAYS HOMAGE TO THE ORIGAL, MUCH LARGER FOLSOM STREET FAIR SAN FRANCIS—MEANT TO HIM.“I’M BASILLY A TOP," HE SAID, " THOUGH I WILL PLAY MAN-TO-MAN WH A LOT OF GUYS, AND I REALLY ENJOY . THIS ONE OF THOSE DAYS WHERE YOU N LET ALL HANG OUT. I WOULDN’T WEAR THIS ANYWHERE EXCEPT AT A SEX CLUB NORMALLY.”OF THE DOZEN OR SO ATTEN I SPOKE TO—OM FRANK PARKER, A 45-YEAR-OLD OHAN WHO WORKS NSTCTN LEATHER SPENRS; TO MEN LEATHER KILTS SELLG CIGARS; TO “NIPPLE DAD,” A MASTAY OF CHELSEA—THE NSENS WAS THIS: IN AN CREASGLY NFORMIST GAY WORLD, THE SOCIALLY OWNED-UPON DISPLAYS OF SEXUALY TAKG PLACE HERE REPRENTED A RARE OPPORTUNY TO OPENLY EXPERIENCE HOMOSEXUALY AS THE ILLIC, WANTON, GE SUBCULTURE ONCE WAS.BEE WHEN NYC PRI DAY, THE MA EVENT OF GAY PRI WEEK, TAK OVER THE CY THIS WEEKEND WH OVER A LN ATTEN, WILL LOOK VERY DIFFERENT OM THIS LEATHER PRI BACCHANAL. NYC PRI DAY, LIKE MANY OTHER PRI PARAS ACROSS THE UNTRY, HAS BEE MORE AND MORE RPECTABLE WH EACH PASSG YEAR. BUD LIGHT, SKYY VODKA, DELTA, CONTENTAL, KIEHL’S, WHOLE FOODS, AND JP MAN CHASE ALL HAVE FLOATS THIS YEAR’S PARA. A REPRENTATIVE OF NYC PRI RECENTLY BOASTED THAT IF ONE WERE TO TEGORIZE THE MORE THAN 300 GROUPS PARTICIPATG, CHURCH GROUPS WOULD HAVE THE LARGT PRENCE.HERE AT LEATHER PRI, ON THE OTHER HAND, YOU’D BE HARD PRSED TO FD AN VTMENT BANK OR AIRLE RPORATE SPONSORSHIP. AT THE MEN OF ONYX BOOTH, I CID TO GIVE THE BUTT PLUG TOSS A WHIRL. ONE PLUG FOR A DOLLAR, THREE FOR TWO. THAT’S ALWAYS A NO-BRAER. RICHARD, 54, A MANHATTAN PHYSICIAN (HE CLED TO ELABORATE), HAND ME THREE BLACK BBER PLUGS, AND TOLD ME ABOUT MEN OF ONYX AS HE HELD TWO OF MY PLUGS SO I ULD TOSS.“IT’S A LEATHER CLUB FOR MEN OF LOR AND PEOPLE WHO LIKE TO BE ASSOCIATED WH MEN OF LOR," HE SAID. "WE HAVE CHAPTERS CHIGO, ATLANTA, DC, LA—ALL OVER THE UNTRY." THE TARGET WAS A POSTER BOARD OF AN ANATOMILLY RRECT GENTLEMAN BENDG OVER. I TOOK NOTE THAT BUTT PLUGS ARE KD OF SHAPED LIKE DARTS; LOOKED PRETTY EASY TO SLIP ONE PAST THE GOALIE.RICHARD WAS SAYG THE LEATHER SCENE N BE TRICKY FOR BLACK MEN. WORDS LIKE MASTER AND SLAVE ARE OBVLY LOAD. ONYX, WHICH WAS FOUND 15 YEARS AGO, CREAT A FORT ZONE, HE SAID, WHERE “MEN OF LOR N EXPLORE WH OTHER MEN OF LOR, AND TALK ABOUT OUR PARTICULAR TERTS AND OUR PARTICULAR NCERNS AND HOW WE N ENJOY OUR FETISH AND HAVE A GOOD TIME.”BULL'S-EYE! RICHARD GAVE ME MY PRIZE, A BUTT PLUG, WHICH I GRACLY HAND OVER TO THE GUY LE BEHD ME (JOURNALISTIC TEGRY!), WHO TOLD ME WAS JT HIS SIZE—HE TAK A MEDIUM.I SPOKE TO JOHN WEIS, WHO FOUND THE FOLSOM STREET EAST FTIVAL 1997. “THE BATN OF THE INTER AND ZONG AND REAL TATE HAS REALLY THROWN THE LEATHER MUNY FOR A LOOP,” HE SAID. “THERE REALLY AREN’T ANY PLAC TO NGREGATE AS A MUNY. THERE ED TO BE A WHOLE BUNCH OF LEATHER BARS—AND YOU KNOW THE MEATPACKG DISTRICT AS A WHOLE WAS A FORTABLE NEIGHBORHOOD FOR THE LEATHER MUNY.” HE NOTED THAT IMAGERY OF LEATHER BOYS HAS OFTEN ED TO MONIZE GAY MEN. “SO I N FULLY APPRECIATE WHY SOME MEMBERS OF OUR MUNY ARE RELUCTANT TO HAVE OUT THERE THE ONT, BUT AT THE SAME TIME, IF WE’RE NOT OUT THERE PHG BOUNDARI AND PHG SOCIAL MOR, I THK THAT WE’RE ALWAYS GOG TO REMA WHERE WE ARE. IT’S ONLY WHEN PEOPLE ARE WILLG TO E OUT, STAND UP AND SAY, 'I’M NOT TAK’ THIS ANYMORE,' THAT YOU N PH A LTLE B AND MOVE A LTLE B FORWARD.“THE GAY MOVEMENT WAS A SEXUAL-REVOLUTN MOVEMENT," HE NTUED, "AND TO SHUN THE SEX PART OF THE SEXUAL POLICS OF A SEXUAL REVOLUTN IS A LTLE SHORT-SIGHTED AND NAïVE. I FULLY UNRSTAND WHY 'S IMPORTANT TO DO BOTH: SEX POSIVE AND THE MARRIED AND LIVG MAPLEWOOD WH A UPLE OF KIDS. BOTH OF THEM N HELP, BUT I DON’T THK ONE SHOULD BE SACRIFICED FOR THE OTHER.”NEXT UP: MEN CHAPS. ON A STAGE. BUT ALL WAS NOT GOG WELL FOR FAMED ADULT-FILM DIRECTOR AND DRAG QUEEN CHI CHI LARUE, WHO WAS PLAYG GAME-SHOW HOSTS: NONE OF THE NTTANTS WERE ABLE TO MATCH THE CHEEK PRTS TO THE WBOYS ON DISPLAY.BRIAN MCHELL, 28, WAS WATCHG. HE'D E DOWN OM BOSTON, WHERE HE DO FANCIAL REPORTG FOR MUTUAL FUNDS. HE WAS WEARG A BLUE BBER JOCKSTRAP, A LEATHER HARNS, A LLAR, BOOTS, AND A RED SOX BASEBALL P. (WHICH GAVE ME PSE TO WONR: WHAT WOULD MY SEVENTH-GRA GYM TEACHER DO IF HE KNEW THAT HIS GFF SISTENCE ON JOCKSTRAPS WAS SO SYNC WH A FASHN FETISH POPULAR AMONG GAY MEN?) “IT’S AN OPPORTUNY TO GET OUT OF THE BACKROOMS OF THE BARS AND GET OUT THE DAYLIGHT MORE THAN ANYTHG ELSE,” SAID MCHELL. “IT’S AN OPPORTUNY TO WALK THE STREETS OF NEW YORK YOUR LEATHER HARNS OR WHATEVER, AND BE LIKE, ‘THIS IS WHAT I’M TO, WHY SHOULD I BE ASHAMED OF THAT?’”Y, HE ADMTED, THE INTER HAD MA FDG IENDS THE LEATHER MUNY A LOT EASIER, BUT, HE SAID, “WHATEVER NNECTNS YOU MAKE ON THE INTER TEND TO BE REALLY SHALLOW. I LIVE BOSTON, SO I’M NOT LIKELY TO SEE MOST OF THE PEOPLE I MEET HERE EVER AGA. BUT ’S STILL NICE TO E OUT FOR A DAY AND JT BE IENDLY WH PEOPLE AND HAVE A GOOD TIME.” HE SAID HE WOULD NOT BE RETURNG FOR THE MORE SQUEAKY-CLEAN NYC PRI PARA THIS SUNDAY.“THE PRI PARA TRI TO ACT MORE MASTREAM,” HE SAID. “I THK THERE’S AN IA WH THE MASTREAM GAY MOVEMENT OF SAYG, 'OK, WE NEED TO GET MASTREAM SOCIETY’S ACCEPTANCE.’ THEY’RE SAYG, ‘OH, YOU KNOW, WE DON’T WANT CRAZY PEOPLE WALKG AROUND JOCKSTRAPS AND HARNS. WE WANT PEOPLE TALKG ABOUT HOW THEY’RE LOVE AND WANT TO GET MARRIED.’ AND THAT’S FE. THERE’S A PLACE FOR THAT. BUT THERE’S ALSO A LOT OF PEOPLE WHO DON’T WANT TO GET MARRIED, WHO WANT TO WALK AROUND JOCKSTRAPS AND HARNS.”NEXT I MET MASTER LUS, A 32-YEAR-OLD S&M PROFSNAL WHO WAS DOG A BONDAGE MONSTRATN ON STTY, A GRIZZLY BEAR WH A PLATUM MOHAWK. STTY WAS SPEND ON A CROSS, SHIRTLS, A PAIR OF BLACK TIGHTS. HE GOT THE FULL TREATMENT: FLOGGG, PADDLG, SPANKG, NG, BBER FLOGGG, AS WELL AS “SOME DRAGON TAIL WORK.”“HE’S GOT SOME TOLERANCE,” MASTER LUS SAID, BREATHG HEAVILY, AS AN ASSISTANT BROUGHT HIM SOME WATER AND BEGAN MASSAGG HIS THIGHS. “HE’S FELY GOT SOME SER TOLERANCE.”MASTER LUS HAS BEEN THE LEATHER MUNY FOR 10 YEARS. “IT’S EVOLVED TREMENDOLY,” HE SAID. “THERE’S A LOT MORE YOUNG PEOPLE VOLVED NOW. I THK YEARS AGO, TOOK PEOPLE UNTIL THEY WERE 30 OR 40 YEARS OLD TO SAY, ‘FUCK , I’M A KKY PERSON, I’M GONNA GO DO WHAT I WANT WH MY LIFE REGARDLS OF WHAT THE CHURCH AND SOCIETY THK.'”I ASKED STTY ABOUT HIS TIME ON THE CROSS.“IT’S PAFUL,” HE GASPED, “BUT ’S TRYG TO BEE . I BELIEVE THAT THERE’S KD OF A LONG LE BETWEEN PA AND PLEASURE, AND ’S MANIPULATG THAT LE… IT SOUNDS WEIRD, BUT AFTER A WHILE AND THE MANY SENSATNS, ’S LIKE A MASSIVE BACKB.”STTY HAD E TO NEW YORK OM IDAHO, WHERE THERE IS NO LEATHER SCENE. “FOLSOM STREET IS A CHANCE FOR ME TO EXPERIENCE ALL THE THGS THAT I LOCKED UP ALL YEAR,” HE SAID, ADDG THAT THE THG ABOUT THE LEATHER MUNY IS THAT ’S THE MOST “-TOUCH AND SWEET AND TENR-HEARTED OF ANY, BEE ’S VERY MUCH TO HOW THE OTHER PERSON IS FEELG, AND THEY’RE VERY NCERNED ABOUT HOW YOU’RE DOG. I MEAN, WHILE WE WERE DOG THAT, [MASTER LUS] ME UP TO ME ABOUT FOUR OR FIVE TIM AND SAID, ‘HEY, HOW ARE YOU DOG?’”SPENCER MAN IS A EELANCE WRER LIVG BROOKLYN. HIS LUMN MEN OF MANHATTAN APPEARS THE NEW YORK OBSERVER. HE IS A NTRIBUTG EDOR AT PLAYBOY MAGAZE. SPENCER MAN

In fact, that was a key part of the argument for gay acceptance. So to nflate beg gay wh preferenc and extracurricular sexual activi people choose to engage is to do our own inti and legimacy a tremendo disservice. The succsful effort to sell the public on gay marriage, the sgle biggt acplishment of the gay-rights movement, was fundamentally rooted bourgeois norms, fay valu and, ankly, normalcy.

So, too, this unfortunate trend plays to old homophobic prejudic and unfair stereotyp some people still subscribe to. There’s a long and dark history of bigots suggtg gay people are out to get kids or more likely to sexually abe mors, spe many studi and expert nsens showg such a rrelatn do not exist.

But when a select few gay people do openly engage simulated sex acts ont of children — somethg all normal, everyday gay people would nounce — and go viral, plays to the unfair stereotyp and sets back the progrs we’ve ma, even though ’s not reprentative.

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And I want my kids to see .</span></h1></div><h2 class="font--subhead font-light offblack mb-sm pb-xxs-ns subheadle" data-qa="subheadle" style="max-width:1000px">Children need to know that they n make their own ways the world</h2><div class="flex prt-byle prt-mt-none"><div class="byle-wrapper flex-lumn flex"><div class="PJLV PJLV-ihSmMVC-css"><div class="PJLV PJLV-iPJLV-css mb-xxs overriStyl" style="gap:0.5rem" data-qa="thor-byle"><span class="wpds-c-PJLV"><div class="flex" data-qa="thor-byle"><div class="mr-sm flex lh-0"><div class="wpds-c-iTcer"><img src=" alt="" class="wpds-c-dgBqAZ"/></div></div><span class="left"><div class="flex"><div class="dib font-xxs mb-xxs" data-qa="name-wh-optnal-lk" data-cy="name-wh-optnal-lk"><span data-qa="attributn-text" class="wpds-c-cNdzuP">Perspective by <!-- --> </span><span data-qa="thor-name" rel="thor" class="wpds-c-cNdzuP wpds-c-cNdzuP-cIdiJW-isLk-false">Lren Rowello</span></div></div><span class="wpds-c-ewNrgJ thor-scriptn" data-qa="thor-scriptn">Lren Rowello is a wrer who liv the Philalphia area.</span></span></div></span></div></div><div data-ttid="timtamp" class="wpds-c-kgabfe wpds-c-kgabfe-ieEDlgV-css"><span data-ttid="display-date" class="wpds-c-iKQyrV">June 29, 2021 at 12:18 p.m. EDT</span></div></div></div></hear></div><article class="grid-article mb-xxl-ns" data-qa="ma"><div data-ttid="le-art" data-qa="le-art" class=""><figure class="overflow-hidn relative hi-for-prt center center mb-sm mb-md-ns ml-to-ns mr-to-ns grid-mobile-full-bleed"><div style="filter:blur(10px);transn:filter .1s;le-height:0" class="w-100 mw-100 h-to" width="600" height="400"><img style="background-size:ver;max-width:1600px;background-image:url('data:image/svg+xml;charset=utf-8,%3Csvg xmlns='http%3A//; xmlns%3Axlk='http%3A//; viewBox='0 0 1280 853'%3E%3Cfilter id='b' lor-terpolatn-filters='sRGB'%3E%3CfeGssianBlur stdDeviatn='.5'%3E%3C/feGssianBlur%3E%3CfeComponentTransfer%3E%3CfeFuncA type='discrete' tableValu='1 1'%3E%3C/feFuncA%3E%3C/feComponentTransfer%3E%3C/filter%3E%3Cimage filter='url(%23b)' x='0' y='0' height='100%25' width='100%25' xlk%3Ahref='data%3Aimage/png;base64,iVBORw0KGgoAAAANSUhEUgAAAAkAAAAGCAIAAACepSOSAAAACXBIWXMAAC4jAAAuIwF4pT92AAAAs0lEQVQI1wGoAFf/AImSoJSer5yjs52ktp2luJuluKOpuJefsoCNowB+kKaOm66grL+krsCnsMGrt8m1u8mzt8OVoLIAhJqzjZ2tnLLLnLHJp7fNmpyjqbPCqLrRjqO7AIeUn5ultaWtt56msaSnroZyY4mBgLq7wY6TmwCRfk2Pf1uzm2WulV+xmV6rmGyQfFm3nWSBcEIAfm46jX1FkH5Djn5AmodGo49MopBLlIRBfG8yj/dfjF5TUAAAAASUVORK5CYII='%3E%3C/image%3E%3C/svg%3E')" alt="" class="w-100 mw-100 h-to" width="600" height="400" srcSet=" 400w, 540w, 691w, 767w, 916w, 1200w" siz="(max-width: 440px) 440px,(max-width: 600px) 691px,(max-width: 768px) 691px,(m-width: 769px) and (max-width: 1023px) 960px,(m-width: 1024px) and (max-width: 1299px) 530px,(m-width: 1300px) and (max-width: 1439px) 691px,(m-width: 1440px) 916px,440px" dg="async"/></div><figptn class="ml-gutter mr-gutter mr-to-ns ml-to-ns font--subhead font-xxxs mt-xs left gray-dark">People gather and rally at the Queer Liberatn March on June 27 New York. 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She squeezed my hand, worried that she might n to a lleague or be harassed by a stranger. My wife is trans, and wasn’t out at the time, so she typilly only exprsed her thenticy the privacy of our home. That morng she wore a green skirt and light makp, bshg her hair all to one si. Even though we’d attend Pri march and protts prev years, that day was our first celebratg openly as a fay.</p></div></div><div></div><div class="article-body" data-qa="article-body"><div class="db dn-ns mr-neg-gutter ml-neg-gutter mb-md hi-for-prt" data-qa="subscribe-promo"><div data-orientatn="horizontal" role="separator" class="wpds-c-dbVHzF wpds-c-dbVHzF-hDkAcj-variant-flt"></div><a class="pt-sm pb-sm flex ems-center bold font-xxxs font-xxs-ns jtify-center" href=" target="_blank" rel="noreferrer noopener" style="lor:#166dfc;borr:none"><svg class="ntent-box" width="24" height="24" viewBox="0 0 24 24" xmlns=" aria-hidn="te" focable="false" role="img"><tle>Wp</tle><path d="M11.055 8.728l-1.018-1.019-.782.782v6.292l1.782 1.564.018-.019v-7.6zm-4.11.236L5.674 7.71l-.836.855v6.237l1.545 1.327.564-.636V8.964zm2.656 9.074l-2.528-2.182-1.927 2.182-2.619-2.255v-3.564h-.509c-.454 0-.672.273-.745.636H1.09a2.89 2.89 0 0 1-.091-.69c0-.473.2-1.71 1.527-1.71V7.691c0-1.073-.709-1.127-.709-2.054 0-1.037.982-2 2.782-2.637l.164.145c-.6.291-1.09.655-1.09 1.437 0 1.2 1.163.89 1.163 2.782v.727l2.127-2.236 2.237 2.2 2.109-2.2 2.036 2v6.728l-3.745 3.455zm11.108-9.625l-1.073-.982-.964 1.018v6.6c.855.11 1.491.4 2.019.964l.018-.018V8.413zm-2.382.418l-.528.545v10.237l.528.492V8.83zm1.49 9.055c-.308-.382-.69-.709-1.145-.836v3.782l-.036.018-1-.927-2.11 1.945-.036-.018V16.96c-.636.145-1.327.545-1.854 1.2l-.146-.091c.127-1.4.818-2.436 2-2.837v-3.545h-.382c-.527 0-.89.363-.963.763h-.219c-.054-.145-.127-.381-.127-.836 0-.891.6-1.564 1.582-1.564h.11V8.085l-.655-.582-.51.51-.254-.237 2.018-2.073 1.71 1.564V9.05l.527-.564v-2.09h.345v1.727l2.273-2.419L23 7.576v7.91l-3.182 2.4z" fill-le="evenodd"></path></svg><span class="mr-xs ml-xs gray-darkt flex ems-center">Get the full experience.<span class="ml-xs subs-theme blue">Choose your plan</span></span><svg class="ntent-box" width="16" height="16" viewBox="0 0 16 16" xmlns=" style="fill:#166dfc" aria-hidn="te" focable="false" role="img"><tle>ArrowRight</tle><path d="M7.664 1.25l6 6a1 1 0 010 1.414l-6 6L6.25 13.25 10.499 9H2V7h8.585L6.25 2.664 7.664 1.25z" fill-le="nonzero"></path></svg></a><div data-orientatn="horizontal" role="separator" class="wpds-c-dbVHzF wpds-c-dbVHzF-hDkAcj-variant-flt"></div></div></div><div class="article-body" data-qa="article-body"><p data-ttid="drop-p-letter" data-el="text" class="wpds-c-cYdRxM wpds-c-cYdRxM-iPJLV-css overriStyl font-py" dir="null">When our children grew tired of marchg, we plopped onto a nearby curb. Jt as we got settled, our elementary-schooler poted the directn of ong floats, raisg an eyebrow at a bare-chted man dark sunglass whose black spenrs clipped to a leather thong. The man psed to be spanked playfully by a partner wh a flog. “What are <i>they</i> dog?” my cur kid asked as our toddler cheered them on. The pair was the first of a few dozen kksters who danced down the street, lghg together as they twirled their whips and batons, some leadg panns by leash. At the time, my children were too young to unrstand the nuance of the suatn, but I told them the tth: That the folks were members of our muny celebratg who they are and what they like to do.</p></div><div class="article-body" data-qa="article-body"><p data-ttid="drop-p-letter" data-el="text" class="wpds-c-cYdRxM wpds-c-cYdRxM-iPJLV-css overriStyl font-py" dir="null">The kk muny has participated Pri sce s ceptn — riskg their jobs and safety to be thentilly themselv public. Still, every year as Pri Month approach, a <a href=">bate epts about whether kk belongs at Pri </a><a href=">at all</a>. Those hopg to ot kksters often ce the prence of children as their top ncern. That was potedly the se this year when Twter ers argued that kk at Pri is a <a href=">highly sexualized experience that children should be shield om</a>. <a href=">Thoands</a> of ers supported the posts, claimg that kk at Pri <a href=">cross a le</a> bee mors also attend events. I agree that Pri should be a welg space for children and teens, but policg how others show up don’t protect or uplift young people. Instead, homogenizg self-exprsn at Pri will do more harm to our children than good. When my own children ught glimps of kk culture, they got to see that the queer muny enpass so many more nontradnal ways of beg, livg, and lovg.</p></div><div class="article-body" data-qa="article-body"><p><span class="wpds-c-gnhuPA wpds-c-gnhuPA-hqeSyH-variant-terstial wpds-c-gnhuPA-iPJLV-css hi-for-prt"><a data-qa="terstial-lk" href=">The ph for LGBTQ equaly began long before Stonewall</a></span></p></div><div class="article-body" data-qa="article-body"><p data-ttid="drop-p-letter" data-el="text" class="wpds-c-cYdRxM wpds-c-cYdRxM-iPJLV-css overriStyl font-py" dir="null">As much as I want them to spend time queer spac so they n be wh fai like their own, I also want them to know that they shouldn’t lim their unrstandg of what relatnships or exprsn look like to whatever’s most faiar. I want them to see that they n make their own ways the world — and know that they’ll be supported and celebrated by their muny. If we want our children to learn and grow om their experienc at Pri, we should hope that they’ll enunter kk when they attend. How else n they learn about the spe and valy of queer life?</p></div><div class="article-body" data-qa="article-body"><div class="cb dn db-ns" data-qa="article-body-ad" data-ttid="article-body-ad-sktop"><div aria-hidn="te" class="hi-for-prt relative flex jtify-center ntent-box ems-center b bh mb-md mt-none pt-lg pb-lg" style="m-height:250px;borr-top-lor:;borr-bottom-lor:"><div class="center absolute w-100 borr-box" style="top:"><div class="dib gray-dark pl-xs pr-xs font-sans-serif light font-xxxxs lh-md" style="--primary-borr-lor:"></div></div><div data-ttid="placeholr-box" class="w-100 h-100 absolute flex flex-lumn jtify-center borr-box bg-offwhe" style="width:300px;height:250px"><div class="flex flex-lumn jtify-center font-sans-serif center font-xxs light gray-dark lh-md"><div>Advertisement</div></div></div></div></div></div><div class="article-body" data-qa="article-body"><div class="cb db dn-ns" data-qa="article-body-ad" data-ttid="article-body-ad-mobile"><div aria-hidn="te" class="hi-for-prt relative flex jtify-center ntent-box ems-center b bh mb-md mt-sm pt-sm pb-sm" style="m-height:250px;borr-top-lor:;borr-bottom-lor:"><div class="center absolute w-100 borr-box" style="top:"><div class="dib gray-dark pl-xs pr-xs font-sans-serif light font-xxxxs lh-md" style="--primary-borr-lor:"></div></div><div data-ttid="placeholr-box" class="w-100 h-100 absolute flex flex-lumn jtify-center borr-box bg-offwhe" style="width:300px;height:250px"><div class="flex flex-lumn jtify-center font-sans-serif center font-xxs light gray-dark lh-md"></div></div></div></div></div><div class="article-body" data-qa="article-body"><p data-ttid="drop-p-letter" data-el="text" class="wpds-c-cYdRxM wpds-c-cYdRxM-iPJLV-css overriStyl font-py" dir="null">Anti-kk advot tend to manipulate language about safety and privacy by assertg that atten are <a href=">nonnsensually exposed</a> to overt displays of sexualy. The most outrageo claim is that <a href=">nocent bystanrs are forced to participate kk simply by sharg space wh the kk muny</a>, as if the prence of kk at Pri is a perverse exhibn that kksters pursue for their own gratifitn. But kksters at Pri are not engaged sex acts — and we nnot nfe their self-exprsn wh obsceny. Co-optg the language of sexual tonomy only serv to bury that tth and muddi the serns of other nversatns about nsent. If this all sounds faiar, ’s bee anti-kk rhetoric echo the same socialized disgt people have projected onto other queer people when they claim that our love is not appropriate for public spac. It’s a sentiment that tolerat queerns only if stays wh parameters — offerg the kd of acceptance that wh a tch. The middle-aged, Whe men who I grew up wh said they were “fe” wh gay people as long as they wouldn’t be subjected to PDA — as long as all signs of queer love uld be outwardly erased. Queer people’s eedom to be themselv is, acrdg to this logic, ntgent on non-queer people’s eedom om exposure to .</p></div><div class="article-body" data-qa="article-body"><p><span class="wpds-c-gnhuPA wpds-c-gnhuPA-hqeSyH-variant-terstial wpds-c-gnhuPA-iPJLV-css hi-for-prt"><a data-qa="terstial-lk" href=">My spoe me out as trans. It didn't change a thg.</a></span></p></div><div class="article-body" data-qa="article-body"><p data-ttid="drop-p-letter" data-el="text" class="wpds-c-cYdRxM wpds-c-cYdRxM-iPJLV-css overriStyl font-py" dir="null">The arguable difference here is that many of the latt objectns are g om self-intified queer people, but that shouldn’t necsarily be surprisg. Rpectabily polics mand that queer people assiate as much as possible to cis- and heteronormativy, hewg to mastream cultural standards. Members of the queer muny have ternalized those norms to the pot that we judge ourselv by them, and then cricize and ostracize others if they don’t uphold them, too. This is the same opprsive msage that prevented my wife om transng for 30 years, and the same msage that still keeps margalized children om g to terms wh their own experienc wh sire and embodiment.</p></div><div class="article-body" data-qa="article-body"><p data-ttid="drop-p-letter" data-el="text" class="wpds-c-cYdRxM wpds-c-cYdRxM-iPJLV-css overriStyl font-py" dir="null">Children who wns kk culture are reassured that alternative experienc of sexualy and exprsn are valid — no matter who they bee as they mature, helpg them regnize that their personal experienc aren’t bad or wrong, and that they aren’t alone their experienc. I n’t thk of a more relevant or important remr for youth, who often stggle wh feelgs of isolatn and nfn as they disver more about themselv and wrtle wh ncerns about whether they’re normal enough. Includg kk Pri opens space for fai to have necsary and powerful nversatns wh young people about health, safety, nsent, and — most uniquely — pleasure. Kk visibily is a remr that any person n and should shamelsly explore what brgs joy and excement. We don’t talk to our children enough about pursug sex to fulfill rnal needs that light and ptivate the moment. Sharg the language of kk culture wh young people provis them wh valuable rmatn about safe sex practic — such as the importance of tablishg boundari, safe words and signals, affirmg the importance of planng and rearch and the need to seek and give enthiastic nsent. I never want my children to worry that explorg any aspect of nsensual sex or touch is too taboo.</p></div><div class="article-body" data-qa="article-body"><div class="cb dn db-ns" data-qa="article-body-ad" data-ttid="article-body-ad-sktop"><div aria-hidn="te" class="hi-for-prt relative flex jtify-center ntent-box ems-center b bh mb-md mt-none pt-lg pb-lg" style="m-height:250px;borr-top-lor:;borr-bottom-lor:"><div class="center absolute w-100 borr-box" style="top:"><div class="dib gray-dark pl-xs pr-xs font-sans-serif light font-xxxxs lh-md" style="--primary-borr-lor:"></div></div><div data-ttid="placeholr-box" class="w-100 h-100 absolute flex flex-lumn jtify-center borr-box bg-offwhe" style="width:300px;height:250px"><div class="flex flex-lumn jtify-center font-sans-serif center font-xxs light gray-dark lh-md"><div>Advertisement</div></div></div></div></div></div><div class="article-body" data-qa="article-body"><div class="cb db dn-ns" data-qa="article-body-ad" data-ttid="article-body-ad-mobile"><div aria-hidn="te" class="hi-for-prt relative flex jtify-center ntent-box ems-center b bh mb-md mt-sm pt-sm pb-sm" style="m-height:250px;borr-top-lor:;borr-bottom-lor:"><div class="center absolute w-100 borr-box" style="top:"><div class="dib gray-dark pl-xs pr-xs font-sans-serif light font-xxxxs lh-md" style="--primary-borr-lor:"></div></div><div data-ttid="placeholr-box" class="w-100 h-100 absolute flex flex-lumn jtify-center borr-box bg-offwhe" style="width:300px;height:250px"><div class="flex flex-lumn jtify-center font-sans-serif center font-xxs light gray-dark lh-md"></div></div></div></div></div><div class="article-body" data-qa="article-body"><p data-ttid="drop-p-letter" data-el="text" class="wpds-c-cYdRxM wpds-c-cYdRxM-iPJLV-css overriStyl font-py" dir="null">If we’re aaid to talk about kk wh our children, we prrize the stat quo — sanizg and censorg their accs to rmatn about appropriate and normal self-exprsn. The are the very attus that ma Pri necsary — and life-affirmg — for so many of the first place, and we have no bs imposg them on the next generatn. Kk embodi the eedom that Pri stands for, remdg atten to unapologetilly take up space as an act of ristance and celebratn — refg to bend to social prsure that asks to be prentable. That’s a value I want my children to learn. Affirmg the kk muny helps our children to love themselv and others wh urage and rilience. If my wife and I had seen such fierce and termed role mols as young people, we might have learned to be ourselv much sooner. We didn’t have that chance, but my children have that muny Pri, and I want to keep that way.</p></div><div class="wpds-c-jkoBlc wpds-c-jkoBlc-leHWbT-removeAllStyl-te"><div class="wpds-c-dhzjXW wpds-c-dhzjXW-iPJLV-css overriStyl mt-md tt"><div id="gift-share-end" data-ttid="gift-share-end" class="PJLV PJLV-idiqKOk-css hi-for-prt"><button aria-haspopup="dialog" aria-expand="false" aria-ntrols="gift-share-drawer" role="button" tabx="0" aria-label="Share this article" id="gift-share-drawer-ntrol-end" data-ttid="gift-share-drawer-ntrol-end" class="wpds-c-PJLV wpds-c-gsmDXe wpds-c-gsmDXe-iIVoLq-placement-Shortcut foc-highlight"><div class="wpds-c-UazGY" id="gift-share-shortcut" data-ttid="gift-share-shortcut"><svg xmlns=" fill="var(--wpds-lors-primary)" viewBox="0 0 16 16" aria-hidn="te" focable="false" role="img" class="wpds-c-fVfumU "><path fill="currentColor" d="M8 .6v3.8h.1c-4.4 0-7.3 4.5-6.9 8.8.1.8.2 1.2.2 1.2l.2 1 .4-1.3c.8-2 2-4 6.2-3.9H8v4l7-6.9L8 .6Zm1 11.3V9.3h-.9c-3 0-4.8.5-6.2 2.9.5-3.3 2.7-6.8 6.2-6.8H9V3l4.5 4.4L9 11.9Z"></path></svg><div class="PJLV wpds-c-kwcHlj">Share</div></div></button></div><div class="wpds-c-hcekgi"><div class="mb-lg-mod" data-qa="ments-btn-div"><button aria-label="Scroll to the ments sectn" data-qa="ments-btn" class="wpds-c-kSOqLF wpds-c-kSOqLF-SQjOY-variant-sendary wpds-c-kSOqLF-eHdizY-nsy-flt wpds-c-kSOqLF-ejCoEP-in-left wpds-c-kSOqLF-igqYgPb-css ments hi-for-prt"><svg xmlns=" viewBox="0 0 16 16" fill="currentColor" aria-hidn="te" focable="false" role="img" class="wpds-c-fBqPWp "><path d="M14 14V2H2v9.47h8.18L12.43 13ZM3 10.52V3h10v9.23l-2.5-1.66Z"></path></svg><span></span> Comments</button></div></div></div><div class="PJLV PJLV-iipsdti-css"><div></div></div><div class="PJLV PJLV-iipsdti-css"><div></div></div><sectn class="PJLV PJLV-icEohIP-css dn-ns hi-for-prt" data-ttid="mostRead" subscriptns-sectn="ntent"><div data-ttid="lazy-most-read-parent" class=""><div style="m-height:800px"></div></div></sectn><div class="PJLV PJLV-ickXkbz-css"><div data-qa="newsletter" class="hi-for-prt relative"><div class="dib w-100"><div><div class="flex jtify-center align self-center center transn-all duratn-400 ease--out" data-qa="sc-newsletter-signup" aria-label=""><svg aria-labelledby="react-aria-1-aria" role="img" viewBox="0 0 100 80"><tle id="react-aria-1-aria">Loadg....

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