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Contents:
- GAY "SIS": HOW LANGUAGE FRE US TO BE OURSELV
- SI GUYS: THKG BEYOND GAY MALE "TOPS" AND "BOTTOMS"
- I’M GAY AND I’M NOT A TOP OR A BOTTOM – I’M A ‘SI’
- THE TOP LGBTQ+ DATG S AND APPS: 14 BT GAY DATG S
GAY "SIS": HOW LANGUAGE FRE US TO BE OURSELV
Wele to the "siverse," which gay men don't engage peratn. * gay side *
“I ntributed a term to the gay male muny. Gay men are always fg themselv as top and bottom or verse for terurse.
What about gay men who don’t engage terurse? A third add: “Personally I’m not crazy about the term ‘si’ (sounds to me like someone lyg there, dog not much) but ’s good that Grdr acknowledg that there’s more to gay sex than anal.
The gay male datg app, Grdr, recently add the sexual preference I created beyond jt top, bottom, and vers when to gay men engagg terurse: "si.
SI GUYS: THKG BEYOND GAY MALE "TOPS" AND "BOTTOMS"
Gay datg s are more than jt Grdr and Scff! Here we look at ee gay datg s, lbian datg apps, queer/non-bary onle datg webs, and more. The 14 bt datg apps for men, women, and people the LGBTQ+ muny. * gay side *
That’s what happened 2013 when, an article I wrote for the Huffgton Post, “Guys on the Si, ” I created the term “si” for gay men who aren’t to beg a “top” or a “bottom” or practicg anal peratn.
Bee up until that time the gay muny, havg “real sex” was only about peratn. And most gay male circl, this is still the se. The term “Si” was created when 2010, I was talkg wh some lleagu about “tops” (gay men who prefer the sertive role durg peratn) and “bottoms” (gay men who prefer the receptive role durg peratn) and outed myself for beg a gay man who don’t engage anal terurse at all.
I’M GAY AND I’M NOT A TOP OR A BOTTOM – I’M A ‘SI’
There's nothg like a good gay photo. You n hardly turn around a gallery whout bumpg to a photo that was eher snapped by a queer person or one for a subject: om Calyn Jenner's portra by Annie Leibovz to the provotive works of Robert Mapplethorpe to the geni of Andy Warhol, Cathere Opie, and Pierre and Gill. Maybe there's somethg queer about the photograph, the transformatn om a subject to an object a flash. Or maybe all our years of takg selfi for Grdr prepared for the job. In any se, what mak the gay photo gay is the look levels at the viewer: We are ed to beg seen, but now we n look back. * gay side *
Beg a “top, ” “bottom, ” or “vers” (short for "versatile, " or someone who uld go eher way) were the only acceptable mols the gay muny, and I felt dissed for not ftg to the mold. About a year and a half ago I formed a Facebook group lled “Si Guys” and some of the guys the group started a petn to Grdr, the gay datg app, to add “si” to their list of preferred posns and filters. And now that Grdr has updated s settgs, gay men are addg as a sexual posn to their app self-intifyg as a si.
It’s been around forever—but we jt didn’t have a snappy term to scribe the gay muny. Back 2011, an article was published the Journal of Sexual Medice which rearchers surveyed 25, 000 gay and bisexual men Ameri about their most recent sexual enunters, and only 36 percent said they had bottomed, and 34 percent said they had topped. Nearly 65 percent of gay and bisexual men didn’t have terurse as part of their most recent sexual experience at all.
THE TOP LGBTQ+ DATG S AND APPS: 14 BT GAY DATG S
Furthermore, a si n be a gay male, a bisexual male, a pansexual male, or fall unr the ace umbrella (asexual male/graysexual male/misexual male, etc. Dennis Fortenberry MD, MS Sexual Behavrs and Suatnal Characteristics of Most Recent Male-Partnered Sexual Event among Gay and Bisexually Intified Men the Uned Stat.
Gay men who intify as a "si". When to sex, whether you’re gay, bi, or straight, we’ve all been a ltle brawashed to believg that there is this thg lled “normal. In the gay male muny, ually, you’re eher nsired to be a “top, ” the perator, or a “bottom, ” the perated, or you’re versatile (n go eher way).
For stance, thk about datg apps for gay men. But what if you’re a gay man who don’t enjoy anal sex or fds anal peratn paful, don’t like the feelg or the troublome amount of preparatn and cleang up need for to be a pleasurable experience, or simply don’t experience anal sex as erotic? That’s why a 2013 article I wrote for Huffgton Post, "Guys on the ‘Si’: Lookg Beyond Gay Tops and Bottoms, " I began workg on popularizg the term “si” orr for the gay men to have the language to exprs their sexual and erotic preference.