In this DVD, Douglas C. Halman monstrat his eclectic, relatnship-foced approach to therapy wh gay men.
Contents:
- COGNIVE-BEHAVRAL THERAPY WH GAY, LBIAN, AND BISEXUAL CLIENTS
- OPTG FOR GAY COUPL COUNSELG? HERE ARE 4 THGS TO KEEP IN MD
- WORKG WH GAY MALE CLIENTS
COGNIVE-BEHAVRAL THERAPY WH GAY, LBIAN, AND BISEXUAL CLIENTS
Michael Chaney knew om a very young age that he was gay, a fact that meant he also had years to procs what meant to be gay * counseling homosexual clients *
But many have a gapg hole their knowledge: The sid role that ternalized homophobia plays many of the people’s liv. When same-sex attractn is supprsed, homophobia, biphobia, or transphobia often bee ternalized, leadg to lifelong feelgs of self-loathg and shame. There are many clu to ternalized homophobia that a therapist more wily ted about LGBTQ issu n pick up.
In other words, his assumptn is that “straight-actg” means more mascule, ls likely to be seen as gay than if the person was more effemate. There is nothg wrong wh preferrg someone who is overtly mascule, but llg “straight-actg” rather than “mascule actg” is a form of ternalized homophobia. Younger lennial gay men are creasgly sayg they are lookg for “alpha men, ” which is more acceptable.
An LGBTQ client voic disda for livg a neighborhood suffed wh other gays, lbians, or transgenr people, often lled a “gayborhood”—“I don’t know why they all want to live around each other! To bat this ternalized homophobia, I will often ask my LGBTQ clients who exprs this if they have disda for neighborhoods that have cltered ethnic groups, to which they often say “no, ” and that they unrstand people wantg to be near their relig stutns, schools, rtrants and raise their kids neighborhoods that foster a sense of belongg.
OPTG FOR GAY COUPL COUNSELG? HERE ARE 4 THGS TO KEEP IN MD
Cognive-behavral therapy (CBT) n be adapted to a wi range of clil difficulti and prentg problems that face lbians, gay men, and bisexual persons. The followg article prents general guil for and two se exampl of the e of CBT. The first se is a gay male stgglg … * counseling homosexual clients *
For one, a sense of belongg is an important aspect of mental health, but there is not a lot of feelg of muny among LGBTQ folks—pecially wh bisexual and transgenr people who are often shunned and rejected by gays and lbians. To challenge their homophobia, therapists need to pot out some hopeful signs, such as lennials and younger LGBTQ folks general beg more acceptg of other muni.
On the other hand, there are some posiv about beg LGBTQ: Gays often make their own l about monogamy, and open relatnships are wily accepted and appear to be que healthy. Gays tend to be more sexually cur, and more open about their lik and dislik the bedroom, somethg that straight upl stggle wh. There is even rearch by John Gottman showg that gay and lbian upl do better than straight upl reverg om fights wh their partners, rolvg their issu more quickly.
Stori about parents fully acceptg their child’s news, much to the surprise of the LGBTQ person, are legn, and reluctance to burng their parents n also be a screen for the person not beg acceptg of themselv… aga, ternalized homophobia. There is a wily held view that the gay male muny is too sexual (read “oversexed” or “sex-addicts”).
WORKG WH GAY MALE CLIENTS
if you are seekg gay upl unselg, there uld be var issu you might face the procs. Here are a few problems addrsed when you wish to approach gay upl unselor. * counseling homosexual clients *
It is te that gay men have a higher equency of sexual ntacts than straight men, but I believe is bee heterosexual men have to seek out relatnships wh women, who are, for good reason, more reticent than men to take risks. Regnizg ternalized homophobia requir some work, cludg examg one’s own buried prejudic and assumptns, but the rult n mean far more effective unselg for our LGBTQ clients.
Although a person’s sexual or romantic orientatn or genr inty may not be a source of distrs, people who intify as lbian, gay, bisexual, transgenr, queer, qutng, asexual, or any other orientatn or genr inty may fd that the social stigma of livg as a mory is a source of strs or anxiety. The current acronym reprents those who are lbian, gay, bisexual, transgenr, queer and qutng, tersex, and asexual.