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Gay datg s are more than jt Grdr and Scff! Here we look at ee gay datg s, lbian datg apps, queer/non-bary onle datg webs, and more. The 14 bt datg apps for men, women, and people the LGBTQ+ muny.

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GAY "SIS": HOW LANGUAGE FRE US TO BE OURSELV

Wele to the "siverse," which gay men don't engage peratn. * gay side *

“I ntributed a term to the gay male muny.

SI GUYS: THKG BEYOND GAY MALE "TOPS" AND "BOTTOMS"

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Gay men are always fg themselv as top and bottom or verse for terurse. What about gay men who don’t engage terurse?

A third add: “Personally I’m not crazy about the term ‘si’ (sounds to me like someone lyg there, dog not much) but ’s good that Grdr acknowledg that there’s more to gay sex than anal. The gay male datg app, Grdr, recently add the sexual preference I created beyond jt top, bottom, and vers when to gay men engagg terurse: "si. That’s what happened 2013 when, an article I wrote for the Huffgton Post, “Guys on the Si, ” I created the term “si” for gay men who aren’t to beg a “top” or a “bottom” or practicg anal peratn.

I’M GAY AND I’M NOT A TOP OR A BOTTOM – I’M A ‘SI’

There's nothg like a good gay photo. You n hardly turn around a gallery whout bumpg to a photo that was eher snapped by a queer person or one for a subject: om Calyn Jenner's portra by Annie Leibovz to the provotive works of Robert Mapplethorpe to the geni of Andy Warhol, Cathere Opie, and Pierre and Gill. Maybe there's somethg queer about the photograph, the transformatn om a subject to an object a flash. Or maybe all our years of takg selfi for Grdr prepared for the job. In any se, what mak the gay photo gay is the look levels at the viewer: We are ed to beg seen, but now we n look back. * gay side *

Bee up until that time the gay muny, havg “real sex” was only about peratn. And most gay male circl, this is still the se.

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The term “Si” was created when 2010, I was talkg wh some lleagu about “tops” (gay men who prefer the sertive role durg peratn) and “bottoms” (gay men who prefer the receptive role durg peratn) and outed myself for beg a gay man who don’t engage anal terurse at all. Beg a “top, ” “bottom, ” or “vers” (short for "versatile, " or someone who uld go eher way) were the only acceptable mols the gay muny, and I felt dissed for not ftg to the mold.

About a year and a half ago I formed a Facebook group lled “Si Guys” and some of the guys the group started a petn to Grdr, the gay datg app, to add “si” to their list of preferred posns and filters. And now that Grdr has updated s settgs, gay men are addg as a sexual posn to their app self-intifyg as a si. It’s been around forever—but we jt didn’t have a snappy term to scribe the gay muny.

Back 2011, an article was published the Journal of Sexual Medice which rearchers surveyed 25, 000 gay and bisexual men Ameri about their most recent sexual enunters, and only 36 percent said they had bottomed, and 34 percent said they had topped.

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